Please tell me if I am doing it wrong, for something that I've not been really familiar with because am still learning and adjusting.. I am not sure if I have learnt the true meaning of Patience. (Sabr...) I've learnt to be patient for those who done me wrong. Yet I feel I am entitled to my emotions that when I bottled up way too long, I let it Explode one time. Even if it means to be tactful and straight up telling them what behaviours I don't approve anymore. Yes, we may be young at heart, but I can be extremely rational and practical not to accept misdemeanor. I feel I triggered those Tower Moments moreso than the other, tbh. But once it's over, life became less chaotic.. Even if it means never being able to feel the same way before about the other person and letting it go now, and be 'patient' what's in store for me next. I really don't chase and force things, maybe I am the woman so my pursuits are not towards a man but my life goals, but I don't know if that's right...

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Elijah

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I feel like i've always been one of the patient people i know. So patient that i'd wait in the order line to pick up something i ordered online xD. Bottling things up doesn't sound very healthy. Maybe it comes with being an ENFP. Maybe you can pick up a hobby, such as boxing (or at least hitting a punching bag) or singing / screaming vocals. I tend to be able to easily let things go, but maybe it comes more from not wanting to become like my mother, who still holds grudges, decades later. You seem to be pretty specific about what you are trying to be patient about. You have every right to chase your own life goals. If your man cannot catch up, that's on him, but ultimately, it is up to you to decide whether to push him to catch up, to wait for him, or to leave him behind. Props to you for learning patience and applying it. Seeing how common impatience is, i admire those who are able to keep it together. One character trait i've learned recently that improves my life is self-confidence. While i feel like i still might be below average in confidence, i have definitely learned to accept myself more than i have in recent years. While i've been slacking on the habit, my life coach had started me off by having me journal one thing that brought me joy in the day, and one thing that i like about myself. I might still make self-depreciating jokes, but this time, it's no different from roasting another person without malice, because i know how i actually feel about me, and these days, it's mostly positive.

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Indra (he/him)

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For me, being patience doesn't mean we tolerate others wrong doing but, to not be angry and shout at them when they wronged us but to let them know in a good way, with a normal tone of voice ☺️ About patience regarding SO, I don't think there's a correct answer for that, if you choose to pursue your life goals then feel free to do that, the most important things is for you to be happy, if pursuing your life goals makes you happy then that's better, I think 🤔

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