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Posted Tuesday, October 4, 2022
2y
INFP
Virgo
Confused
So basically been on and off with a guy for over 2 years. He says he loves me but he don't wanna be with me. Plus I want kids and he is certain he don't. I just don't know what to do anymore
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⭐Jay 🇬🇧⭐
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Cancer
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There's a saying that I go by: Men like what they see, and women like what they hear. That's why women wear make up and men tell lies. I'm sorry to say this but I agree with Vixen. You can wish and wish as much as you want that one day he will want to be with you but seems like he's just playing with your feelings. You need to find someone else who wants to be with you and wants to have kids. Actions speak louder than words. (edited)
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Ryan
2y
INTJ
Sagittarius
You are so young that any decision you make will be a bad one. Most likely you'll choose to stay and try to find happiness, but it won't work. If there's an easy choice and a hard choice, the easy one will prolong your suffering, and the hard one will create a different kind of suffering. But the hard one leads to growth and renewal, while the easy one makes things stay the same. But it's your choice. Either way, maintain your dignity and self-respect and you'll find happiness in the little things, just like always.
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Samuel
2y
INFJ
Aquarius
Relationships do not merely depend on affection. It depends on whether you both are on the same page, that is to say whether your interests and morals are akin. If they're too different and don't match your needs and if they don't respect your boundaries, you're simply in an unhealthy relationship. A relationship is a serious commitment with another person. To sacrifice that which matters to you, say, your values and morals and the like, merely because you feel affection and love someone is no reason to put up with it. If you can't meet in the middle the relationship won't work and you'll waste time and effort. Time only moved forwards. It won't wait for you or return. Of course it's hard. I love my ex so much and I loved her character. However, she had high expectations of me and eventually lost interest. We were up and down, so it seemed like she wasn't sure. She knew I wasn't for her, but she loved me, and I love here. But we both knew we weren't working together. Its not a matter of whether you love each other or not, or whether you want them. This is not ebay relationships are about, its not that black and white. In sum, regardless of your natural feelings and desires, if your partner and yourself aren't working, you need to acknowledge that and leave if you can't work out. One might ask, then, how long shall I wait. Waiting for 1+ years is not wise as its a waste of precious time. You're better off being with someone who respects your needs and values and shares them rather than someone who's different regardless how much you love and want them, and they you. (edited)
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AJ
2y
INFP
Virgo
Sounds like my ex fiance Matt.. as harsh as this might be and as much as you might not want to hear this your best bet is to move on, and that's something I didn't want to do myself. After I had gone pregnant with our daughter Adalynn, I made the biggest mistake and biggest sacrifice for my partner I had put my daughter up for adoption like he had wanted then got my tubes tied so I couldn't get pregnant again like he asked.. a month later he left me.
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Mike
2y
ESTJ
Pisces
His mind set is why pay for for the cow when the milk is free. Tell him your pregnant see how fast he forgets you or tells you to get an abortion. You are so beautiful why are you settling for sour milk. He will never give you what you want. He doesn't respect the person you are. Have you ever heard the saying he getting his cake and eating it to. You deserve better. Much love hope you here us guys for every one of him there's 10 guys that will put you on a pedestal.
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Indra (he/him)
2y
INFP
Cancer
I see 🤔 So he is a manipulator and you are a convenient girl for him, good luck 🤞
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Asher
2y
ENTJ
Capricorn
Find someone that works better and wants kids. I won't be with anyone that doesn't want a child.
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Bo
2y
INTP
Aquarius
If your not in a relationship( or atleast the one you are wanting) then try talking to other people, even if you still can't let go of him, it might allow you to see there can be feelings for someone else, and if you begin pulling away it would be more obvious he needs to make a decision or he could lose you. Also I don't mean to make him jealous, I would still talk genuinely to anyone but I think it's probably time you atleast tried to see what movin on could be like, and who knows maybe you'll find someone new and make a connection. (edited)
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Leo
2y
ESFJ
Capricorn
He just using u...just leave
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Anita
2y
INFP
Sagittarius
Girl he so not into you.move on....
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Kevin
2y
INTP
Sounds like this guy wants all the benefits of a relationship (i.e. sex, exclusivity, comfort, reassurance, a shoulder to cry on, someone to confide in) without the committment, or actually being in a relationship with you. Put a lot of space between the two of you, move on. If he genuinely loves/has romantic feelings towards you and is just immature/anxious, then he'll see the error of his ways, correct them, and commit to you. If he lashes out and/or reacts in unstable/unhealthy ways to try to manipulate or emotionally blackmail you, then he was only ever using you - that's not a friend. Space and distance are my prognosis. That way, you will ultimately get your answer and be able to move forwards, one way or another.
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Andrew
2y
INTP
Scorpio
His love may be genuine, but it sounds like you guys are incompatible regardless. Love ain't magic, you can have it with someone who's compatible too. Go with your brain on this one, not your heart. It'll work out better for you.
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Kevin
2y
ESFP
Leo
I had been seeing someone who didn't make me feel like I mattered. That was enough for me to run. If you don't feel like a better person when you are with someone, get out.
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Hannah
2y
INTJ
Sagittarius
Rip the bandaid off and end it. He don't love you, he's just used to you at this point.
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Angel
2y
INTP
Cancer
Not for you. Maybe you love each other a lot but would be better of either alone for a period of time or with someone else
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