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Kimyology
2y
INTP
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7It doesnβt really matter what to say. I think youβll only get a response if you will PASS their subjective standard of beauty, vibe, desires, and other considerations like distance, culture, status, and such. Hate to say but if you do not pass that bar, then youβll not get a response.π€·π»ββοΈ
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Salman Sami
2y
ISFJ
Virgo
32
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Missy Kay
2y
ISFP
Libra
65
54
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Nick
2y
ENTJ
Sagittarius
Depends on the situation. Realistically they are talking to you and are concerned with how you are doing. What else do you want? The line is open. Talk about whatever you want afterwards.
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Krista
2y
INFJ
Leo
45
5I mean, I never answer messages that donβt have anything else to say. A random person on the street can say that to me. With what is on my profile here, if you canβt find something more interesting to open with, Iβm not bothering π
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Dutch Vegan cat mom
2y
ISTP
Gemini
67
7No I absolutely hate when people do that and always ignore those messages
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Mo
2y
INFP
Leo
23
3i have sorta done the trail by fire in this whole socialising thing, so i can Relate to both sides. Anyway personally, and by common consensus ;it's always better to ask about a common interest and remain cordial and not flirty for a first message. flirty will be overused, and unless you have experience and magnetism to carry it ;it will flop as an opener. oh and if there are no common interests, then an easy one is tell me about your passions, what drives you?. etc. and latch on to the things they like as a conversation piece. (edited)
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Bil Kemb
2y
ISTJ
Leo
Conversation without greetings is a conversation. Greetings like Hi, how are you is a polite and a formal expression of goodwill.
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Soli
2y
INFP
Libra
21
1Is it ok? Yes.But! And this is especially for men: Men specifically are known to have lazy, bad profiles and worse pictures. If you want better success on dating apps 1. Put actual effort in 2. Make yourself attractive to a partner. 3. Message people youre actually interested in, don't "waste" energy on 10.000 messages, then fail at writing a great message to a good match. Great openers are not enough. A hi, how are you can work if ur profile is decent.
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Nathan
2y
ISTP
Aries
Online you should probably start with something else based on the other person's profile. If you have common interests etc
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Sarah
2y
INFP
Virgo
It's okay to start that way, but if you're looking for replies I personally like to see more effort. Like, show me you read through my profile. Ask a question about the xyz in my profile. That's when a conversation can truly start. It gives me something to work with and shows me you are different from others. You show you actually care and want a genuine conversation. Just my 2 cents and hope it's helpful for anyone out there reading the comments. π
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2y
INTJ
Cancer
19
9This would be my first pick
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SurrealMartin
2y
ENTP
Leo
54
4From my perspective, it shows lack of interest/ideas and is a dead giveaway that the person in question hasn't read my profile. I have it written first thing to avoid small talk, as I tend not to respond to smalltalky texts! Unless of course I see that the person has a very interesting profile themselves. Then I'll give it a shot nevertheless! π From my observation though, the majority of people who send bland "hi" or "hi how are you" texts have profiles that don't pique my interest. (edited)
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Maelstrom
2y
INTP
Taurus
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73
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Raphael
2y
INFP
67
7If someone sends me a text like that and I respond similarly, I just feel weird afterwardβlike a portion of my attention, willpower, and energy is just arrested in limbo, hanging out in the ether. I can't intuitively remember a time where I responded and it felt worth it. So I think, imo, you're better off really trying to hook someone's interest somehow; and if you don't feel like you can, it might just be better to leave 'em alone. -- I encourage people do do what they intrinsically feel like doing in their gut, though, once they've given it sufficient thought & heartfelt consideration. But if anything robs you of peace, causes anxiety or depression, etc.βthat's often a sign it's not the move to make. (edited)
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