Cat

Posted Wednesday, November 8, 2023

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Does anyone still believe in romance or is it really gone?

I have a huge heart. Falling in love is a huge thing and if it happens I’m all in and want to show the world. Are there others that are like this or is it rare?

Does anyone still <a href="/u/believe" class="transition linked-keyword" target="_blank">believe</a> in <a href="/u/romance" class="transition linked-keyword" target="_blank">romance</a> or is <a href="/u/it" class="transition linked-keyword" target="_blank">it</a> really gone?

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Jen

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My first reaction was that romance is dead but I'd like to think it still exists. I'm still very much a romantic and if I can keep it alive, I'm hoping others do to. It's just seems rare these days.

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Daniel

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I believe romance still exists, it's just hard to find someone who wants to connect in a deeper level instead of just physical.

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Cat

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Very true! Superficial love seems rampant

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P

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It might exist but it's not important that our partner would express it as much as we do, so better having no expectations.

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Cat

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That’s an interesting way of thinking about it. So you feel that unreciprocated romance can work in a relationship?

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@Cat one can only love a person if one accepts them as they are, moreover if one has no expectations, it'll be fine. Or perhaps the other person might change for you, really depends on how both of them are together and what all they can do for each other.

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Shri 420

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U r a lier 😅. Do you agree 😆

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Jason

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I don’t know much about romance but I’m willing to bet there are tons of people out there who would want to do things like candle lit dinners and stargazing and other sorts of romantic stuff

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Cat

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I think so too, I believe that maybe it’s just few and far between

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Tye

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I think it's rare. I love being single, but I leave space in my heart for a Hallmark movie to unfold in my future.

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Cat

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I completely understand that. I too don’t mind being single in fact in a lot of ways it is much easier but there’s always an opening for someone good!

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Cory

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I think it's rare... And the ones that are left are hurt and don't want to risk the heartbreak again

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Cat

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And that saddens me but I do so understand. There’s only so much a perosn can take before trust is broken

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Cory

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@Cat it's true... I know my trust in people is completely ruined at this point

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Cat

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@Cory trust is a hard part of it as well. So very many people are left with longstanding hurt and with broken trust. Also I feel like when we admit it’s hard to trust others then you are automatically labeled as a negative. “Trust Issues” and then that causes a further divide. A lot of labeling now has been detrimental

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Cory

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@Cat spot on! Some of those "trust issues" just become standards you hold people to instead

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Cat

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Benji

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We may not be in the age of romance of lore but romance still lingers, people just need to find the right inspirations through poetry, songs, literature, theatre. Or maybe plain old romcoms.. we're very much influenced by our environment and choices.

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Cat

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I like the way you worded that. Romance still lingers. Love it.

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Rich

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It's not dead. The internet and gaming are responsible for its downfall however. Look at today's dating vs just 3 decades (longer ago for some of us). You meet someone at school or mall or friends introduction. Go to a movie and cruising Friday night. Maybe 'parking' for a while to make out before she has go home by eleven o'clock. Today we swipe based upon a photograph or two, perhaps reading the bio and hope it's a mutual "like" but keep scrolling. You text for days (we used to use a telephone to talk with someone) and then one either ghosts or neither one has time to meet in person.

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Cat

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You are quite right. Things have drastically changed in courtship. I often feel that there’s been a backslide of morals and loyalty as well. What are your thoughts?

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Rich

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@Cat I still seek that mental connection and love the feeling that almost consumes you when you do find it. Pure bliss.

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Cat

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@Rich yes! That’s always a phenomenal thing to achieve!

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Dave

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And I'm just wanting that kind of love again 💞

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Cat

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Keep holding out! As we’ve seen in the replies the ones who believe in it are indeed out there :)

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Dave

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I absolutely believe in romance still but now a days seems like a lot of people don't believe

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Cat

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That’s what I find interesting. So many don’t feel that or want it and I wonder if it may just die out?

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Dave

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@Cat yes ma'am I wonder that too and I really hope it doesn't die out. Because without romance there's pretty much no.love

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Florin

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I think it's lost in some parts of the world. The countries that are more advanced, like US, UK, France, Germany, etc. people focus on careers and earning money far too much and forget about the idea of love. Luckily, I've learned what love is and I am still chasing romance. Kinda difficult nowadays,but I still have hope

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Cat

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Absolutely. I think a lot of it is time too. I know being a single mama, owning a farm, working full time, volunteering and finishing my Grad degree leaves me with not a lot of time. That and I don’t do the bar scene.

