I feel like a man is not interested in me if he doesn't chase me. If he was really interested don't you think he would put in more effort to pursue me ? I've had men who would text me everyday or try. I would have men trying to call me everyday, ask me out on dates, plan them etc. Every once in a while I'll get the man who says they are interested but will not put in much effort. He's not doing anything bad but is doing disappointing things like saying "I want a second date with you" but nothing gets planned. Or I'll text and he'll reward the text and not say anything. Is it fair to feel like I'm getting mixed signals ??

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Abhimanyu

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If a man will chase you then you will call it Desperate. It is also true that a man knows that many other men are chasing a same woman so let woman decide where she want to go

𝓗𝓸𝓷𝓮𝔂 👸🏾

INFJ

Libra

For me, action speaks louder than words. People can say what they want, but their actions always give away their true intentions. Sounds like mixed signals to me. I would stop communicating with them and see what they do.

Porthos

ISTP

Taurus

Maybe you run too fast and get too far ahead of the guys so they see it as you're not interested. Men are literally the simplest creature on the planet!! Some fungi have more brain cells than we do... with that it mind if a guy puts in the effort to text you and you provide a luke warm response we instantly think hmm she not into me. Why are we still playing the games that we did in elementary school? If he says "I want a second date" and you respond with an OK and then expect him to plan everything maybe your response should be "Yeah that would be really nice"...

Jose

INTJ

Capricorn

Each person is different, but the question remains what have you done? Men will chase women, but they also know they aren’t the only ones. I don’t know what sort of relationship you are expecting but if it’s validation than that is a bad mindset to have. A rule while hiking for lost travelers, is that it’s hard to find someone, if your always chasing them.

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Only simps chase

Christy

Author

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@Abhimanyu where did I criticize men ?

Joichino

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@Christy let me try to words that you understnad 1. Get a career that makes you money. 2. Invest well in stocks, real estate etc. 3. Sigma male grindset. 4. Make your first million These are the steps required for every man regardless if they are 1 or a 10. These steps can take a man over 20 years to achieve a lot of them will fail. Now tell me What make you so special, to hold a man's time for more than a second? Peace I need to go to work. (edited)

Joichino

INTJ

Cancer

Your turn to chase,put in effort, you ask them out and pay everthing. Youre 30+ now

Zach

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Sounds too much like playing games to me. If I am interested in someone, I say it, I expect the same. Who has the time to play tag nowadays?

Jacob

ISTP

Leo

Here is the thing, not all men are attracted to you equally. A man that puts in lots of effort shouldn't be treated as average because he is literally the exception. The problem is, that man gets taken for granted and women start to think he is the standard, he wasn't. He was exceptional. So either stay with the exceptional man or accept a trade off.

Kevin

ISTJ

Taurus

I believe there are three important pillars at the start of every relationship: self esteem, reciprocation, and not being lazy. Self esteem: comfortable being yourself and limiting outside forces that influence you to make bad decisions. Reciprocation: you giving the same energy receive and if it doesn't match you fall back. Both parties find each other sexually attractive Not being lazy: not being lazy in communicating your wants, needs, and desires The important question I want to ask is: were you more attracted to the guys who texted you or called you everyday or the guys that didn't?

S the Mysterio Aunt 🤪😝🦝✨️

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Sounds like breadcrumbing behaviour to me.

Joichino

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Still need to finish my first million, good thing i invest in my physics and electrical engineering degree, high quality stocks, and keeping myslf below budget

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If a man will chase you then you will call it Desperate. It is also true that a man knows that many other men are chasing a same woman so let woman decide where she want to go

For me, action speaks louder than words. People can say what they want, but their actions always give away their true intentions. Sounds like mixed signals to me. I would stop communicating with them and see what they do.

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