Christy

Posted Friday, December 8, 2023

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

Maaannn this is hopeless

Where you at ? I want this 👇🏽 Single male No kids No drinking or doing drugs Has a car, job and place to stay Good hygiene Good attitude Good values and personality

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Leah

2mo

INFJ
Capricorn

4w5

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Don’t forget emotionally available 😐

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

I didn't want to overwhelm them. I've noticed that the men on this app get pissed when a woman expresses her desires, especially a woman who looks like me... I don't know how many times I've been told that I don't deserve a good man on here, soley based on how I look.

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Mike

2mo

ESTJ
Aquarius

2w3

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I have everything on your list but I have a daughter. I spent the past 9 years of my life providing and cutting every tie I had personally to make more money and learn more skills, build my own company, to provide more for my family. I based my entire life around my family, and chose them over everything. We had my daughter after 3 years together, it was the greatest day of my life, she is 6 now. I had a family I loved and was proud of. Earlier this year I found out whilst I was working my now ex was out playing house with someone else. She left me and started seeing him. But I refuse to let my child grow up in a world without me. I would do anything for her because I think it is the right thing for me to do as a father. Everyone has a past. And your well within your rights to set your requirements, in no way am I saying you're not. I'm saying some of us didn't choose the situation we are in, at no fault of our own, yet it's held against us.

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Precious

2mo

INTP
Sagittarius

Find a single man and make him how you dream of it to be in self righteousness. Build with him and stop looking for already made.😒😒😒😒

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

You sound young 😂

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Precious

2mo

INTP
Sagittarius

@Christy yo listening to the sound forgetting the core😉😉

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Kevin

2mo

ENFP
Aries

Meanwhile, I just want a woman who Is sweet to me Looks cute! Doesn't have too much emotional baggage or debt Isn't a feminist Enjoys at least one of the hobbies I do And is ready to move in together within a couple months, no more of this. She's living with mommy stuff. It would also be nice not to have her try to manipulate me within the first couple of months into sending her my money. Those are the issues I've had

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Doug

2mo

ENTJ
Aries

3w4

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Good luck bro. Not in this society. Not in our day and age.

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Kevin

2mo

ENFP
Aries

Honestly he's probably taken. Either by his wife or his bros. I work six and a half days a week and I bring home 60 to 80,000 a year, I still can't afford a home in this market. Like yeah I could go put a mortgage in and pay like 18% interest but I'm not home enough to really even enjoy that so that disqualifies me from this list.

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Doug

2mo

ENTJ
Aries

3w4

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18%??? That's atrocious. I was quoted 4.5% but I've also been told that's a hell of a deal and no one's getting offered that right now

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Kevin

2mo

ENFP
Aries

@Doug I just threw out a number. It's just too high to consider a house just for the me that would only be there one day out of the week if that honestly

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Doug

2mo

ENTJ
Aries

3w4

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@Kevin well in fairness the price of a 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house is still 220oz of gold today Unfortunately the value of the worthless fiat currency is abhorrent at best. Get approved for one then wait for bubble to burst. So that way you're already approved and prices will be low. You'll be able to refinance at lower interest rate later

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Kevin

2mo

ENFP
Aries

@Doug it's also part my fault, I grew up in Florida and I don't want to leave the state. I actually want to go back to it. But Florida prices are ridiculous and honestly the houses are pretty trash unless you're going to spend 400k or more

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Simen André

2mo

ISFP
Libra

5w6

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Lower your expectations or find a old childless guy, like older than most that are able to use apps

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

Lower my expectations? Lmao this is just basic stuff hahahaha

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Simen André

2mo

ISFP
Libra

5w6

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@Christy nah, not that basic. What do you bring to the table that can match all those requirements?

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

@Simen André literally every one. This is basic stuff hahahaha

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Jim

2mo

INFP
Virgo

I have all of those except the car. I won't have one anymore, they're destroying the planet.

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Mike

2mo

ESTJ
Aquarius

2w3

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How so?

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Jim

2mo

INFP
Virgo

@Mike carbon pollution

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Tim

2mo

ISTJ

8w7

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"Good attitude. Good values and personality." Of your list I feel like 👆 these are by far the toughest. Not only does everyone have a different definition on what constitutes good or bad in these contexts, they also have varying levels on how good or bad you "should be" relative to the populace. I hope this is helpful to potentially narrow the focus on which sub-properties among attitude values and personality are most important to you because they likely consist of dozens or hundreds of subtraits. Finding someone that meets 7/7 criterion seems easy enough, but if it is actually 250/270+ then there may be opportunity to select which subtraits are most valuable. Best of luck to you, I approach everything with maths and that may or may not work for your paradigm 🖖

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

Yes I know that those two are the hardest ones to meet that's why I am slowly evaluating the expectations I fantasize about and trying to figure out which ones I can do without. I have given up a lot of those expectations because I know I'm not living in a fantasy 😂. This is real life and it's more complicated than my fantasy.

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Angel

2mo

INTJ
Gemini

8w7

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Not sure what counts as good values. I check most of the except the drinking I love the booze can't love without it lol

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

It's impossible to find someone like that

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Angel

2mo

INTJ
Gemini

8w7

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@Christy I'm sure you will.

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Doug

2mo

ENTJ
Aries

3w4

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They're at home with their role model wife's

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

Then they are not single lmao

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Mercy

2mo

INFJ
Pisces

2w3

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Come tto Finland, all sorted

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

Hahaha I wouldn't fit in there.

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Julius

2mo

INTJ
Aries

5w6

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Last three "good" things are different for each person. Be more specific, before everyone claims to be those 🤭

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

I haven't even found a man with the first qualities I listed 😂.

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Julius

2mo

INTJ
Aries

5w6

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@Christy me, a random person that saw this - single, no kids, not drinking, drugs? Just nicotine and caffeine - not mind altering ones. Job and place, car not needed, but doable at any moment. Hygiene - should be a norm to anyone. Last three - debatable. Not trying to apply to your request, but there are plenty of those men. 🤔

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Christy

2mo

ISFJ
Leo

@Julius Yeah still not my type. I want someone who doesn't do any drugs whether it's nicotine, weed or alcohol.

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Julius

2mo

INTJ
Aries

5w6

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@Christy makes sense. And his place should be a nice house or anything he owns? The car - a new, or close to it, not the cheapest on the market, or anything that does the job? 🤔 trying to build your male model in my head 🤭

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Tom

2mo

INTJ
Capricorn

6w5

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A guy like that is probably staying at home and helping out his parents as they start to get older and need to rely on him more. Or at least live very close to home. While waiting for the right one to settle down with and invest into a forever home with another responsible, family oriented person. And make sure both sides of the family are taken care of.

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