Erik

Posted Tuesday, October 24, 2023

6mo

INFJ

Virgo

Needed a pause

Is there a disconnect on dating/connection sites now, and has been for years? Sometimes I feel this way, more often than not. I'm aware I'm not particularly photogenic. The internet lets you hen peck particular features, people become commodities. On occasion I'm guilty of swiping through photos, but then I try to pause and thoroughly read through profiles. I remember when these types of sites first came out, I actually had some really good experiences. People were reaching out, I was meeting fairly regularly. I feel like the bombardment of negative experiences spreads, because there's just so many people online and I don't know if that was ever meant to be normal. Internet dating becomes a balance of loneliness and trauma response. The unfortunate thing about places like this, is you're missing the connection you can only get in person. The pheromones, the eye contact, reading body language and how someone presents themselves. But if you are more introvert leaning or busy, and you aren't constantly fluttering your feathers like a peacock in public this is somewhere you'd think you could go to meet someone to synchronize with.