Bestie tells me to drop the Anime and witchcraft(I’m Wiccan)

Question

Im a M 27 years old and single. My bestie F 27 and been in a relationship for 7 years is trying to give me tips on helping me find a good woman. She wants me to drop the anime and put away my Pokémon plushies. She suggest i get a shelf to have them on display in a neat row. She wants me to get rid of my pokemon tapistry too.

I understand she is trying to help me find someone but I don’t want to be woth someone who doesn’t at least acknowledge my likes. I also not dropping the witch craft. Thats part of who I am and things I like to do. I want to be with someone who accepts me for who I am. Someone I can be myself around. I would like to find someone who is also into Anime and/or witchcraft. I’m Wiccan.

Her answer to me is that im just limiting myself and need to drop these things. Shes into anime butbshe dosent make it known. I don’t think she has any idea how much I like anime.

If i got rid of these things then I wouldn’t be myself. I don’t want to hide who I am from someone just because they will reject me.

Thoughts, feedback, criticism, experiences welcomed.

Eva · Accepted Answer

If a person loves you, they will love your Pokemon too

Obi · Answer

Yeah, don't hide or shelf stuff. Especially things like your religion or interests. Those are important things.

Jacqs · Answer

You will find true love if you just be yourself.  Do not change who you are or you will not find the right person for you ok.  Be yourself. Be happy. Be healthy and enjoy life and they will very pulled to you.  I am much older and I love anime.  Good luck

Amy · Answer

Keep everything that makes you you. My kids would love to hang out with someone who loves anime and Pokemon. Add in any manga and you have made your way into kids’ hearts then into their parent’s heart.

Nathan · Answer

I think a better way your friend might have put it would be to try to ease someone into it, rather than put it all out there all at once. That said, how many dates do you have that end up at your place? I also don't know the size of your collection either, but that is a nice tapestry. Could be an issue of interior design, depending on its placement. Just trying to throw possibilities out there, as I don't know your friend. It's entirely possible that she has someone in mind for you, and doesn't want them overwhelmed right away.

Gady · Answer

I wish I had a friend to tell me hard truths the best friends are those who are honest with you, (she is wrong but I appreciate the honesty)

Gee · Answer

Maybe your bestie should have stepped up...🤷🏾‍♂️

gore · Answer

You doing good, bestie is a bit weird, imagine changing for someone. I mean you can always improve yourself, but not abandon your hobbies to please someone else.

Gee · Answer

Im sure there is anime watching witches.. bro.. just get out there i guess..

SK · Answer

You shouldn't have to hide your religion or hobbies. That said, other people might not like your decor even if they have the same hobbies and interests. It could be your room looks cluttered and that's why your friend suggested putting the plushies on a shelf. Not saying you need to change anything, just a suggestion.

Queenofgamingdinosaur · Answer

If she can’t except who you are and what you like then she can find someone else

Chris · Answer

That stuff is like catnip for ladies from your generation,  are you sure this friend isn't trying to nab you herself

Zach · Answer

I struggle to understand others in general so you add their hobbies and interests in and it makes for chaos in my head. I think the ideal would be someone that accepts you as you are but it's also possible that you'll eventually change your likes and interests to suit your partner.

Vince · Answer

You shouldn't listen to her. You should be proud of what you believe in and what you like.

Scott · Answer

Nothing wrong with liking pokemon, but when you make your entire personality revolve about it i'd say a great deal of people will be switched off by that.

Janis · Answer

Don’t change who you are I’m 35 and still have plushie

Dean · Answer

Echo all the comments about be true to yourself, but also reflect on what is the core of that, what do you need to honor that and what can you flex on for someone you care about. As an example being Wiccan and able to practice freely and openly is key. Being able to like and enjoy Pokémon and anime sure. But would you require your partner to want to live in a house decorated with them? Maybe that's what you need maybe not. How do your choices/style now indicate that ability or willingness to flex?  Mine is living by bike and not eating meat. And often that's seen as anti car and anti meat. I try and make it clear when these come up that they're my choices for me and I need people around me who respect and appreciate they are important to me, but they need to choose what's right for them. The trickier ones are always where one person's choices have implications for the other though ae.

Johnathan · Answer

If you have to change who you are for someone to be with you, they will not want you for who you really are.  Which will make you unhappy, and them possibly feeling regret if and when the charade comes undone.  We are who we are, you're person will have little to  no issues accepting that, it just takes comings. Too many conditions means it's more of an agreement than relationship. Just my .02

Missbee · Answer

Uhm no 😅 you don't need to shelve them, you just need find a girl with the same interests 🥰 I love Pokemon, I have plushies, it's all good 👍🏼 don't let that stop you from keeping them out. They're fine where they are 🥰

Mad Bae · Answer

Exactly! What's the point of having someone in your life who will only make you feel even more lonely cos trust me you gonna feel lonley pretending to be something that you are not. If they can't love you for the person you are then I don't see a point in you even going out or being with them for that matter, they don't love you, they love the mask you curated for them. Well just saying 🤷‍♀️

Anthony · Answer

If bestie can't support your hobbies or likes or at least respect them, then it's not a bestie.

Elenore Bennett · Answer

Always be yourself because everyone else is taken. You are literally the best you. Being yourself will bring the right person. I also love anime and fully believe that everyone (even secretly) has a favorite Pokémon! Religion is an important thing for most people. My ancestors were pagan and I would love to learn more about it. I already know that paganism came long before christianity. Some people won't date a person with different beliefs but some people are open minded. I commend you for being yourself and knowing how important it truly is.

Maze · Answer

Changing for others and not yourself only leads to sadness. I’m a massive anime fan myself and it’s a source of a lot of joy for me. Enjoy your hobbies and be yourself if someone doesn’t get that they are not worth your time.

Lacey · Answer

I say keep the Pokémon witchcraft and anime! That is part of who you are and someone will love u for that! Don't settle for anything less than the best for you.

Fit · Answer

The pokemon stays my dud.

Mary · Answer

Never hide your true self!I use to do that and it only got me fake friends and mental burnout

Zharon · Answer

I agree Scott.  If someone asks you to drop the witchcraft, you ask them to drop Christianity, or whatever they believe in.

Leyre · Answer

You will only get a partner that will love a fake version of you, so don't change.

Richard · Answer

Refund that bestie, throw them in the trash compactor, go get a new one.

Szephiix · Answer

If you actively need to change things that resemble you, that's an issue. Unapologetically be yourself. If someone doesn't like it, they aren't met to be with you or in your life. Imagine if someone told you those things but for tattoos, how are you going to hide them? Same concept.

Renae · Answer

Don't hide who you are.
My philosophy is that I don't need the majority to want/like me. I just need 1.

Bestie tells me to drop the Anime and witchcraft(I’m Wiccan)

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Keep everything that makes you you. My kids would love to hang out with someone who loves anime and Pokemon. Add in any manga and you have made your way into kids’ hearts then into their parent’s heart.

I wish I had a friend to tell me hard truths the best friends are those who are honest with you, (she is wrong but I appreciate the honesty)

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