Do you hug at first sight? Do you pay for both? Do you insist on “going dutch”? Do you show all your dirty habits or are you on your best behavior? Do you end the date early if you aren’t feeling it or just enjoy your time? Do you communicate your intentions at the end? Ghost? Do you kiss on a first date or have rules about affection? Let’s chat about it!

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Jessica

6mo

INFP

Taurus

1. Maybe a side hug, im large chested and dont want to be smashing those puppies into strangers 😂 2. I always offer to pay and do at times 3. I don’t insist. Always offer to pay. And will go dutch if it’s suggested. In this economy we need to help each other out! 4. Best behavior on a first date.. first impressions are important 5. Enjoy the time unless there is a reason to end it early. I feel like that is rude. 6. Yes, a hey that was fun lets do it again.. if the date goes well. If the date goes poorly “ it was a pleasure to meet you.” With no follow up. 7. It depends on how well the date goes but if there is a genuine connection and you both know it then I think a kiss is ok. (edited)

Jason

6mo

ISFP

Aquarius

Gauge the meeting then go in for a hug. Pay for both but if shes insistent on paying her share then dont argue. Best behaviour always. Enjoy my time even if im not feeling it. Say it was lovely to meet her finally and i had a great time, even if i wasnt really feeling it. If it feels right, walk her to her car or door and maybe a gentle kiss.. nothing over the top. Probably wouldnt fart tho

Howard

6mo

INFJ

Aries

I'm a hugger lol. I don't ask women out if I can't pay for us both but I wouldn't take offense if she wanted to pay for herself nor would I "expect" anything physical just because I paid for her. I'm on my best behavior😅😅 not being fake though. I've only had one date end early it was fairly mutual thankfully lol. AWAYS COMMUNICATE. I haven't done so only once I regret it because it's cowardly. I don't have any rules regarding physical affection. Only that it's consensual and not forced.

Clementine

6mo

ENTP

1. Hug for sure - we've probably had my 5 hrs of convos on the phone as well as a lot of texts by this point so we're reasonably comfortable with each other. 2. I pay for the activity we do but never for dinner (unless I'm on a date with a student or something) 3.i politely ask "are you ok with splitting the bill?" (Again depends on the financial situation of my date) 4. I'm just myself, I will joke around a fair bit, I'll playfully tease and I'll also ask some deeper questions. I don't do a lot of outward flirting or anything or any kind of sexy talk because that's just not me 5. I'm easily entertained, I pick an activity that I'm actually excited about and I feel she would enjoy and I would say a good conversationalist so I can make it work. I'm here already, I probably cancelled plans to be here...I might as well enjoy it to the fullest. 6.Always super communicative. I'll thank you for choosing to spend your day with me, reflect on the date overnight and let you know if I feel there's something there the next day 7. I don't, again, it's just not my thing. You'll probably leave the date feeling friend-zoned until I message you again saying I'd like to see you again the next morning....and then...well you'll be confused. With me, that's the best place to be 😂😂. I'm an unorthodox experience for sure, I very much embrace it but it's not everyone's cup of tea

Amber

6mo

ISFJ

Sagittarius

Omg farting on first dates, pretty funny!

Nancy

6mo

INFJ

Cancer

1. Yes I always do!! That way they can see that I smell nice! 2. If I ask then yes!! 3. I always offer or make an effort to buy dessert. 4. I show my real self 5. Enjoy my time. I like meeting people regardless. 6. I show my interest throughout the date!! 7. If I’m feeling the guy a lot, i definitely steal a kiss. It’s rare when I feel a guy though… you gotta be something special.

Vincent

6mo

INFP

Libra

1) If they're open to it and want to, a hug is fine. 2+3) If we talked about it, I'd do whatever we agreed on; if we didn't talk about it, I'm going to assume I'm just paying for myself. 🤷 4) Best behavior for sure. I'm still gonna be kinda goofy, 'cause I can't help it, but I want people to like me. 🥺 5) I'd probably just enjoy it but not schedule another one 6) Communication is so important! But it also depends on how much we've been talking, right? Like if I barely know you, we might just say goodbye and I won't mention a second date, y'know? 7) Cheek kiss, maybe. I'm shy about that kind of intimacy until I know you better.

Jay

6mo

INFP

Virgo

1. Depends on how comfortable I feel with them, and 100% asking before hug. 2/3. Again, depends. I find splitting the bill to be the most easygoing of first dates, that way we're more focused on getting to know each other rather than any stress about the bill (especially in this economy). 4. I'm just myself! I don't change to be 100% professional or job interview-like, I just let the flow take me where it feels right. 5. This varies! If I'm just not feeling like a second date, I'd probably hang in there. If I feel unsafe vibes or like is going in a direction I don't like, I yeet myself away in the most polite way possible. 6. Communication!!! Communication is absolute key!! Don't ghost, even if it's awkward! The other person deserves to know where they stand!!! 7. Usually not kiss, but I wouldn't say I have a rule against it. It's more of "how did the date go, am I really into them" etc, and again, their comfort level is key. I would say I'd ask about a hug at the end, though.

Evander

6mo

INFJ

Scorpio

1. I usually refrain. I love hugs but only with people I know and like well. But it's not a big deal if they're excited and they're the hugging type. 2. I come prepared to pay for both of us if we haven't talked about it in advance. But I prefer to split the date. I think some women feel like the guy will feel entitled if they pay for things, and I don't want anyone to feel that kind of pressure. 3. I don't insist, but if a date thinks the guy should pay due to chivalry, it's kind of an orange flag for me. If they're in grad school or just flat out say they're short on money, I'm happy to pay for a first date. 4. I'll probably show my dirty habits while messaging if I message for long enough 😅. But I try to be my best "charming" self. So probably a little more outgoing than I normally am. 5. I probably won't, because I tend to prefer dates that are just one thing that won't last too long. One dinner. One coffee shop visit. One walk in the park. And if it's going well, I might propose doing a second thing. 6. Yeah, that can be awkward. Unless I know it went really well, I usually say I'll message when I get back home. If I want to go out again, I'll ask if they want to. If not, then I'll say something like "Thanks for meeting me! I appreciate the time. Take care!" I do not like to ghost or lie. I think it's disrespectful of someone that might like you. But it also gives a date room to turn YOU down and feel safer than having to tell a stranger "no" in person. 7. I've boned within 10 minutes on a first date 😂. Not that it's common. But usually, conversation got spicy before the date and we made sure we were tested and relatively safe. If I want to, I'll ask. And most of the time, they'll accept a peck. I don't usually ask unless I really know we had chemistry right off the bat. Very good questions 😁

Bennet

6mo

ISTJ

Taurus

In conclusion, a wild card. You never know what you gonna get

Michael

6mo

ISFJ

Virgo

I payed for both.

6mo

ISTP

Capricorn

No, won't even expect it, but depends if we been talking for a long time and we are eager to meet one another Yes, being the gentleman and all No, none of that on first dates No, your dirty habits are your personal walk of shame, don't have to bring some one along. Depends on what is early. 30-40 min is average I guess, more if it's going so well. If to end it, it will be done gradually and not abrupt. Everyone plays a role in your life, it's only fair to explore other roles if dating them is not one. No kiss, and not expecting it, unless ofcourse their culture requires to land one.

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