👋🏽I have met a lot of people. A LOT of people. When I was actively searching for a partner I met all sorts of people, used many different apps, even met people I was not necessarily attracted to give them a chance to prove my first instincts wrong. I feel like I have learned a lot from my experiences.. 🙏🏾That being said, I feel like I want to share some..wisdom? Care? Knowledge? With the people so seem so confused about not being able to attract the mate they dream of..Of course not a cure all, but just something to think about.. ✨Lesson: Offer what you are looking for.✨ 📷Let's start with the photo. We both know that is what most people are judging by. Like when shopping, most people are likely to buy the pretty fruit first. If the person seems to have chosen the best photos of themselves, you also need to put thought into how you present yourself. Do you present yourself well? Yes, we want to be honest about how we look, but there is nothing wrong with putting your best foot first. A nice photo from an event to went to. Like a job interview, you don't show up in your pj's, you do your best to look your best! Have to take a selfie? Brush your hair, clean up your beard, watch something to make you laugh so you can take a picture with a genuine smile. Or, have a friend/family member take the photo when you are happy! People are drawn to the sunshine in your soul, smile! 😁 📚Next, read the profile. If someone put the effort in to write it, the least you can do is read it. If the person is active, and you aren't, it is possible that they may not match with you because they want someone to be active with. If they say no smokers, respect that. If they say something you can relate to, use that in your introduction message, or even add it to your profile! In most cases, people want someone who shares their lifestyle & interests. This is normal! 🏃🏾‍♀️If you want a fit partner, it makes sense to be taking care of yourself too. If you want someone who puts in effort into their appearance, you should too. 🏆This is simple. We must remember that no one gets something from nothing. To receive we must give. We all need personal growth and change to be our best selves. We needn't take our lessons as losses, but as opportunities to better ourselves for ourselves and perhaps that future partner! 💜These tips have helped a few friends build themselves up, and some have even found their person. The ones that haven't found their person yet, are much happier within themselves and have more inner peace because they are being their best selves. 💃🏽We cannot wait for someone to inspire us. We need to be our own inspiration. We need to be the best we can be for our own peace of mind. I know it isn't so easy, but you can do it. You really can. Taking care of your skin, hair, beard, mental and physical space can make your day feel so much more hopeful.. 😅I am sorry if this a bit of a ramble..I just want to be helpful..I believe in you, you can be your best self with just a little effort and mindfulness! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 #mindfulness #advice #innerpeace #inspiration (edited)

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That is very good advice!

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Amy

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Virgo

How much time difference and distance are you comfortable with in a long-distance relationship?

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Amy

INTJ

Virgo

A request to every guy, no matter where you're from: Please stop sharing your number with random girls on any app unless you’ve had proper communication and agreed to exchange numbers. And if you still feel the urge to share your number, why not throw in your credit card details with the password

#funny #memes #comedy

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Emma

ISTP

Capricorn

Eye's

Look in to my eye's and tell me somthing

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Jeff

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INTJ

Sagittarius

Definitely

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Lisa

12d

INTP

Virgo

I get WAY more likes from young (20s) men than men my own age.

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Stacey

ISFJ

Sagittarius

Workout

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Leo

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Joy

ENFP

Aries

What do y'all usually look at in partner?

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Elliot

20h

INTP

Capricorn

Feminism Ruined Women?

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Maria

22h

INTJ

Taurus

yeah

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Allison

21h

ESFP

Aries

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Edd

ISFJ

Leo

Dating

You glow different when you got 2 boyfriends but you single.

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Amy

INTJ

Virgo

If you can relate please drop ❤️

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Sirius

22h

INTJ

Cancer

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ChubbyAnne<3

11h

ESFJ

Libra

NEVER!💙

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Amy

INTJ

Virgo

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ISTP

Scorpio

What hurts more than a heartbreak 💔💔??

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Conor

ESTJ

Pisces

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I will include men asking women for a sexy picture of them too. If men want to find a woman they can can trust and value outside of being intimate with them, being inappropriate straight away or soon after messaging women doesn't work. Treat women how you would to be treated guys. (edited)

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Mariafe

17h

INTP

Sagittarius

Dating Aps

What other dating apps have you used?

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Edd

16h

ISFJ

Leo

Dating

Yes please 🥺

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Amy

12h

INTJ

Virgo

Certainly 😁...

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Edd

ISFJ

Leo

Dating

I want someone to love me mexicanly

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ESFJ

Libra

Love!❤️

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Mehnaz

INFP

Virgo

Do you believe a guy should plan the first date?

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Amy

INTJ

Virgo

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Ybba

ISTP

Sagittarius

Well okay 😅

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Cancer

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Amy

INTJ

Virgo

Dont look for rebound relationship just heal yourself first before getting into any relationship

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AJ aka Moonchild 🌕🌙

ENFP

Cancer

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