Help with anxiety

Question

Does anyone have any words of wisdom for someone's who's been single their whole life because of anxiety? I've always been very shy to the point where I'm just too afraid to get myself out there, not thinking I'm good enough or just too afraid of meeting strangers in general

It just feels like such a huge step for me that's really scary to take, even though I've done a lot in the past year to improve my anxiety, but I still just have no idea where I can even start. Thanks for reading if you have!

John · Accepted Answer

If your open to medication consult a psychiatrist. Something to just take the edge off so that you can build the confidence from there and know that you are capable. If it's trauma based realize that not everyone is that person/persons, trust your gut but measure it with a base starting point of neutral until proven otherwise. Surround yourself with people that enrich you and don't force it with the ones that drain you. Understand not everyone will like you but if you show the genuine you, you will find the ones that do.

Igor · Answer

Here's my tips.
1. Change your diet, drastically. Avoid high energy food, sauces and drinks (like ice cream, pasta, juice, candy/sweets, cookies, cakes, fast food, pre made food, sodas/pops, alcohol, beer, wine et cetera). Make sure you eat 3 to 5 leaner/healthier meals a day, every day.

2. Start exercising. Go out for a 5 minute walk 2 to 3 times a day. Increase to 10 minutes, 15, 20 and so forth. If you join a 'walk club' you can also socialize more. Also incorporate, if you can, heavy lifts a few times a week. Heavy lifting is chock full of benefits and hardly no negatives at all both for mind and body.

3. Get some new hobbies. Bowling, singing, dancing, arts and crafts, go carts, cooking class, learn to play the guitar, clay work, go skeet shooting, go visit all museums (by yourself), go find cool libraries or or other architectural buildlings that will take your mind off that you are outside or the fact there are full of people around you and you let your brain do something else for a while (key).

Matt · Answer

Medication 100% changed my life. My anxiety was through the roof to the point where I couldn’t even do basic things. After some adjustments, meditation helped me break down that wall and today I rarely feel the need for meditation. But it’s nice to know that I have something that works!

Mitchell · Answer

It's more common than you think. 
I had never been in a relationship until about 2 years ago and I'm 35. 
I'd always suffered with anxiety and spent years thinking I had to be cured before getting I to a relationship. 
Accept that it will most probably always be there on some level big or small. 
As Vinnie said above: small steps are what you need. If your anything like me if you haven't done something for a while you begin to get anxious about it so try to not put things off too much. 
Cliché as it sounds exercise really does help, it's helped me anyway (not quite as much as people make out but it's taken a good 20% of the anxiety away but anything that helps is a win.

I could say more but some of the others have already put it perfectly.

Keep going and you'll get there. Have patience with your self and your pace.

JAcK · Answer

You have major insecurities. See a therapist.

Scotty · Answer

Have you tried therapy? I know it’s hard but it actually is worth it.

Lewis · Answer

Hi mate how are u do u need a chat?

Jacqueline · Answer

Just do little steps to start with. It can take time and how long doesn't matter. Maybe a book club, trivia group, or something similar 🤔

Bonne chance

Mahesh · Answer

Same here, and pretty much what Vinnie said.
The anticipation of something going bad is much scarier than the actual experience itself.
If you're scared of doing something, just do it scared.
Eventually you'll realise that it wasn't as bad as you thought it'd be.

Steven · Answer

My advice would be to gradually challenge the boundaries of what you're comfortable with.

Start off with going out during the day when it's quiet and make a little bit of small talk with the staff in the shops. Then maybe take yourself out for a coffee or something. Just find what works for you and build on it.

Hope this helps!

Shan · Answer

Hey there Adam! Thanks for being brave enough to share your story and struggles - that in itself is something to be proud of. You're making progress. I suppose getting to the root of why you have anxiety - why do you really think you're not good enough - when did you first experience that thought or feeling. When we understand the why then we can figure out a solution. I would definitely recommend finding someone you trust to speak about these belief systems. I know it can be financially overbearing to find a therapist but finding a friend who you can speak about this with in the meantime can help until you can financially afford a therapist. I'm here to listen if you ever want to talk! Wishing you all the best.

Angela · Answer

It's not a race! 🩷🙂

Luca · Answer

💪🏻

Anetka · Answer

I started psychotherapy and it helps a lot.

Arge · Answer

Lot of people just answered you with wisdom... Keep calm some times this kind of things happens, but you need find help, a well trained one.

Therapy will help you, just give it a shot...

Ryan · Answer

Every situation is different the only thing they really share in common is you will be happy once you know the outcome. You don't have to do anything you don't want, if you do be honest about how your feeling. Having been diagnosed with anxiety over 35years ago I know while it never gets any easier there's no point making it harder on yourself. Before going anywhere I repeat my mantra of "no thinking" do some deep breathing exercises to get as much oxygen in my blood stream as possible it seams to lessen the flight response. Probably no help but it does help to know I'm not alone. All the best.

Филип · Answer

Make or break time, there's not much wisdom,just try it it's not lethal

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Medication 100% changed my life. My anxiety was through the roof to the point where I couldn’t even do basic things. After some adjustments, meditation helped me break down that wall and today I rarely feel the need for meditation. But it’s nice to know that I have something that works!

You have major insecurities. See a therapist.

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