Posted Wednesday, March 19, 2025
1yScared of commitment?
I am quite literally exposing myself but I don't care. I haven't ever been a serious relationship, I usually break things off when things get boring or if theres too many red flags, and right now thinking about ver committing to a person romantically scares me. I know I must be emotionally avoidant and/or emotionally immature in this department but I know there's other people they feel the same and if you did but now don't what changed and why
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Just be honest, sincere, take it slow. It should be friendship first and get deeper. Everyone is different. I am deep very soon, and if the other can handle that it is a good sign. Others take longer to see/know the other person's heart/character/pains-hurts. Then you need to know the learned behaviors and thinking styles. And you both may need to adjust, heal, grow.. Or perhaps you find you are not compatible. But the fear goes away as you get to know each other. Please say you know them in person (not just online). And how long have known or dated in person. Marriage is a huge commitment so your fears should be, I cannot live without them. (Not questions if you can live with them). I am not what it means by committing to someone romantically. If you mean "dating" it is just getting to know them more deeply and exclusively for know to see. If you mean physical intimacy. I guess I reserve that for someone I am already more committed to more likely life commitment partner/marriage. It is a question for you to decide, what it means to you, and talk about what it means to him. You should have a open discussion to make sure you are on the same page. Either way, best of luck. Just know you are valued, important, you should feel cared for and respected in the relationship. (edited)
1y
Are you scared of committing or are you scared of committing to the wrong person and getting hurt??? If you've never been in a serious relationship then what is it about being in one that keeps you from one.
1y
Commitment is a big step, and it’s completely normal to feel scared of it, especially if past experiences or personal tendencies lean toward emotional avoidance. But I believe commitment isn’t about losing freedom or excitement—it’s about choosing to grow with someone who challenges and supports you. Boredom and red flags are valid concerns, but maybe true connection isn’t about finding a 'perfect' person but about choosing someone even when things aren’t perfect. Growth happens when we lean into discomfort instead of running from it. If you ever feel ready to explore that side of things, I think it starts with trust—not just in a person but in yourself to navigate relationships in a way that doesn’t feel suffocating. What do you think holds you back the most?
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