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Posted Saturday, September 17, 2022
2y
ESFJ
Pisces
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Effects of loosing your v card
I got ghosted after loosing mine recently, how do you deal with the emotional aftermath alone? It wasn't a good experience and Idk I went through all the stages of grief I guess. I've come to accept it but now I'm on a whole new low of depression. Edit: To be clear Yes my Virginity and it was just supposed to be a date and he got impatient I geuss idk how it happened but it did. I thought since he rushed it like that that we'd still talk about it but he dropped me off on the side of the road where I had to spend the night and I never heard from him again. 😕 I'm looking for someone to date and get to know but I ended up with a mistake. (edited)
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Yvette
2y
INTJ
Taurus
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Hi Savannah. I can't very well expressed how sorry I am this happened to you. I see you are quite young, and this must be one of the grave experience that you came upon. Reading your post, i felt your pain, and it would be very superficial of me to say everything will be okay, cause it wouldn't be immediately. Everything is a process.. Please seek your family or friends not just for comfort, but to let out all those negative feelings, and cry if you must. I am hoping you have someone nearby who'll listen to you. And I am hoping for your healing, both mentally and emotionally.. I wanted to personally send you a message, but don't want you to think me weird.. So feel free to message if you want someone to talk to, okay? And please don't be hesitant to seek professional help, they can help you process all these.. (edited)
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Bill
2y
INFP
Sorry to hear that happened to you. Do your best to not handle it alone. Try taking to someone. It might be embarrassing at first, but should help you feel better faster.
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Josef
2y
INFP
Sagittarius
I second everyone's recommendation that you find a trusted someone to talk to about this. A therapist would be ideal (since they are almost guaranteed to be non-judgmental) but not everyone has access to that sort of support. Sex can be complicated and messy, especially your first time, but consent should never be. Like a few others have said, as you process, if you feel it would be appropriate, go for a police report. All this could be a lot more manageable if you're in college, see a counselor there, and they'll be way more helpful than internet strangers. Sorry you were treated this way, hang in there, you're stronger than you know
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Khang
2y
ISFP
Capricorn
I'm sorry. That guy was a POS. I hope you can come to understand that it had nothing to do with you and you are able to find the closure and support you need. Hang in there queen <3
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Genélle
2y
ENFP
Sagittarius
Honey, this does count as coercion, and you have every right to feel your pain. I second those who encouraged you to consider making a police report. But if you do not feel comfortable doing so, I certainly hope you will seek counseling and focus on your healing. You are worthy of love and respect!
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Ruby
2y
INFP
Libra
I am so sorry this happened to you. First know that not all men are like that dirtbag. Take some time to heal, emotionally, mentally and physically. Once you decide you are ready to start dating again, learn from your mistake. Let these dudes know you are not interested in a one night stand, you want a relationship. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Take your time and get to know them before you decide to sleep with them.
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Daniel
2y
INFP
Capricorn
I'm sorry to hear that you had a horrible experience. When I was younger, I was that Sonofabitch. I'd never leave someone stranded though, that's just heartless. There are somethings that men at that age don't even realize about themselves. The first is the significant role hormones play in decision making. It's very much like a drug addict trying to get their fix. They're willing to do and say whatever it takes; but the kicker is that they're not always conscious that they're doing it. And like a drug addict, when the payoff seems like it's taking too long, they become impatient, demanding, they might even cry to manipulate a person, or they'll just give up. Them giving up is a blessing. Because it means they wanted it, and not you as a person. What you want in a relationship is upto you, but for a long-term relationship, seek someone who likes being around you just because, and sex isn't even a thought to them. Going slow has the benefit of weeding out the fuckbois, creeps, and sex addicts. But go forward with the knowledge that sex is a drug, and testosterone is it's pusher. Be safe out there. I hope the next one loves you like a best friend.
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Brian
2y
ENFJ
Pisces
😔I'm so sorry you had to experience such a bad relationship🥲unfortunately I don't know what to say to make you feel better but if your open to talking about it I'm here 😊I'll do my best to make you feel better
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Amanda B.
2y
ENTJ
Capricorn
There are two kinds of people in life. Givers and takers. The takers always seek out givers. And they'll take as much as they can. Never forget it. If you're a giver, avoid the takers. And never mistake a taker for a giver. What's crucially important is 1. You understand you are not to blame. It isn't your fault this happened. It didn't happen because you were naive or giving. It happened bc HE was a taker. 2. You should also understand this does not, IN ANY WAY, reduce your worth as a woman. Maybe you had dreams of saving it for Mr. Right. Well...sometimes Mr. Right can't handle the pressure or feeling of obligation that comes with that. Mr. Right could be a wonderful guy but everything can end up sabotaged by the unspoken feelings of obligation that come along with being the first. Take time to heal. See this POS for what he is. Know that you're too good for him. Trust me on that.
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Spero Manolatos
2y
INTJ
Taurus
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope you know that you're not worthless and that you deserve someone who's more mature. I'm not great with advice but I would say try to stay away from guys that have similar red flags to that one guy. Best of luck hope you feel better soon 👍
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Travis
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INFP
Cancer
What is wrong with people that's messed up
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