I'm 29, no kids, only had one "relationship" and already feeling old. I see so many men saying that my time is up. I'm not valued anymore. I'm washed up. I'm no longer attractive, no man is attracted to women in their 30s, blah blah blah. What do you girls, ladies, women do to block out those thoughts ? Dating in my thirties is really starting to feel like a barren desert. I guess I need help filtering out the lies.

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Ritch

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Libra

I am 31 😂 and had only 2 past relationships.. I would say, you just have to believe that you are beautiful enough. Have the confidence girl! 😏 Shake all negativities.. Once you got that confidence in yourself it will reflect to your averall appearance and people will see you as you see yourself.. This applies the saying, "beauty is in the beholder " 😍

Caty

ENFP

Aries

Sure, there will be some rotten apples that will say that a "young" beauty is all a woman is good for. But are those the apples you want to attract? There a wonderful, real men that see further than the simplicity of what they think human nature is about. There are many men who love and respect about the wisdom and beauty you accumulate over the years. Any men who rejects you for the beauty of your age isn't worthy of even a glance. Head up high queen.

INFP

Taurus

Had someone tell me I’m at my peak when I was 23-24, and they were 28-29. If someone thinks anyone who barely knows anything and JUST started adulthood is “peak,” I feel sorry for them. They must feel like they’ve deteriorated since that age.

Scott

INFJ

Virgo

Anyone attempting to devalue you is also likely trying to manipulate you. There's no need to take seriously the words uttered in duplicity. Your value doesn't come from your physical beauty, it's what's in your heart and mind that counts. FWIW I find your type extremely attractive and I'm 33 no kids 3 relationships.

iNar

INTP

Gemini

I'd like to add some insight but an open, objective mind is a prerequisite...

Daniel

ISFJ

Gemini

I'm 32, have only been in 2 relationships (one for 9 years, the other only a few months hah) and as a guy that is considered old these days, I guess hah I can tell you right now I prefer women your age and older MUCH MORE! Women in their late 20's and early 30's seem to have much more of a grasp on what they want in a relationship and from a partner, which is a major thing...not only that but women around that age know how to be sexy on a COMPLETELY different level than some younger girl, I don't know what it is, but it's completely true hah You are FAR from washed up, and you are definitely attractive Hun, I promise you that! So you should hold your head up high being a woman of your age, as long as you know your worth, than don't settle for anything less 😊

Chris

INFJ

Virgo

who ever told you that is lier there are men who are attracted to older woman and woman in their 30s

Konstantin

ESTJ

Cancer

This "no one wants you after 30" is bollocks! Age gap matters much less at some point in the late twenties, but I would be more reserved about dating a younger girl, than an older one. Reason is pretty simple - past 30 a girl already made mistakes, and learned from them. Or didn't. Either way, it's rather obvious. Younger girl is a Pandora's box. I guess it applies equally to boys as well.

Eren

ENTP

Leo

If possible and really trying to find a lasting partner. Use avenues to meet people in a more natural setting. Online dating apps are.... Always going to have issues because of user error I'll say. So if you can talk to someone in person without any information about them it can really open up the opportunity to make a real relationship come to life quickly

Dengs

ISTP

Aries

That's not true everyone has their time I'm only 24 and I've dated this woman who's already 32 age doesn't really matter for the right person

Maddelyn (Madds)

ENTP

Scorpio

Honestly dating has always been a barren desert for me because I refuse to settle for anything less than what I want. Which is a Healthy relationship with someone who loves me for Me and doesn't try to use or abuse me. That's... Exceedingly difficult to find. Most guys just want hookups, especially since I'm chubby. (I've literally been told "fat girls are easy and that's the only reason I talked to you" by Numerous guys.) You're fortunate enough to be stereotypically attractive, and thin. Guys will fall at your feet with little effort just because of your looks. So I'd worry less about the undesirables that are in your inbox, and more about defining what exactly you Want in a relationship and a partner. The garbage can take itself out, and there's always the handy dandy block button! Hopefully that helps! Oh and I'm not trying to compare, just stating facts based on what I've seen, experienced, and heard. Guys value physical looks Way more than we do. 😩

ISTP

Pisces

Lol, not true at all. If they say that, then they are immature. People live to 70s to 90s these days if they live a full life. Average age of marriage and time of first kid is going up. It's unrealistic to say that everyone will pair up by their 10s to 20s. Those "men" (more like immature boys) have no idea what they're talking about. Even divorcees and widows/ widowers find new flames.

