Every time I try to jump into them again, after a few seconds I feel exhausted because it's so hard to maintain a conversation with someone so then I lose my hopes and I give up... Does it happen to you too?

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Kristen

8mo

INFJ

Pisces

Let me imitate 90% of guys over 35: Him: hello beautiful! 😍 Me: (hating the beautiful part cuz he doesn't know me) hi, how are you? Anything cool happening this weekend in your life? Him: (24 hours later) hi, beautiful 😍 nothing much Me: aw, nothing big? What do you usually do weekends? Him: (24 hours later) hi beautiful 😍

Curtis

8mo

INFP

Taurus

My issues with dating apps is that everyone is too, too shallow or cannot hold up a conversation. There are too many options and unfortunately I will not be considered one cause I'm not physically attractive to most people. I don't normally get matches so I use dating apps to find friends instead now 😅

Dita

8mo

ISFJ

Sagittarius

Lower your expectations and detach, my dear. It takes a certain kind of mindset to deal with dating apps

Ethan

8mo

ESFP

Aquarius

Yep, and eventually it takes a toll on your mental health doing that so much and getting rejected. I took a break from them for a while and focused on myself, definitely the right way to go. Take care of yourself first and be the best person you can be, then the connections will come

Majd

8mo

INFP

Pisces

I rarely make connections on such apps, people using these apps are usually distracted by so much things, but if it clicks it clicks you know, you can feel it.

Arron Jordan

8mo

INFP

Sagittarius

I feel yeah hard to really get to know someone when there only sending one two word replies

8mo

INFJ

Taurus

It’s dating in general for me, but im shy and awkward in public so this is the better option, I haven’t met anyone yet but again, better option.

David Rogers

8mo

ESFJ

Virgo

I guess you have to be in the right vibe or find a solid person? I'm here for friends and when it's a wikkid convo of shared interests its like getting a burst of energy to have some wild back and forth chats that end up way longer in terms of notifications then they should be lol. But with everything one day at a time and good and bad days so maybe today's not your day 🤷

Dave

8mo

INTP

Gemini

What kind of guys are you matching with? The commonly held perception is that you women be swiping left on 95% of guys most of whom are alright and are quite willing and able to put in effort, and swipe right on 5% that get all attention from the other women and cannot mathematically give you much effort.

Keven

8mo

INFJ

Pisces

I try to learn about who I'm talking to and have a good back n forth conversation and I rarely ghost or stop talking to someone unless we don't have any chemistry or they act bored or uninterested in chating.

Nino

8mo

INFJ

Sagittarius

Prior to my usage of Boo, it certainly has been a near constant feeling for me as I grew more disillusioned with the kind of conversations I would have with matches that I actually do get to match with. Sure, they may be attractive physically speaking, but the lack of actual engagement and effort from their end conversational wise is simply like watering a desert - you're wasting a valuable resource in something that is meaningless. In this case, time and energy to someone with the same charisma as drying paint haha. It's when you do meet someone who shares similar interests and values is where things start turning around! It begins to feel more natural and exciting to converse with that person, leading to an innate desire to learn more about them! Mutual effort in this was is wonderful and possible! Sending positive energy to you on that front!

Sam

8mo

INTJ

Aries

I don't know about exhausted but definitely has built up a thick skin for being rejected. I mean that's not really the right word as people don't have to match, just be nice for some feedback first. Yet I still use them because I have no idea where to begin in the real world anymore 😅

Marius

8mo

INTP

Virgo

Conversations on those apps can be a drag. They often feel forced, and it's like pulling teeth to keep them going. It's alright to feel fed up; take a breather and try other ways of meeting people. Dating apps ain't the only game in town.

Simon

8mo

ENTP

Gemini

Hell. To the yes. This is the third one I've installed at the moment but it reminds me of before-times twit so it at least is interesting.

Christopher

8mo

ENTP

Sagittarius

Dude i feel you. Havent had any luck

Moin Pathan

8mo

INTP

Libra

Exactly, everytime it’s happening with me 😂😂 could anyone suggest some solutions???

Paweł

8mo

ESTJ

Aquarius

They are literally for collecting matches like pokemons to pokedex

Seeta the Nosy Aunt🦝✨️

8mo

INFP

Libra

ALl THE TIME😆

Gabriel

8mo

INFP

Scorpio

I usually have no interest in dating apps, simply put because 2/4 of my messages go unanswered. 1/4 are messages where I can't lead the conversation anywhere like - "yes, no, sure, ok," and the girl puts 0 effort of her part to actually have a conversation and the other 1/4, things go well, but my main problem with dating apps is: It makes you pay to actually get seen, and to actually match with people. It sounds very predatory to me to have my interactions with other people limited behind a paywall.

