Sorry to take up anyones time, I need soke advice. I am currently 20 and I have barley any relationship experience, I don't believe I have the ability to muster the energy to speak to a girl as half of me believes they will take one look at me and think no. Any advice? I don't know where to start as I'm a below average looking male

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Muaz

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Be honest ... confident .... I also don't have the looks ... but I outshine in personality... work on that

Rakesh

INFJ

Leo

All in the mind.Ask your friends/family then use what u learned with your personality

Ivan

INTJ

Aries

Here goes. You're as special and as ordinary as the rest of us. You're an expert and a failure in talking to women just like the rest of us. You're as scared of talking to women as they are of talking to men. Get out of the mindset of "I am a below average looking man and in need of a girl" and get into a "I am a guy who wants something". Then start working on getting that something of yours. Try and fail again and again, until you get as tough as nails and get what you want. Then you can stop if you want. If not, repeat.

Miranda

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Capricorn

Be yourself, be honest and a little confidence goes a long way. If she says no, there's someone out there who will say yes. But if you don't speak you'll never know (edited)

Brandon

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Scorpio

Start with building your own self confidence ✨️ The first thing that blocks our ability to communicate and have a good time is fear of rejection. Run a little experiment. Approach girls with the expectation to already be rejected, therefor anything you receive beyond that is a bonus and prgress! It's not earth shattering. This will protect you emotionally while you teach yourself it's ok to put yourself out there even if it means no connection. After awhile you will get better at interaction and can slowly allow yourself to emotionally connect once you hit it off! You can even pretend you're one of those smooth talking savant in a move you've watched to make it a little fun. The idea is to get out of your head, not make it to serious of an encounter.

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Advice Community

Be honest ... confident .... I also don't have the looks ... but I outshine in personality... work on that

All in the mind.Ask your friends/family then use what u learned with your personality

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A heart that's numbing, a soul that's worn, I've buried the pain, and the tears that are born. I say nothing, I feel nothing, it's true, For in silence, I've found a way to see this through.

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I once wondered why hearts burn with fiery rage Why love can turn to anger, and a soul's dark cage But now I understand, for I've walked that same flame And felt the fury that fuels, the heart's deepest pain

How to make ANY woman blush!

Don't force it. If you ain't vibin, then you gotta go, bruh!

Your presence is enough❤️

Boredom Tips 👍🏽

Progress

You don't need to look for it everywhere, take a step back, consider the reality of the situation. Let yourself feel but don't forget to listen to your mind 🙏🏽 Things tend to find you when you don't look for them. Be well 🌻

If you keep telling people you're not good enough, they might start repeating it to you. Don't put yourself down and definitely do NOT allow others to, either. Champion yourself and the right people will champion you. Be kind to the person in the mirror. 🙏🏽🌻

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What am I to post? Boring to post everyday to level up.

Pretty much 🤷

I'm thinking to draft something about how to see less of thirst trap contents here.

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I'm not too sure how to word this lol

Into the stillness I quietly fade, Where secrets are safe and heartaches are made A silent retreat from the world's loud din Where peace and calm, softly step in

Need advice or explanation

Agree ☺️

I'm just saying. They would know best... 💅🏻

Some wounds defy the passage of time Refusing to heal, a perpetual rhyme Centuries may fade, but scars remain A testament to pain that refuses to wane

They say "be strong", with a voice that's loud and clear But depression's whispers, can bring even the strongest to fear It creeps in with the shadows, and steals the light of day And the weight of its darkness, can be hard to find a way

We search for solace, in another's gentle hand, For wounds that we cannot heal, on our own broken land We yearn for someone's love, to mend our shattered past, To heal the hurts that we cannot, and make our hearts whole at last

A memory to bury, a heart to set free Why hold on to what's lost, a love that used to be Forever's just a dream, that's faded with the past Now I'm left to move on, and let love forever last

Smarter than you ...✨

For you

If someone could please tell me how to be normal... That'd be great. Thanks.... 😩💀

In the past, thoughts of her brought joyful cheer A heart that was full, with love that was clear But now, memories of her bring only sorrow's sway A heart that once loved, now weeps every day

Babe, don't give me space to miss you. Cuz I won't. I got that special brand of ADHD "outta sight outta mind", and you just actived invisibility mode. We are not the same. 💅🏻