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Is it cruel to try to move on even when your heart isn't wanting to?

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Scorpio

No, I’d argue that it’s cruel if you don’t. It’s mental torture. By moving on, you’re finally putting a close to what kept that void open. Even in situations that are out of your control. (edited)

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ENFJ

Libra

No

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INFJ

Libra

It depends. If part of moving on is to use another person to get over the one you love, it's cruel and shouldn't be done.

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Sagittarius

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INTJ

Libra

Sometimes your heart needs to work together with your mind and realize that letting go and moving on with your life is the least cruel, and most loving option ✌️ (edited)

ENFJ

Sagittarius

If the relationship is over. Work on yourself and get your heart better, then move on. It's not cruel, as it "seems" to be human instinct to try find someone, to help you through it. (Emphasis on the "seems", we don't all do it). However it's not fair, on anyone involved. Especially, the person you move on with, if you still like this other person. Always give time to let go, before moving on. If you move on, too quick, it means, you probably were done a long time before. (edited)

INFP

Cancer

Sometimes

INFP

Gemini

Cruel to who? No one needs to move on if they haven't grieved a loss. It's a stupid misconception to move on without a desire to, simply because others assume it's been enough time. No one can say when the time is right for oneself, others opinions are unimportant, since everyone deals with feelings differently (edited)

INFJ

Scorpio

Folks, I feel out of my depth on this one

INTJ

Virgo

This question is veeery vague. What is the situation here? Like are things over? Or still ongoing?

INTP

Pisces

Not at all. Love yourself. Im going through this after a long term relationship and its taking everything to re learn who I am and what I want to do going forward. Nobody likes losing a significant other its a change that we did not want and thats why it hurts so much. Going forward Love needs action Trust needs proof Respect is earned (edited)

INFJ

Scorpio

Don’t mind me

INFP

Cancer

Yes

INTP

Virgo

if you feel like you're heart isn't in a relationship any longer then continuing it not only hurts you but the partner too. when inevitably they notice the lack of love you show them and the change they see in you around them. It may hurt them breaking it off but the short term pain is better then the long drawn out pain of a loveless relationship.

INTJ

Virgo

Sometimes you do just have to move on it's hard but gotta be done

INFP

Pisces

Your heart is never gonna want to But it's for the best

INFJ

Aries

What kind of questions is this?! 😤 Fellas.. yes you’ve been hurt, people do terrible things bla bla bla.. So? you let them “conquer” you? tsk tsk tsk. Yes grief, take you time to heal, be the BEST version of you inside & outside and SLAYYYY. Have a nice day! 😎💅🏻✨💖🤭

INTP

Capricorn

It's tough love to yourself. You need to grieve, but your heart may just grieve forever if you let it.

INFP

Aquarius

It is very painful to move on, but also every grieving period takes it's own time. Why the rush?

ISTP

Capricorn

Well, kind of. In my opinion it's okay to grief as long it's not prolongued...we need to burn every stage in order to move on in a healthy way so there's room for pain and being vulnerable ...after all we are alive, we're humans, we need to feel. Forcing ourselves, dissociating and wanting to turn off our emotions is what lead us to suffering or to develop toxic traits in future experiences (edited)

ISFJ

Capricorn

No, it's natural to feel hurt after losing someone

ISFJ

Leo

No it's not. You can breakdown for awhile. Cry all you want, scream all you want, & curse all you want. But after that, be brave enough to get up and move on. Teach yourself to be strong.

INFJ

Libra

INTJ

Virgo

It's completely okay to move on, even if your heart feels heavy. Growth often comes from discomfort, and life has a way of getting better with time.

INFJ

Sagittarius

If you've decided to move on, it's actually a powerful thing. You're actively deciding to put yourself first

INFJ

Scorpio

Sometimes you just need to accept it won't work. It's always going to hurt and may take time to heal but, that's better than a toxic relationship.

