I always thought that life has something good to offer but at this point I question my existence, being a victim of se#ual assault all my life it was hard for me to trust a guy and when i finally fell in love with a guy , it's sad that he too assaulted and cheated on me. IS IT ME? am i the problem here ?? Not all guys are bad right ? Do i make them do this to me ? I have a lot many questions and no ans He made me feel i deserved it I can't figure out anything and everything scares me like hell

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I can relate to your story as I have gone through sexual assault trauma from the time I was a child. However, I think it's important that you see your worth as a beautiful woman and realize that there are monsters that prey on the innocent, and the good heart people of this world. They take our love and light for granted and the dark within them feels threatened by our light, so they'll do whatever to snuff it out. I've had to over come all the negative self talk and guilt and shame over my trauma because it threatened to consume me. I was angry and let it rage within me. I hated society and everyone who didn't want or know how to help me. I took a while for me to come to terns with the injustice of it all and learn how to let go and forgive, not them but myself. I had to accept what happened and learn from the situation. It was hard but I am finally free of my trauma. I blamed myself for so long when in fact I did nothing wrong. I am still worthy of love and all things great. What they did doesn't define who I am and neither does it define you. You are perfectly imperfect and there is nothing wrong with you. You'll heal, and learn to trust and forgive in time and when the healing starts, the universe will deliver everything to you that is meant to be. You do not lack. I am here for support whenever you need to talk. I understand. I too was there not so long ago

Balaji

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Don't let feelings take over you. Just go by your instincts. You deserve better.

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Improve your selection criteria of guys that you go for. That should help avoid or reduce getting bad guy next time. Good luck.

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I'm a male and I was sexually assaulted I feel your pain we are not all bad I have been thru a lot of trauma but I keep going forward I may stumble and fall but you have to get back up don't let them have space in your head don't let them control what you do with your life I had to learn this myself I'm here if you ever want or need someone to listen

Aviral Dixit

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Don't think that you are the problem Ek cheez kahi hai kisi ne " Ye waqt bhi guzar jaega" So bharosa rakho and be strong, this will also pass soon

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Gemini

I'm so sorry you had to go through it, Tia. Nobody deserves to go through that...not all guys are bad, I'm sure you'd find the right one, someone who'll treat you like a queen.. feel free to reach out to me if you want to vent out to someone. Stay strong, dear. Hugs

SKa

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Virgo

Healing from trauma and what haunts us is key, coz we end up walking in situations that need priority to fix ourselves in our heads - as a walking talking lesson. Because we can only be responsible for our own actions.

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