Posted Sunday, May 15, 2022
4yDating when plus size…
Are you supposed to tell a guy you are bigger? Even if you Have a full body picture? I know this is a weird thing to bring up, but I feel like dating is hard and weird. I’ve hung out with guys who have straight up called me fat (WTF) when we hung out. I’m not trying to be disrespected like that ever again!
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4y
If there's a full body pic, they can't not know what they were getting into. 🤷♀️ I know the internet holds fakers, but unless you are significantly different looking than your profile pics you shouldn't be accused of misrepresenting yourself. That being said, guys who directly call you fat are rude, inconsiderate assholes who don't deserve your attention. Me being a plus sized girl myself, I am AWARE that I'm not small, thank you very much. And comments about someone's weight are generally not welcome no matter what.
4y
Tbh if you have a full body pic it's on them. I can't even call it due diligence with a straight face for how little effort it is to check photos. I can generally tell when someone is out of my weight league and if in doubt can always check the photos. No diss to heavier people, you live your life like you think you should, I live mine like I think I should.
4y
Yes it's a good thing to share many aspects about yourself. What I like to do is share with the person who interests me, you let them know before hand "hey my body looks like this, is it okay with you?” you show them photos, and you make sure that they are on one Accord with you, that no matter what size they still like you before you meet them, you can even do video sessions. It is quite unfortunate to hear you be treated in such a way, but it shows how awful the person was and that you dodged a bullet, everyone Is entitled to a preference, or mandate, but being rude to someone who doesn't fit those standards is wrong, and you genuinely didn't deserve that.
4y
Being someone on the bigger side of the scale, I'm of the mindset that the bigger you are the more of you there is to love. The bigger someone is the better hugger and cuddler they are in my opinion because we make for better pillows and we appreciate the close contact since it shows people don't mind being close to us. And your body is perfect, just like everybody else's bodies. And as long as you are happy with your body then nobody else should be able to make you feel bad about yourself
4y
If I’m being completely honest you seem like a very pretty woman but I’d imagine that you that you would also be very interesting to talk with and get to know
4y
Let me put it this way, they are going to find out regardless. If you tell them in advanced and they dont want fat, they will leave right away saving both of you time. What is really important tho is that you dont judge men for rejecting you because of weight because men are allowed to have preferences too. (edited)
4y
I completely agree with Giovanni! 🙌 Natalee, you deserve better! Personally, I think society puts waaay too much emphasis on looking a certain way. All bodies are beautiful! I, for one, would never not date someone because they're overweight. No matter how hard it may seem now, keep being yourself and being proud of who you are and eventually you'll meet a guy that loves you just the way you are ❤️ In the meantime, maybe someone else here has some advice for you about how to find out if a guy is judgemental before you meet him to avoid the disappointment?
4y
If you are showing true pictures of yourself, it makes no sense to me why they would act surprised that you are a more plush person. Just plain rude to call anyone fat!!! I have been both thinner & BBW, it doesn't seem to matter to most guys your size... and if it does...they are not for you. I have in the past when dating brought up that I am first tall and then also BBW... just so in case they are too shallow to not appreciate all that I have to offer as a person...fortunately for me husband likes a softer, more cushion...plush...however you want to put it. (edited)
4y
You shouldn't have to say any of that. Here on Boo your personality is supposed to shine. I get that body image for some are paramount, I think people could tell the difference in a profile on those who are athletic or have hobbies like mountainclimbing or such, to those who enjoy different foods, or work at a desk job for long periods. People can be jerks, but most can read between the lines. I have a big problem with those that don't hav bye any goals or ambition, but dating plus size there isn't a problem there. You just need to be patient as I am sure you know that are others in the same boat. Best of luck to you.
4y
If he can't figure it out from your full body photos, that's his problem. I have no problem with the word "fat," but anyone who uses it as an insult can GTFO. Dating is hard and weird. Especially for us plus sized ladies, because so many men are full of hate for any woman they consider too fat to f**k. Whether they just flat out state that we're not good enough for them or whether they try to conceal their bigotry behind a veneer of concern about health, they are nothing but haters and best to leave them in the dust.
4y
You don't need to give a disclaimer as if it's a bad thing, but I've noticed a trend where bigger women only have photos of their faces. That just feels dishonest and screams of insecurity. Big ladies are beautiful 🙂
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