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Florin

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@Cat you won't find men able of romance in the "bar scene" anyway :)) but you should feel content. Having a farm, having kids. Your life picture seems almost complete, the right man for you would be just a bonus :)) and good luck with that

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Cat

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@Florin thank you so much! And yes I agree I don’t know if any long standing romances that were made in a bar!

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Florin

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@Cat try your luck in a library:)) or anywhere geeks are still hiding :)))

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Cat

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@Florin see yes! That’s my style! Give me a dad bod, big heart and a love of books kinda guy 😂

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Florin

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@Cat sounds like too perfect to be found 🤣🤣🤣

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Cat

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@Florin no! I will not give up hope!! 😂♥️

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Tyler

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Humans are a heard animal. So please note that if you are feeling a certain way about something, or if you believe in a certain concept. Then there is a multitude of other people out there who are seeking the same thing you are. Never give up.

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Cat

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Oh no, I know. However it’s more of a question of whether or not there is thought that perhaps romance is part of a bygone era and we are seeing the erosion of it in the masses

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Marcus

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I truly believe romances still o at the world slightly different. Because I have high-functioning autism. And I think that It's about what we are. Society might have lost romance but individuals still have it in their heand if we lost it. I think we truly would regret. Besides without it, we wouldn't be a true shame upush it forward. Help it out and have a good time doing it.🤠😁💝

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Cat

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That’s a good way too describe it!

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Devon Nicholson

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I certainly hope so. I've done what I've felt was falling in love but I have been wrong. Still hopeful all my wrong choices will lead to the right one.

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Cat

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Perhaps you didn’t have wrong choices, maybe they were life lessons to teach you before finding your person?

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Devon Nicholson

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@Cat I want to think that but that gives life too much credit 😄. I missed red flags cause I was wearing rose tinted glasses. Honestly though, If I am being fair to myself they very well could be lessons but I'm still wrestling with what I was actually supposed to learn.

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Cat

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@Devon Nicholson I definitely hear you. It is hard sometimes to see the lesson in relationships that didn’t work. For me sometimes the lesson was prominent and others it took going to Therapy to learn more about myself to understand.

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Devon Nicholson

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@Cat That last part has been a trial. I was actually very upset with myself on the way back to therapy because it felt like "We're back here again? I thought we improved? Why did this relationship go the way it did? Am I reacting reasonably?" I shouldn't be upset about taking steps to heal but it felt, at time, defeated.

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Cat

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@Devon Nicholson I think you have a big heart and a deep soul and that’s why it sits heavy with you. I’m a Therapist and I can see a lot shallowness in people but those who have deep souls tend to overthink. I know I do too.

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Michelle Williams

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I think it's just us Pisces that love that hard. Everyone else throws "love" around like it's nothing.

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Cat

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We do love on a deep scale don’t we?

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Michelle Williams

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@Cat We sure do, we love with our entire heart and entire soul. 😭

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V

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You may have not gotten 70 plus replies if you were a guy. So the question is how truthful are the folks here replying to this post?

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Cat

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Well that’s not the conversation of this post. I was just curious of everyone’s overall views on the subject. And it’s going respectfully well so far. I enjoy listening to what others think about the question.

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Neil

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Well I believe in it, just don't seem to see it much, which is such a shame. I suppose it could be a time thing as we are all so busy.

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Cat

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I do agree. I know for myself just having time to breathe some days doesn’t seem possible. But what’s the old adage? Love will find a way?

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Neil

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@Cat I do hope you find time to breathe, that could be a bigger problem haha. Oh yes, well said though, love will always find a way :)

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Pat

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I'm sure it's out there. Where though who knows lol

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Cat

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I will keep hoping so :)

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Fer

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Whole truckloads

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Shri 420

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Let's figure it out together ❤️

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Cat

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I think that’s what we are all doing here. Feel free to join the conversation!

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Shri 420

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@Cat I have never been in love 😽. I do not have any idea about it. So can you please define it for me..😉

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James f

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Cat

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So you don’t believe in romance at all?

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James f

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@Cat no

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