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What can we do to have the love we deserve?

2/18/2023

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Abraham

ENFP

Aquarius

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I think there's this notion of that love that is fairytale like but true love involves labour and compromise

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𝗣𝗔𝗧𝗬 🇧🇷

INTJ

First of all recognize your value, only then will you understand that you deserve to be loved. Before you look for the right person, be it the right person and how can you do it? Loving yourself, I do not speak of “loving” praising your own ego, but loving yourself in knowing that you have value, to know that you are loved, and know that you deserve this feeling. Allow yourself to love and allow someone to love you even if you have already been hurt many times. When we hurt with the thorn of a flower, we will not exclude all the flowers of our lives. The same thing fits our connivance, we often hurt because we are too stubborn, we do the same thing waiting for a different result. Valori -ze, even if you need to walk against the world. While many talk about banal things, look for something for life… because in the end that's what matters.

Karma

ENFP

Aquarius

Love yourself first!

Stephanie

ENFJ

Scorpio

Love ourselves ☺️

Chris

INFJ

Virgo

Continue to give the love, friendship, and kindness to others who are as deserving.

ﾌ_刀の乇尺

INFP

Pisces

A healthy degree of self-love and a strong sense of self-worth. Without these, finding someone to truly love us, just the way we are, will be impossible 🤔

Haseeb

INTP

Aquarius

Love yourself

Toni

ISTJ

Cancer

Be our best selves. Love ourselves and put ourselves first. Or something like that idk. That's what I've been told at least. (edited)

Paul

ISTJ

Leo

Unfortunately there isn't really a good answer for this. Largely because of the disconnect between what we deserve, what we desire, and acknowledging when we have one or the other.

Douglas

ENFP

Gemini

Realize that you don't "deserve" anything. The world doesn't owe you a damn thing.

Anna

INFP

Learn to love yourself first... then learn to give love... and learn to receive love

Lance

ISTJ

Capricorn

Put yourself out there. Lower your walls. You might get hurt along the way, but you will eventually get enough love to cover up the wounds. Don't be afraid to make connections. Go say hi to that stranger, make them a little less strange to you.

Elle

INFP

Gemini

Stay real and leave some love for yourself (edited)

Zabrina

INTP

Aquarius

First and foremost, STOP IGNORING RED FLAGS! But also one has to learn to love and embrace their self. Once someone truly starts to love their self, they will begin to see what their self worth is. And from that point on, it's just a matter of not accepting anything less than the love you deserve.

Eri

INTJ

Sagittarius

Firstly, love yourself.

R3n

ESTP

Aquarius

Give the same love you deserve to receive.

Andy

ENFP

Aquarius

Só estar aberto para isso.

Labyrinth

ENFJ

Pisces

Sometimes there is nothing you can do. If you have to....Maybe that is not the relationship you should be in or want to be in.

Gypsy

ENTJ

Scorpio

Very well said buddy. I think that's what's @Paty is trying to achieve through her question. Unless we recognise our worth and appreciate it, we will never be able to appreciate others.

INFP

Taurus

do the best you can to be a decent person and know what you’re looking for / pursue ppl that share your values?

Roslyn

INFP

Pisces

Know what you want and don't settle for less

Phoenix

INFJ

Sagittarius

If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else. Positive people attract other positive people and misery loves company. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Teach people how to love you and don't settle for less. All anyone can do is spread kindness. Treat people the way you want to be treated but don't be a fool..... Give what you get. If someone will not love you how you deserve then don't block the door for someone who will.

Jackie

INFJ

Virgo

You have to start with yourself before you can love others.. sometimes it takes awhile to heal from whatever you went through.. I'm going through a ugly divorce with a boy that is abusive to me n my kids. I’m not sure if I'll ever be be be ready after I break completely free .my kids come first

Eli

ISTJ

Sagittarius

I don't really think that anyone deserves love simply for existing. At least, not romantic love. As for the question, I'm not sure. I haven't gotten there and don't think most people using this app have either.

Rose

INTJ

Virgo

I think, first we should know what kind of love we deserve.

Sabby

INTP

Aries

Worry about you. The people who care will stick around.

INFP

Leo

We should 'be/do' the love that we deserve, first for ourselves, and also for others around us..We attract what we are!!

TimothyXD30

INTJ

Aquarius

Lol some of these answers are hillarious.. change who we are to better fit into a relationship?? 🤣🤣🤣 thats not love.. honestly there is a saying that you cant find love till you have completely given up on it!

