Me 10 years ago, at 24. My look never really evolved. I looked much matured at 24, and look slightly younger at 34 🤦🏽‍♀️ behaviour wise too. I guess by this time I knew and accepted my parents were narc and I had to reparent my inner child, and broke free from perfectionism.I guess I am still grieving the Old Me, who was very confident, assured of herself and not been used/abused/discarded much later in life.

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I used to tell myself that i miss the old me. The old me without a care in the world and can be happy with anything or nothing at all. The old me, who actually had friends in middle school. The old me, who was much more disciplined and actually listened to myself. But that me did not have many responsibilities or wisdom. You grow older, gain experiences, and as a result, grow vulnerable to sadness or failure. But one of my philosophies i learned while growing was to live with no regrets. While the past is nice to dwell on once in a while, it is not coming back, so the best you can do is take everything you can learn from it and apply what works to the now, if still relevant. I miss you, Old Me. Thank you for everything and for contributing to who i am today. But i have to accept that you are not coming back and to move on. So goodbye Old Me, and welcome, Current Me.

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