Question for Men

Question

How do you honestly feel when you're told that you have to be the provider, the financial support, the protector, the physical guard?

It strikes me as a miserable set of gender expectations but if anyone here does aspire to those standards, why?

Mister A · Accepted Answer

It's just a natural thing to do.

The trick is finding a woman that embraces her role

Brayan · Answer

The patriarchy hurts men too, we tend to forget that, it's why so many men neglect themselves in the face of adversity, they never thought they just didn't have to do it.

Peace ☮️ · Answer

If women can work then women can pay.

If men should pay then men should have all the jobs.

Gender roles are not a modern way of living. Salaries haven’t risen equally to the cost of living. It’s increasingly difficult to have traditional roles, but do what works for you and makes you happy.

Both should work together. I don’t care what the contribution looks like. It doesn’t need to be equal, but both need to put a genuine effort to help each other.

Richie · Answer

I'm not saying I'm against it but I've also done that and it wasn't enough. To some, you can never do enough but to others you will always be enough. Look for the latter. Material things DO NOT being happiness.

Stephen · Answer

I don't mind it. 
I don't do it because I *have* to, I do it because I *wish* to for whomever I deem is worth the effort.

Aaron · Answer

My logical side of my brain tells me it’s an outdated idea and makes me kinda feel used. On the other hand whenever I do provide it makes me feel good and a kind of greater sense of self worth.  I personally would want something in the middle. Where I’m not just expected to be a provider for the sole reason of being a man. Instead prefer being a provider to a relationship because of the love we have for each other.

Ryu Lopez tripp · Answer

Well it's not so much a want, in some regards its necessary. Men are told these traits and values are what make a man and women grow up with these idea too ( I do mean literally grew) these concepts are old and outdated with the time back then a man could support a family and even afford to have a side girl. Try that now a days with a regular job and see how much debt you rack up.

2) if a man doesn't have function his mating options become none existent.

Chris · Answer

I used to think that role was what I wanted, giving/providing happiness to someone. I thought that was happiness. Forgot along the way I need to be happy for happiness to work. Find a partner, not a responsibility. You can still fill some.of those roles but they don't have to be a burden if you have a partner you can rely on. Help each other so we can all collectively find happiness.

Dylan · Answer

It makes me feel like im just an ATM and if things get didgey, fodder to throw my life away. In essence it makes me feel inhuman. Tbh it's why I've stopped looking, of course no woman's gonna care about my humanity, anyone will choose privilege over equality.

Jonathan · Answer

I love it, and I refuse relationships with women that don't believe in it as I do

Juan · Answer

I love it because it's a form of self validation when I am able to do those things. The key is finding support that won't mind when you don't succeed right away!

Jacob · Answer

Men like working, if not for someone else, then themselves. It's natural and bred into us. I think the problem with our society is taking what's natural and worked for thousands of years and then calling it a problem tgat needs to be solved.

Jorge · Answer

I don't really feel much when hearing it. Some people like that relationship dynamic and seek it with their partner. It's not how I would go about approaching a relationship so I'm probably not compatible with those people, but that's okay. Every relationship is different and you gotta find what works in yours.

Sunday · Answer

In a partnership both people provide, support, protect, and guard. It may not look the same for each but they both contribute equally. One may provide and support financially, while the other provides and supports a peaceful comfortable home. 
In a true partnership these roles will often shift and change as needed for everyone to be cared for. Find a partner not dependent.

Dale · Answer

Its just expected of us. Its just when they are not happy because they WAY you provide when it becomes a salty issue for me 😂

Thang · Answer

I say it's guidelines that can be bended and communicate between the couple. it alright to set curtain roles but wats wrong with helping out and making things easier for each other.

Question for Men

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It's just a natural thing to do. The trick is finding a woman that embraces her role

The patriarchy hurts men too, we tend to forget that, it's why so many men neglect themselves in the face of adversity, they never thought they just didn't have to do it.

I'm not saying I'm against it but I've also done that and it wasn't enough. To some, you can never do enough but to others you will always be enough. Look for the latter. Material things DO NOT being happiness.

I don't mind it. I don't do it because I *have* to, I do it because I *wish* to for whomever I deem is worth the effort.

It makes me feel like im just an ATM and if things get didgey, fodder to throw my life away. In essence it makes me feel inhuman. Tbh it's why I've stopped looking, of course no woman's gonna care about my humanity, anyone will choose privilege over equality.

I love it, and I refuse relationships with women that don't believe in it as I do

I love it because it's a form of self validation when I am able to do those things. The key is finding support that won't mind when you don't succeed right away!

Men like working, if not for someone else, then themselves. It's natural and bred into us. I think the problem with our society is taking what's natural and worked for thousands of years and then calling it a problem tgat needs to be solved.

Its just expected of us. Its just when they are not happy because they WAY you provide when it becomes a salty issue for me 😂

I say it's guidelines that can be bended and communicate between the couple. it alright to set curtain roles but wats wrong with helping out and making things easier for each other.

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