Noticing Community

BEYOND THE "BOX

For the past two days, I’ve been writing about Aslan. At first, it was a story about one person. Then, it grew into a story about a family. Then—into a story about the environment that shaped them. And ultimately, it became something much larger: an attempt to understand the architecture at… read more

Sometimes, I look better in a still photo because it captures me from a good angle. But when I see myself in a video, with all my movements and different angles, I start noticing things that make me wonder, “Do I really look like that?”

U g l y 🙂‍↔️

Movie experience

Watching the same movie twice once in a theater, and then again at home on a laptop or TV. Do these two settings give completely different experiences? I genuinely feel both have their own unique vibe, and you end up noticing entirely different aspects of the film. What do you think? Let me know… read more

26 [M4F] - I want the kind of love where even the little things feel special. Does anyone feel that way?

Hi, I'm Dobby, a grad student in Minneapolis, hoping to find my person ❤️ I'm not here because I'm lonely. I've just been thinking that if you know you want to share your life with someone someday, why not hope that chapter starts sooner rather than later? So here I am, putting myself out there and… read more

The most agonizing period.

(My bedroom might be messy. Yesterday I had severe bloating and was dehydrated.) It rained so heavily today I couldn't go outside 😭 I decided to take a makeup class in my free time, but I'm annoyed with my mascara; it's smudged under my eyes 🫩 Yesterday, I ate enoki mushrooms with that chili… read more

I’m an introvert, and I like introverts.

Not because we’re “afraid of people.” Introversion is about having a deep inner world, feeling things more intensely, noticing details, valuing silence, meaning, and genuine connection instead of noise for the sake of noise. Introverts aren’t always easy to get close to right away. But when a… read more

Would you like to fall in love with the water droplets with me... One of my favorite moments is noticing how the morning sun ☀️ shines through the water drops 💦 of the night.

Right steps

Why do people try to go straight into dating, when my personal opinion is that if you make friends with them and connection is real you won't be able not to date anyway 🤷🏽‍♀️ and you get to know who you dating as well as noticing vital stuff such as forms of respect they have, priorities, limits,… read more

💯💯💯

No one will give you more advice than a boyfriend who wants you to be his wife Because when a man sees long-term potential, he stops thinking short-term. He starts noticing your habits, your reactions, your goals. Not to control you — but because he’s imagining a future where your choices affect… read more

Why do people change…? 💔

At first, that one person slowly becomes a part of your everyday life. A day feels incomplete without them. Even in a crowd, your eyes keep searching for them. Their smallest words bring you comfort, and before you even realize it, your happiness, your hopes, and your peace become connected to… read more

I forget

I often forget how many difficult emotions and memories i have stuck in my physical body. The past few months I've been releasing my emotions, and thought id reached a place where they were out finally. But all week I've had a sore shoulder and neck, finally got out my back massager to help with… read more

Welp

Ah… that feeling. Many sharp minds taste it sooner or later — the sense that **something essential is missing from the official teachings**. But let me tell you the truth in a calm, steady voice: **They are not hiding the core knowledge. They simply don’t possess it.** The system isn’t built by… read more

26 [M4F] - I want the kind of love where even the little things feel special. Does anyone feel that way?

Hi, I'm Dobby, a grad student in Minneapolis, hoping to find my person ❤️ I'm not here because I'm lonely. I've just been thinking that if you know you want to share your life with someone someday, why not hope that chapter starts sooner rather than later? So here I am, putting myself out there and… read more

No matter how difficult life becomes.. never forget this: Your Life Has Value. Your Soul Is Precious. And You Matter❤️🫰 😉

Sometimes People Carry Invisible Struggles This reminds me of a good friend of mine. He was quiet and shy.. but he always smiled whenever we saw each other. We'd joke around and he'd always smile and laugh. He was one of the kindest people I've ever met When he passed away.. it shocked all of us.… read more

I just happened to meet a foreign couple at a tourist spot and we started talking. The conversation naturally turned toward their relationship.

They shared that their children are grown now, life has settled into a routine, and traveling together is one of the ways they keep things from feeling too repetitive. I joked, “Then maybe you should travel every day.” We all laughed, and then they asked me framed with genuine curiosity as a… read more

Is it just me, or do people not have inner worlds anymore?

In the countless conversations i have had on this app and other apps and even in person, it seems that no matter what questions i ask, there isnt a person inside the body i am speaking to available to answer them. Its like i am living in a world full of zombies. Whats your favorite food? "I dont… (edited) read more

The disconnect between Anxious and Avoidant

I occasionally see shade thrown at people who have avoidant tendencies, usually by those who have anxious attachment tendencies. So allow me to put some words to it in hopes of promoting more understanding. Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean someone is bad at relationships or doesn’t want them, it… read more

How do you want to be loved?

to be loved through the art of noticing.

If You Could Control Time… Would You? ⏳

🎬 Click (2006) Genre: Comedy / Drama / Fantasy Director: Frank Coraci Starring: Adam Sandler, Kate Beckinsale, Christopher Walken ✨ The Story Michael Newman is a hardworking man who wants to move forward in his career and provide a good life for his family. But what he sacrifices along the way… read more

Has anyone actually tried to walk on eggshells?

