Chemistry or Physical attraction?

Question

Hi, truly I’ve been going through this though for a while, I give some context, I have always been the type who does not care about physical and enjoys the personality and inside of the person, but a year ago or so I realized none of the people I have dated I have found 100% attractive or my “type” sharing this with a friend she simply said “You need to find a person attractive to have a relationship” It was kinda eye opener for me but even so I struggle so much trying to find someone “attractive” I’ve been kinda going crazy thinking maybe there is something wrong with me. I wanna share this little inside of my brain to see if anyone else has passed something similar or has any thoughts.

Please be kind, I would appreciate any advice, tips or comments.

Thank you. ✨🤍

Marie · Accepted Answer

Ohh same! I have never met or dated someone who I would call attractive at 100%. I think the most important is that person looks ok,  but he has values, morals, empathy, anyway when you like someone you will find his features attractive although initially it was just “ok”

Dan · Answer

Honestly, for me, the most important thing is compatibility 😄 as long as they are decent looking the compatibility and love I feel will make them look stunning to me

But for you, I'd say maybe try to define what is "attractive" to you. Then go from there?

Christian Martin · Answer

I find that people can be "attractive" to start but when you really get to know something it can make there physical appearance become more and more attractive.

even if you no longer see the person in that way the mental "enhancement " can stay sometimes forever.

En · Answer

It’s the personalities and efforts for me, a plus point how I’m treated. these are greater and more attractive than the look.

Dario · Answer

A good person you don't find attractive can be a friend.
Of course is ok to need to find a person attractive to be romantically involved with.
Got to find somebody with chemistry and that's attractive (to you) 
That's why is kinda hard to find a person to have a nice relationship with.

That said, good looks are totally pointless by themselves if you are looking for a partner.

Dave · Answer

Physical attraction tends to be a temporary thing so using it as a basis for a relationship is rough. It’s a superficial attention grab.  If the rest of it doesn’t come together people just tend to get tired of the person and things end, sometimes in dramatic fashion 😂

Johnny · Answer

My type is a brown eyed brunette.

Sebastian · Answer

Looks are just one of many characteristics of a person but maybe changing your approach to new people that you can find good loking and meditating about what you find physically attractive it's going to help you discover what you actually want

Chemistry or Physical attraction?

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Ohh same! I have never met or dated someone who I would call attractive at 100%. I think the most important is that person looks ok, but he has values, morals, empathy, anyway when you like someone you will find his features attractive although initially it was just “ok”

Honestly, for me, the most important thing is compatibility 😄 as long as they are decent looking the compatibility and love I feel will make them look stunning to me But for you, I'd say maybe try to define what is "attractive" to you. Then go from there?

It’s the personalities and efforts for me, a plus point how I’m treated. these are greater and more attractive than the look.

Physical attraction tends to be a temporary thing so using it as a basis for a relationship is rough. It’s a superficial attention grab. If the rest of it doesn’t come together people just tend to get tired of the person and things end, sometimes in dramatic fashion 😂

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