👋🏽I have met a lot of people. A LOT of people. When I was actively searching for a partner I met all sorts of people, used many different apps, even met people I was not necessarily attracted to give them a chance to prove my first instincts wrong. I feel like I have learned a lot from my experiences.. 🙏🏾That being said, I feel like I want to share some..wisdom? Care? Knowledge? With the people so seem so confused about not being able to attract the mate they dream of..Of course not a cure all, but just something to think about.. ✨Lesson: Offer what you are looking for.✨ 📷Let's start with the photo. We both know that is what most people are judging by. Like when shopping, most people are likely to buy the pretty fruit first. If the person seems to have chosen the best photos of themselves, you also need to put thought into how you present yourself. Do you present yourself well? Yes, we want to be honest about how we look, but there is nothing wrong with putting your best foot first. A nice photo from an event to went to. Like a job interview, you don't show up in your pj's, you do your best to look your best! Have to take a selfie? Brush your hair, clean up your beard, watch something to make you laugh so you can take a picture with a genuine smile. Or, have a friend/family member take the photo when you are happy! People are drawn to the sunshine in your soul, smile! 😁 📚Next, read the profile. If someone put the effort in to write it, the least you can do is read it. If the person is active, and you aren't, it is possible that they may not match with you because they want someone to be active with. If they say no smokers, respect that. If they say something you can relate to, use that in your introduction message, or even add it to your profile! In most cases, people want someone who shares their lifestyle & interests. This is normal! 🏃🏾‍♀️If you want a fit partner, it makes sense to be taking care of yourself too. If you want someone who puts in effort into their appearance, you should too. 🏆This is simple. We must remember that no one gets something from nothing. To receive we must give. We all need personal growth and change to be our best selves. We needn't take our lessons as losses, but as opportunities to better ourselves for ourselves and perhaps that future partner! 💜These tips have helped a few friends build themselves up, and some have even found their person. The ones that haven't found their person yet, are much happier within themselves and have more inner peace because they are being their best selves. 💃🏽We cannot wait for someone to inspire us. We need to be our own inspiration. We need to be the best we can be for our own peace of mind. I know it isn't so easy, but you can do it. You really can. Taking care of your skin, hair, beard, mental and physical space can make your day feel so much more hopeful.. 😅I am sorry if this a bit of a ramble..I just want to be helpful..I believe in you, you can be your best self with just a little effort and mindfulness! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 #mindfulness #advice #innerpeace #inspiration (edited)

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