Nat

INFJ

Pisces

Love yourself and others the way you wish to be loved.

Dishani

INFP

Scorpio

I think we cnt do anything in this matter bcz eventually we won't get what we deserve

SajiNoKami

INTP

Capricorn

Well if you have to do things you wouldn't normally do, then it wasn't for you. Be you, the nontoxic version, and the right thing for you will be presented.

Haru

INTJ

Libra

Know your own boundaries and limits. You won't even know what is this 'love you deserve' if you don't yet know what you don't

Jeff

INFP

Scorpio

Communicate clearly about our boundaries and don't compromise them for anyone.

Magda

ESFP

Gemini

You be yourself and only yourself unapologetically and that should be good enough to deserve love. Someone who loves you will love you for all that you are and will not pass judgement upon you.

KEN

ESFJ

Cancer

Stop judging people before you get to know them.

Teri

ESFJ

Leo

Do lots of praying and talkin to the man up stairs ( GOD )

Nicholas

INFP

Taurus

Love our self only then we can love and be loved

Vincent

ENFJ

Gemini

Wait, be patient.

Steven

INFP

Libra

We can be the Love that we want to see in others

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I think there's this notion of that love that is fairytale like but true love involves labour and compromise

Love yourself first!

Love ourselves ☺️

Continue to give the love, friendship, and kindness to others who are as deserving.

A healthy degree of self-love and a strong sense of self-worth. Without these, finding someone to truly love us, just the way we are, will be impossible 🤔

Love yourself

Be our best selves. Love ourselves and put ourselves first. Or something like that idk. That's what I've been told at least. (edited)

Unfortunately there isn't really a good answer for this. Largely because of the disconnect between what we deserve, what we desire, and acknowledging when we have one or the other.

Realize that you don't "deserve" anything. The world doesn't owe you a damn thing.

Learn to love yourself first... then learn to give love... and learn to receive love

Put yourself out there. Lower your walls. You might get hurt along the way, but you will eventually get enough love to cover up the wounds. Don't be afraid to make connections. Go say hi to that stranger, make them a little less strange to you.

Stay real and leave some love for yourself (edited)

First and foremost, STOP IGNORING RED FLAGS! But also one has to learn to love and embrace their self. Once someone truly starts to love their self, they will begin to see what their self worth is. And from that point on, it's just a matter of not accepting anything less than the love you deserve.

Firstly, love yourself.

Give the same love you deserve to receive.

Só estar aberto para isso.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do. If you have to....Maybe that is not the relationship you should be in or want to be in.

Very well said buddy. I think that's what's @Paty is trying to achieve through her question. Unless we recognise our worth and appreciate it, we will never be able to appreciate others.

do the best you can to be a decent person and know what you’re looking for / pursue ppl that share your values?

Know what you want and don't settle for less

You have to start with yourself before you can love others.. sometimes it takes awhile to heal from whatever you went through.. I'm going through a ugly divorce with a boy that is abusive to me n my kids. I’m not sure if I'll ever be be be ready after I break completely free .my kids come first

I don't really think that anyone deserves love simply for existing. At least, not romantic love. As for the question, I'm not sure. I haven't gotten there and don't think most people using this app have either.

I think, first we should know what kind of love we deserve.

Worry about you. The people who care will stick around.

We should 'be/do' the love that we deserve, first for ourselves, and also for others around us..We attract what we are!!

Lol some of these answers are hillarious.. change who we are to better fit into a relationship?? 🤣🤣🤣 thats not love.. honestly there is a saying that you cant find love till you have completely given up on it!

Love yourself and others the way you wish to be loved.

I think we cnt do anything in this matter bcz eventually we won't get what we deserve

Well if you have to do things you wouldn't normally do, then it wasn't for you. Be you, the nontoxic version, and the right thing for you will be presented.

Know your own boundaries and limits. You won't even know what is this 'love you deserve' if you don't yet know what you don't

Communicate clearly about our boundaries and don't compromise them for anyone.

You be yourself and only yourself unapologetically and that should be good enough to deserve love. Someone who loves you will love you for all that you are and will not pass judgement upon you.

Stop judging people before you get to know them.

Do lots of praying and talkin to the man up stairs ( GOD )

Love our self only then we can love and be loved

Wait, be patient.

We can be the Love that we want to see in others

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