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Irene
Irene

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INFP

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Submission to your man doesn't mean you are a weak woman

There are many women who see anything a man does or requests in a relationship as control. They're always hyper alert against the man, seeing his leadership as oppressive. On the one hand, they want companionship and a happy union, but they're at war with the concept of submitting to a man. They want love on their own terms. 'Love me, but don't tell me anything. Marry me but also leave me alone. Give me all the privileges of being your wife, but don't expect me to fit in that position in your life. I can't trust you, but I want you to trust me.' Sometimes, they even introduce the dynamic of fifty-fifty sharing of costs just to feel like they're an equal. The truth is that these women have a phobia of trusting a man and resting under his leadership. Many of them were traumatised by their parent's marriage or their own past relationships. They never sit to unpack what happened and get over it. Instead, they project their unhealed wounds onto their subsequent relationships. What are the results? She will simply never have satisfying relationships. A good man is a leader. He doesn't dictate everything or belittle the woman. He incorporates her as a partner, but he remains in front, making decisions and taking responsibility for the outcomes. The woman feels both involved and protected. Leadership requires authority or room to lead. But she can't give that to a man. She's constantly meddling and arguing with his decisions. Most men will fade out of her life as soon as they come. She will then turn to weak and feeble men who have no energy for leadership and are usually looking for someone to leech on. She will have short stints with these men who don't bring any authority or leadership in the dynamic. But she will keep getting frustrated because she'll be playing both male and female in the dynamic. The only solution is to heal and return to your secure femininity as a lady. Master the two energies of Queen and Princess, which define the female identity. As a queen, you're a mother-bear with territorial presence and influence over your own household. You manage your home and exercise complete monopoly over the female needs of your husband. You govern the affairs of your home with wisdom and presence. As a princess, you allow yourself to be spoilt. You take the lower position under your man and let him lead. Let him spoil you with affection and pamper you with love. You tune into your own beauty and turn on your sunshine. You bring aesthetic sense and sensuality to your relationship and your home. A queen is a strong female both for her own home and the business world out there. A princess, on the other hand, is a sunny girl enjoying life and relishing her man's affection. Her body is sacred. It is the jewel and fragrance that brings depth and emotions to their union. To this end, she maintains her body as pristine and nourished as possible. She's aware of her specialness. She can not abuse it with alcohol or casual sex. You will know you've attained healthy femininity when you can switch between queen energy and princess energy without escapism into competition with men and defensiveness. (edited)

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Irene
Irene

3mo

INFP

Taurus

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It's so nice to be lead as one submits as a woman and gives the support

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Robert
Robert

3mo

ESFJ

Taurus

A man should lead... but both should be going in the same direction in the first place.

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Acey
Acey

3mo

ISTJ

Sagittarius

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Yeah, I have no problem being submissive in the same way to a woman. But that by no means means I'm weak. It's just what I desire.

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Nya
Nya

3mo

INFJ

Cancer

100% agree, it needed to be said. Thank you 💪 💯

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Peter
Peter

3mo

ISFJ

Pisces

Lots of true words. But I also think that the problem today is that a “woman” has to be “emancipated”! And as such, you obviously can't "submit" to a man. Or if you have to subordinate it, then do it but rather another woman, but a man, is just not possible. Another problem is our “throwaway society”. If something was repaired earlier, sometimes with a lot of effort, That's what they say today: "Throw away, buy new!". Unfortunately, the same is true with relationships. Instead of working on the relationship and maintaining it together "Repair", at least one person "doesn't want to go to the trouble"! So throw in the trash with the relationship and Looking for something new (hopefully) better. Sorry for the bad English, written in German and translated by Google. :)

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Yaara
Yaara

3mo

ENFP

Virgo

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I have some agreement with what you have said. I require a partner. Not a leader. I think the word 'submission' is problematic. I am not a sheep, I need no shepard. Language and word choice matters. To me, a relationship is about balance. When he is weaker, I step up, when I am, he does. We work together as equals and communicate well. We both make suggestions and make choices together. We walk hand in hand as a united front. We both feel protected and understood. Appreciated and valued as equals. I have never met a man who wanted to be the "leader" and wanted me to "submit" that wasn't selfish and just expecting me to follow what he wanted to do. To be just a pretty thing on his arm. Men who use this language are the ones I leave behind.

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Davide
Davide

3mo

INFJ

Aries

Nobody have to be submitted, nobody never

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SunsetLtd
SunsetLtd

3mo

INFJ

Aries

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Some people prefer different relationship dynamics or think differently about gender and gender roles, and it's so nice that there are a variety of different ways people can approach and be in relationships 🙂

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Ильдар

1mo

INFP

Sagittarius

You best baby 😘

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