In my times of different experiences, I have noticed an imbalance...one that truly made me sad deep within. For example, let's take Masculine women, with their never-ending plight of "being too much". From the perspective of a woman who gets things done and is seen as highly independent, it actually isn't a fair position to be placed in. The relationships of having men who didn't want to be treated like a child but never actually made a single crucial decision for the better of the partnership - I have to admit, it's bullsh*t. So, when you see a woman who is actively independent, please consider that she didn't have a choice in the matter. She was pushed into accessing her Masculine Action traits because she had deadbeats who pretended to have their sh*t together. Yes, of course we can be indecisive from time to time, but if she is making all the decisions and all the appointments, all the chores, everything pushed onto her shoulders then she learned quickly that she had to put on the pants in the partnership and yet her femininity didn't even want to - it's truly exhausting. She was pushed into the corner of killing her own emotions, her ability to nurture, and became an "aggressive" enabler that started seeking recognition. Also why she is seen as aggressive to some men and has a difficult time of finding someone, her Masculine traits are creating friction with other Masculines around her that crucify her instead of being patient with her. I think we should be completely open about our past experiences so that we can come to a deeper understanding of why that person is the way they are. Talk about your previous exes without restraint (obviously don't be too malicious, have some class), talk about your pains, talk about what you find unfair. It is not meant to show weakness, it is meant to educate the other person on who you are based on what you had. Both sides should take the initiative to speak out about their personal treatments they went through. Both sides should be allowed to have a say. I am simply speaking about the pain of being cornered into always being the "solid rock", yet receiving little support. It is a sad existence when you are in a relationship that makes you feel truly Alone. It is painful always having to be the initiator. It is actually imbalanced. Honestly communicate to each other on where you stand in life, with your goals and with your own emotional & mental states. Talk to each other with your very beings. All the best to everyone, because I know it's hard. ★ This is not meant to be a triggering post, nor a complaint. It is meant to open minds to other possibilities out there and I am not speaking for all women either, some actually like to be in control. Just an observation floating around in the ether... 💕

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Joshua

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I don't think any of this is wrong I've been the solid rock my whole life putting other before myself in my last relationship I said she didn't have to work but I would like my house cleaned and a cup noodle made every once in a while when I came home and that's it but It was to much for her and she cheated on me so as someone who doesn't get much support from others period being able to find someone who is willing to do that for me would be great and I believe man or woman should be able to play whatever role they want if they both wanna work cool if one wants to stay home cool it all comes down to communication and being honest with each other about your needs and wants

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This is a well thought out and detailed post. I like this, but I can't help but feel you can relate to this. Has something stirred you up to talk about this?

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I firmly agree with you. Communication and building trust with each other is a good way to be not only on the same page but a healing process also. Everyone has a story ,trauma and so on . But nobody should be judged for that . You make some great points I think people need to see

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