Joy

INFP

Virgo

Life is just beginning my sister. The best is yet to come

Yvette

ISTJ

Taurus

Goodness! What does that makes me..?lol Kidding aside, don't devalue your self just because that's what these ignorant men said. They are setting standards that you don't need to meet. Set your own standards for your self, don't abide to theirs especially at the expense of losing value to yourself.. For me, I'm so focus on my career and personal growth that i don't mind these type of comments (becase i heard it quite often even from family members.lol) Before it used to, but thought, nahh, such a waste of time to even think of what they have to say especially when I see that I have quite accomplished for myself.. Dating in 30s, babe enjoy it. Not dating now, still enjoy and celebrate life, further your career choice, travel, find some new hobbies or indulge in a few healthy ones, spend time with family and friends that really matter and not toxic to the soul, and don't overthink these type of comments for it is vexing.. And you are beautiful, saw your profile, you're not looking old even and has a fine job. So please don't be affected to such comments 😊 Goodluck 🙏☺️🤗 (edited)

Junior

ENTP

Pisces

Why is this under feminism? Lol

Bezio

ENTP

Scorpio

Im the same almost :p only a few relationships that didnt go anywhere or last long and most of my life has been just wanting love with it being nowhere for me.

Avi Kumar

INFJ

Taurus

Finding a soulmate is a different thing but you should love yourself first. You can't be dependent on someone else for your happiness. And there are other important things in life rather then a partner and relationship. So focus on them and if someone come in your life then it's good but if you don't like anyone ever, then also it's fine. It's not compulsory to have a partner to exist in this planet. Loving yourself and accepting yourself is more important.

Anastasia

ENFP

By the way, no kids, no married and wasn't But.... I know I don't wanna be just in relationship. I don't wanna abuse, gaslight and other non comfortable relationship. Or with a man better then before, or I can live single

Anastasia

ENFP

You are so young! It's very nice time! I haven't hear before that in America ageism! Why they said you are old? Maybe should you change your team? Try to looking a man from other vaib. Honest I very surprised... I think it's ageism only here and post soviet union. But America... it's progressive country

DaLadiesSancho

ESFP

Leo

Old no way. A baby yes

Wil

INTJ

Taurus

I'm 33. The last time I had relationship was way-back in college. 2012 to be exact, that was my first and last. Fast forward to 2020, I met a woman from a commom friend. Everything is actually great, from getting to know stage we also start to share our future plans. 4 or 5 months after, she was arranged by his father to marry based on their culture. Until now, I don't know where really am I going or will I still find someone? or will I be living alone my entire life? This may sound so pathetic but what you just said was really relatable.

Klaudijus

INFP

Pisces

It's more than just looks. It's your character, how it's enjoyabke to be around with you, what kind of energy you give, your femenine side. As they say, looks open the doors but character makes a person to stay. Form my side as a men, age makes it better, I started to receive more attention, in the past few years variuos age of women started to notice me more compared to all these years before combined (although often it was just sexual inters unfortunately in which im not interested), I had my first taste of relationships although it didn't lasted that long, anyways quality over quantity is more important, you may have less options but I think in this case in general people are less happier with too much of chooses because of paradox of choices. I think also in many men's cases if they started to attract a lot more women in when they are older they can be bitter towards their own peers. And yes most men are more attracted from physical stand point to a younger women, but as I said there is more than that, depends from a man. Those men who tried to put you down remeber one guy to whom these YouTubers are reacting https://youtu.be/O60Du8AFaIA (edited)

Gene

ISFP

Scorpio

Dont believe them. You're still attractive even when you get old.

Baby

ISFJ

Libra

Loving yourself first is more better than listening to that rubbish. Age is just a number, so, why worry much??? A lot of women enjoys their freedom when single, no responsibilities that hold them down. It's how you live your life accordingly is what matters. 😉😊

THE ADDY 11:11

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Aquarius

Well believe me the more your age the more chances of good mate ✅

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Had someone tell me I’m at my peak when I was 23-24, and they were 28-29. If someone thinks anyone who barely knows anything and JUST started adulthood is “peak,” I feel sorry for them. They must feel like they’ve deteriorated since that age.

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That's not true everyone has their time I'm only 24 and I've dated this woman who's already 32 age doesn't really matter for the right person

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Why is this under feminism? Lol

Im the same almost :p only a few relationships that didnt go anywhere or last long and most of my life has been just wanting love with it being nowhere for me.

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Old no way. A baby yes

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Loving yourself first is more better than listening to that rubbish. Age is just a number, so, why worry much??? A lot of women enjoys their freedom when single, no responsibilities that hold them down. It's how you live your life accordingly is what matters. 😉😊

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