Marta

8mo

INFP

Scorpio

I feel you girl

Brandon

8mo

ISTP

Capricorn

Yes, it takes a toll. Hard for me since I'm quiet around new people and I guess not aggressive enough. Seems to turn off most potentials immediately. Even if I have things in common with the person, I don't seem to be able to properly communicate with someone until I've met them and then only if the vibe is right. Not an attractive quality for a man, but I am who I am. Faking it works, but then I'm trapped masking so it doesn't work out. I refuse to do that anymore.

Ashley

8mo

INTJ

Leo

Well I can’t say for certain, I haven’t had anyone ‘match’ with me in the sense of the dating side of this app. However for me its kinda a hit or miss as to how much I talk to them. I hate talking about myself, but I’m fine nerding out one something I like. If I think I feel a connection I try and be courteous and talk to them, but it depends on how much I put my trust in people as well.

Anakin

8mo

ENFP

Aquarius

Yeah

Tim

8mo

ENTP

Virgo

Yes it does. I hate dating apps, they're so irritating. I just want to meet someone who I can be comfortable with and love

Stylianos

8mo

ISTP

Scorpio

Wait you guys get matches xd

David

8mo

INTJ

Virgo

I am so bored by these apps that I dont even expect to meet someone, just killing time. when it comes to looking for a partner I preffer to just go out and meet someone there, even tho I am literally an introvert

Emmanuel

8mo

INFP

Capricorn

It’s hard to gather any connection when the apps want you to pay after 4 messages lol

Queen

8mo

INTP

Sagittarius

I've never felt so seen and understood. This is exactly how I feel

Johan

8mo

ISTJ

Cancer

Okay.

Ghost protocole

8mo

ENFJ

Taurus

You need a Moroccan men come to me darling 🤣

...

8mo

INTJ

Pisces

All to well but nothing better to do.

Nick

8mo

INFJ

Leo

People have conversations here? I wish

Justin bevars

8mo

INFJ

Aquarius

All the time it’s mostly the other person just not wanting to talk i will talk to you all day but if you just tell me ok after i said wubba lubba dub dub give me gum gum i get uniterested

Paulo

8mo

INTJ

Aquarius

Not really. We can actually maintain a conversation

Dav

8mo

ISTJ

Capricorn

Whats this mysterious conversation ur talking about? Isnt it a fairytail?

Chad

8mo

ISTJ

Taurus

I understand that frustration it's never easy to start over and try again but you just got to keep trying you'll find someone I'm in the same boat as you

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34m

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Capricorn

It’s good

Think this is the only app where people are actually not insane. Wait maybe they’re just hiding it away. Hmmm (edited)

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INFJ

Cancer

Intrusive thoughts 😑

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Athena

10h

ISFP

Aries

💔

It's kinda sad to have noone to talk to.

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Dasha 🌼🍊

INFP

This is probably the reason why I'm unhappy but I don't understand people who "don't understand how to use this app". What in technical degeneracy is this? Just click buttons and open pages. When you gonna be 70 you won't be able to use ur modern phone omg I guess the problem is me but whatever lol

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INTJ

At home cold remedies

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Capricorn

Innocent curiosity...

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The "Us" in memories

There was never an us, but why do I have to move on?

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Capricorn

They will come around

If they are going through some personal stuff and they need space give them space but let them know you’re there for them if they ever need anything.

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Libra

Remembrance

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ESFJ

Capricorn

Can I wait a little longer? 🥺👉👈

Sometimes I wonder if it is only me who has this kind of feeling that even though I know that you will never be mine, I still don't lose hope waiting for you.

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19h

INTJ

Libra

No...no...

Being alive doesn't mean everything will be all right... :/

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Virgo

Everything hurts.

Existence is pain. I am become death, destroyer of worlds 🌋

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12h

INTJ

Capricorn

Yep

Can’t believe weekend is already here.

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Maloth

40m

ISFJ

Cancer

Agree

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Tabitha 👉🏽The-bi-ta

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Capricorn

Accepting it

Tired of waiting and looking for love because I know now that love doesn’t want me.