INFJ

Sagittarius

No

INFJ

Sagittarius

You can't force love so I guess no matter you have to move on

INFP

Taurus

I think it’s a 50/50 and depends on the person honestly

ENTJ

Taurus

Imo no.. because I've been in that position.. When u truly love someone (even after you've parted ways), it's easy to move on, but there will still be moments when your heart longs to know how they're doing.. This doesn't mean u haven't moved on or that you're cruel for still loving them, but rather because the issues u had before have been resolved or ended well.. (You've made peace with yourself).. So, u won't care anymore whether that person has found a new partner or not, because all u want to ensure is that "he/she is doing well or are happy".. Note: it's just my opinion and based on my experience.. All the things are that it depends on your thoughts and how u describe the problem.. 😇🙏🏻

ENTP

Virgo

Sometimes the best choices hurt the most. While it's important to let yourself let go, sometimes you have to walk away before you can do that.

INFP

Capricorn

I think it's cruel that some people find it so easy to set dreams with someone, reel them into their lives... then with a flip of a switch they move on without clarity and communication with their significant other. But most of us have been traumatized by past relationships.... in that case... the person needs to grieve that relationship... (i cant emphasis enough how much closure helps)... rebuild yourselves... and then surely move on. But we live in a time where people use others for temporary validations, make fake promises, and them completely discard their partners in the name of avoidance. It's a scary playfield.

ENFJ

Taurus

Listen to your heart

ENFJ

You should listen to your heart. ❤️‍🩹

INFJ

Capricorn

Yes..just don't force it you will eventually heal in time

ISTJ

Libra

I don't think so, unless like some of the comments say it's to help get over an ex in that case it's pretty messed up

ENTP

Leo

That’s something I’m still trying to figure out too 🥲

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Is it cruel to try to move on even when your heart isn't wanting to?

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No, I’d argue that it’s cruel if you don’t. It’s mental torture. By moving on, you’re finally putting a close to what kept that void open. Even in situations that are out of your control. (edited)

No

It depends. If part of moving on is to use another person to get over the one you love, it's cruel and shouldn't be done.

Here to read and view... 😉😆🥰 It's waffle and chix time!!! 😋🤪🤭 Sharing it to everyone of you... Please fill free to get... 😜😂😉 Cheers 🥰💖✨️🌈🌻 (edited)

Sometimes your heart needs to work together with your mind and realize that letting go and moving on with your life is the least cruel, and most loving option ✌️ (edited)

Sometimes

Folks, I feel out of my depth on this one

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Don’t mind me

Yes

Sometimes you do just have to move on it's hard but gotta be done

Your heart is never gonna want to But it's for the best

What kind of questions is this?! 😤 Fellas.. yes you’ve been hurt, people do terrible things bla bla bla.. So? you let them “conquer” you? tsk tsk tsk. Yes grief, take you time to heal, be the BEST version of you inside & outside and SLAYYYY. Have a nice day! 😎💅🏻✨💖🤭

It's tough love to yourself. You need to grieve, but your heart may just grieve forever if you let it.

It is very painful to move on, but also every grieving period takes it's own time. Why the rush?

No, it's natural to feel hurt after losing someone

No it's not. You can breakdown for awhile. Cry all you want, scream all you want, & curse all you want. But after that, be brave enough to get up and move on. Teach yourself to be strong.

It's completely okay to move on, even if your heart feels heavy. Growth often comes from discomfort, and life has a way of getting better with time.

If you've decided to move on, it's actually a powerful thing. You're actively deciding to put yourself first

Sometimes you just need to accept it won't work. It's always going to hurt and may take time to heal but, that's better than a toxic relationship.

No

You can't force love so I guess no matter you have to move on

I think it’s a 50/50 and depends on the person honestly

Sometimes the best choices hurt the most. While it's important to let yourself let go, sometimes you have to walk away before you can do that.

Listen to your heart

You should listen to your heart. ❤️‍🩹

Yes..just don't force it you will eventually heal in time

I don't think so, unless like some of the comments say it's to help get over an ex in that case it's pretty messed up

That’s something I’m still trying to figure out too 🥲

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