Victoria

Posted Saturday, July 2, 2022

1y

ISFJ

Cancer

6

5

Advice from ppl that are divorced or have tried/dated a divorcee

I've been talking to this guy for about almost 2 years on and off. We've sent memes to each other back and forth, talked about cosplay stuff, and setting up convention meet ups. He has told me that he wanted to start off as friends and go from there. I learned that he is divorced and the split hurt him pretty bad (he never told me how long ago). We have gone to conventions together and I really felt we hit it off. We have similar interests and such. I even felt he was flirting with me (could be wrong lol). The last convention we went to, I stayed with his group of friends and hung out with them all and had a blast and he did too. After parting ways, I told him my feelings (which I usually don't do because I fear for the worst) that I liked him and that I know he originally wanted to start off as friends, which I'm fine with but wanted to let him know that I will flirt and such for a closer connection with him. But I wanted to shoot my shot. His response was that he likes me too but felt he wasn't in the right mindset for a relationship and that he would just hurt me if he dated rn. Which I told him I understood that. After sending him my confession he completely cut back on communicating with me. I had to fish for interaction and responses from him. (He never really sent txts to me first i always had to send something) I asked him if I overstepped with my confession which he responded with no, im just transitioning through something rn. And that was it. He's been lax on providing info about himself, like his divorce and what all he's trying to workout. I haven't pryed cause I don't want to push into that but I have shared with him my traumatic relationship and thought he could open up a tiny bit at least. So my question is, (with the draw back from conversing with me) do you think he's just done with me and doesn't even want to be friends and grow that to a relationship down the road or truly trying to work himself out for a relationship(not implying with me persay). Cause at this point i don't even know if he wants to be friends with how little he talks to me now. I feel like we are acquaintances instead friends at this point. Like we know each others names and where we went to school, never hung out and know a couple of the same people type thing. Cause I truly like the guy and have tried to get him to naturally open up about himself but I get nothing.