I didn't want to give unsolicited advise

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I don't inherently believe in a "soulmate". The idea of one person being the perfect match is a very romantic idea, but in it's romanticism it is also idealized. It makes you search for perfect and shun the perfectly imperfect. But in the end the only person this robs is yourself, and I would say that if it bothers you then try opening your horizons. But if you are happest searching for perfection then I wish you nothing but luck.
So I would say worry not if you had missed your chance for true happiness, because it will only distract you from the happiness at your feet. But in the end do what makes you happy.
All the best
- mouse 🐁 
Tldr; Kleinvieh macht auch Mist

Eric · Accepted Answer

True, it gives the notion that your "soulmate" will just work. That there will be no fights and everything will go smoothly. So the second there is a fight people drop eachother because they can't possibly be "soulmates".

T · Answer

What if people can have multiple soulmates?
I don't think a soulmate is supposed to be perfect, it is supposed to be a deeper form of connection and very deliberate and focused actions on both sides. You could meet the person who is most likely to make you happiest and it could all fall apart of one or both of you don't put in the time and effort. Everything comes down to decisions and actions.
A soulmate isn't a unicorn. It is a flawed human who is also struggling with the human affliction. They could make you happy or they could destroy you, that goes both ways.
And no, "if its meant to be, it will be" isn't real and doesn't hold water.

Mouse · Answer

True, my... (well I wouldn't call it an issue) my sticking point is in the use of soulmate, If I had one. the post I was trying to offer my opinion - but tucked away in a little mouse hole - upon was wondering if others ever worried about missing their soulmate due to too high a bar of entry. To which I tried to say that if it bothers you, you should change it, and if not then don't. But my pedantic side felt like changing the term soulmate to partner or companion due to the assumed qualities in the word soulmate. In the end I care not the terminology used, and if you can make the distinction in that a soulmate does not inherently mean perfect, all the better. I should try and explain my pedantics thank you for my next idea.
all the best
- mouse

I didn't want to give unsolicited advise

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True, it gives the notion that your "soulmate" will just work. That there will be no fights and everything will go smoothly. So the second there is a fight people drop eachother because they can't possibly be "soulmates".

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