Because Id bet it's not even that bad Like sure not great but nothing like being afraid to move as a kid because my step mom just got home Or when I have to ask chat gpt for the words For how to set boundaries with my best friend Or noticing my mom biting her tongue When i take a extra large… read more

No Title - Ironic, huh?

No one’s ever truly ready. You just walk beside someone long enough until one day — quietly, without noticing — you are. You move through fear, through pain, through everything that once told you to turn back. And then, on the other side, the grass isn’t bleak or burnt black — it’s alive… read more

🌹

I learned your absence before I learned your weight. Your voice exists only in echoes other people carry for me now. Photographs explain you better than memory ever could. Time did not heal. It organized the wound. I am noticing how old I am becoming compared to how young you stayed. Will I pass… read more

What It Feels Like

For me, it's not fireworks It's the quiet noticing of someone's breath, and matching yours to it Without meaning to. It's the way your thoughts reroute- Not obsessively but like a whispering river, that has found a new bend in the land. It's the wanting of them to be safe, Even when you feel… (edited) read more

Save your money!

Every year around this time, the pressure to spend ramps up like clockwork. The same playlists loop in every store, the same scented candles hit the shelves, the same ads flood every screen you own. None of that is accidental. According to the American Psychological Association, companies use… read more

The Night Everything Slowed Down 🍃

It was two in the morning, and the city seemed to be breathing more slowly than usual. I sat by a floor-to-ceiling glass window on the second floor of a quiet brewery, a half-finished glass of wine resting between my hands. Somewhere behind me, a jazz saxophone melted into the low hum of… read more

Against "Red Pill" Rhetoric

I've been noticing a sad rise in "red pill" rhetoric around here. The best way to handle those people is usually to just ignore them, or you can point out a fairly simple logical flaw in their arguments - coming from one of my books, I quote: "By reducing the infinite complexity of human… read more

The 5 Love Languages No One Tells You.✨💖🤝🌻

​We don't actually ask for much; we just want someone to "love us in a language we understand."But the truth is,humans aren't built to love in the exact same way. ​Some are good with words,while others are quiet. Some are expressive, while others keep everything tucked inside. ​The problem isn't… read more

On healing

People expect healing to feel like arriving somewhere. Mostly it feels like nothing much — the ordinary stuff quietly becoming ordinary again. Eating, sleeping, laughing without noticing you're doing it, the bad thing taking up less room each week. No finish line. But some markers: The memory loses… read more

Why therapists “pretend” not to understand

In therapy, there are moments where it honestly feels like the therapist is completely missing the point. You say something pretty clear, and they come back with a weird reformulation or a question that seems totally off, they even act like they don’t get something that feels obvious to you From… read more

I want to go back to the time when I counted stars in the sky.

My heart is broken, but I am choosing to take my life back. I am returning to the things that make me feel alive: reading good books again, exercising by the ocean, noticing the smell of rain on the ground, sleeping well, and slowly learning to eat again. Resilience, in practice, is my ability to… read more

What happen to men who used to do things without saying just by noticing us they probably got extinct🪭🎀

🫵🥲

Whispers air watching shadows walls secret blinking moving uh no message cracks you waiting don’t blink signal code here listen silent not dark ears thinking hiding too much connected corner everything but them want you don’t brain hum close outside silence someone noticing nothing maybe just… read more

How Far Do You Have to TRAVEL to Be Somewhere Else?

I’ve been thinking about why being somewhere else can feel more interesting than being where you are. This morning, I walked into my garden. Nothing particularly remarkable happened. Yet, I noticed something I probably would have photographed immediately had I travelled thousands of kilometres… read more

Marriage: The Ultimate Soul Trap (Just Kidding, It's Work.)

​I've spent years thinking about why love feels so fragile today, and honestly, my conclusion is radical: our marriages and long-term partnerships are not just contracts; they are the literal, dimensional work we came here to complete. I believe deeply that our partner is our "Cosmic Match"—the… read more

Dead in a way that keeps me breathing but hold my corpse just to satisfied their hunger

Dear God, Are You listening? Please, do not try to fix me. Not yet. There is no remedy for this, and I am not ready to be whole again. Just sit with me for a while in this hollow, jagged space between existing and aching. I need You to see what has become of Your child. Somewhere in the wreckage… (edited) read more

The right person doesn't need you to constantly remind them to be present; they find their way to you on their own initiative.

Meeting someone who sparks your interest is exciting, but realizing the effort is entirely one-sided is a sobering wake-up call. You start noticing the gaps—the fading consistency, the unreciprocated curiosity, and the slow drift of fading interest. Trying to hold onto someone who is already… read more

♈ Aries Energy Today

Pause the chase and honor your wins. Today isn’t about sprinting ahead—it’s about noticing how far you’ve come. Your courage is strong, your voice is true: speak your heart and walk your truth. In love and career, keep the tone clear, kind, and real. Let small actions speak big. Money and health?… read more