I've actually only dated a few men older than me. I usually find them to be way too serious for me. Here is my experience. Older men take work and life responsibilities serious which is great and of course expected, however for me the problem arises when most of them lack the desire for simple life adventures, traveling, going out, being spontaneous... etc. They don't like to lose or take risks, I understand this in business, but not anywhere else. Nothing in life is guaranteed and life is short. Do you date them? Why are you attracted to older men? What's your experience with them? If you are a guy, please feel free to share your opinion to dating younger females, or older (edited)

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Jay

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Lol this is the problem with the yolo mindset.

Sheng

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Omg I that old already???? Glad I'm still playing games...

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42 here

Mark

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I kinda stick to roughly five years either side of my age. I have found anything more your at separate stages of life with totally different life expectancies and experiences. I am 35, I want to settle down and have my own family and focus on loving them. A woman in her 20s is more likely to still be career driven, wanting to explore the world, still learning her place. Unnecessary sacrifices would need to be made for the relationship to be attempted and then would most likely fail.

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I can't comment on age being one way or another. I've been primarily attracted to younger females but then again that's never really panned out for me. I also spent six years going on seven single and celibate which has definitely served its purpose and I'll continue to do so until the right person comes along.. however I did find that life was passing me by also so i have started being more social and being on this app has been one of my endeavors. To me age is just a number as I've met older people that behaved more childishly than some that were younger than me.

Mathew

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Pisces

The opposite is true as well. It's a crash course of finding the right one

4qu4r1u5

INTP

I think it is very difficult to find a general answer to your question. It is very individual on both sides of the relationship. There is a certain period of age, for argument sake 25 to 45yrs, where the differences in age may be largely neglected if both partners fall into this range. If one of the partners is outside, then the relationship is likely to be biased toward young body/spirit on one side and the experience/wealth on the other. At the end of the day, if individual needs are largely fulfilled on both sides, then the age is really irrelevant. But one should not disregard the environment which if filled with prejudice, can massively influence the relationship as well.

Dev

INTP

Cancer

I feel it depends person to person. Age has nothing to do with a person's soul, some has jolly, happy soul Irrespective of their age and on the other hand some are just born boring, irrigating and idiots.

Lindsay

INFP

Capricorn

I generally prefer older men just because that's typically what I'm attracted to with a few exceptions. I think the lack of spontaneity could have more to do with their personality type more so than their age. (edited)

Zackery Sprague

ISFJ

Aquarius

Yo I want to take risks and be spontaneous. I’m just looking for a girlfriend to fit those shoes lol

Beckett

INTJ

Libra

I have a recommendation... If you pay for all the activities, bills for the older guy, and other expenses... you might find that the older men start to liven up. If they have less responsibilities I'm certain a good number of them will liven up. I'm a bit different. I used to be rich but after a very damaging divorce and the next girlfriend who basically kept EVERYTHING of mine, I just enjoy what I can. My goals to own a house once again sometimes limit what I spend on dates and vacations but I still travel more than the vast majority of people. And I like creative and spontaneous women because it's a nice experience being with someone who doesn't expect me to plan all our activities 👍

Evan

ISFJ

Scorpio

The reason why they don't like to take risks is because they did that when they were younger. They are now in their endgame as you yourself are only looking for fun. If you aren't looking for commitment don't date them.

Roger

ENTP

Pisces

I love to have fun, and have handled my responsibilities while not letting go of my youth. There's some of us out there, but we might be rare.

SURYODAY

INFJ

Sagittarius

I don't care about age but honestly you look more younger and more prettier 😉

Mayank

ENFJ

Scorpio

You shouid date someone your age then the chemistry still stands out and yha they are not so mature as compared to the old ones but it's life we need to learn and grow together :)

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