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Cancer

👍💙

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Libra

Decorum (edited)

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Libra

Love and Affection

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Communicate

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Fact

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10d

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I wish men knew how much power lies in being transparent about the way they feel -- rather than avoiding and making problems 10x worse. Open a conversation and you'll find how things are always able to be resolved 🌻🤍 (edited)

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A sudden 💭

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Cancer

Availability

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ISFJ

Cancer

Agree💯

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🫂

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Pisces

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I'm so freaking tired of date apps

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Lower your expectations and detach, my dear. It takes a certain kind of mindset to deal with dating apps

Yep, and eventually it takes a toll on your mental health doing that so much and getting rejected. I took a break from them for a while and focused on myself, definitely the right way to go. Take care of yourself first and be the best person you can be, then the connections will come

I rarely make connections on such apps, people using these apps are usually distracted by so much things, but if it clicks it clicks you know, you can feel it.

I feel yeah hard to really get to know someone when there only sending one two word replies

It’s dating in general for me, but im shy and awkward in public so this is the better option, I haven’t met anyone yet but again, better option.

I try to learn about who I'm talking to and have a good back n forth conversation and I rarely ghost or stop talking to someone unless we don't have any chemistry or they act bored or uninterested in chating.

I don't know about exhausted but definitely has built up a thick skin for being rejected. I mean that's not really the right word as people don't have to match, just be nice for some feedback first. Yet I still use them because I have no idea where to begin in the real world anymore 😅

Conversations on those apps can be a drag. They often feel forced, and it's like pulling teeth to keep them going. It's alright to feel fed up; take a breather and try other ways of meeting people. Dating apps ain't the only game in town.

Hell. To the yes. This is the third one I've installed at the moment but it reminds me of before-times twit so it at least is interesting.

Dude i feel you. Havent had any luck

Exactly, everytime it’s happening with me 😂😂 could anyone suggest some solutions???

They are literally for collecting matches like pokemons to pokedex

ALl THE TIME😆

I feel you girl

Yeah

Yes it does. I hate dating apps, they're so irritating. I just want to meet someone who I can be comfortable with and love

Wait you guys get matches xd

I am so bored by these apps that I dont even expect to meet someone, just killing time. when it comes to looking for a partner I preffer to just go out and meet someone there, even tho I am literally an introvert

It’s hard to gather any connection when the apps want you to pay after 4 messages lol

I've never felt so seen and understood. This is exactly how I feel

Okay.

You need a Moroccan men come to me darling 🤣

All to well but nothing better to do.

People have conversations here? I wish

All the time it’s mostly the other person just not wanting to talk i will talk to you all day but if you just tell me ok after i said wubba lubba dub dub give me gum gum i get uniterested

Not really. We can actually maintain a conversation

Whats this mysterious conversation ur talking about? Isnt it a fairytail?

I understand that frustration it's never easy to start over and try again but you just got to keep trying you'll find someone I'm in the same boat as you

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This is probably the reason why I'm unhappy but I don't understand people who "don't understand how to use this app". What in technical degeneracy is this? Just click buttons and open pages. When you gonna be 70 you won't be able to use ur modern phone omg I guess the problem is me but whatever lol

At home cold remedies

Innocent curiosity...

The "Us" in memories

They will come around

Hola! 👋🏼 Who has had f4ke profiles of people pretending to be the same gender as you, so they could befriend you? 🤔 Do you think you can suss them out, without adding them? 👀

Remembrance

Can I wait a little longer? 🥺👉👈

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No...no...

Everything hurts.

Yep

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Accepting it

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I LOVE YOUR ACCENT *cringe*

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#💯🔥 TO ALL THE KINGS THAT KNOW THEY ARE PUTTING IN THE WORK TO REACH THEIR HIGHER SELF DONT LOOOSE HOPE YOUR EMPRESS WILL MANIFEST AND WHEN SHE DOES WILL DROP THIS 🤯 👇🏿

Don't be easy on yourself

# 💯🔥 WHEN THEY ASK , WHY DO YOU THINK AND ACT THE WAY YOU DO , 🤔 I SIMPLY SAY 👇🏿

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I wish men knew how much power lies in being transparent about the way they feel -- rather than avoiding and making problems 10x worse. Open a conversation and you'll find how things are always able to be resolved 🌻🤍 (edited)

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Sometimes, the shoe we want most doesn't fit.

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Let's face it most movie endings are predictable... can you think of a movie, to which you never saw the ending coming?

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