Unconditional Love Doesn't Exist

Question

The truth is that we are very shallow selfish creatures. You want love from romance movies but have very precise conditions on how you want your partner to look or act. The "woo is me I want relationship" self drama is just plain comedy because I can sense the dark desperate psychology from that drama. You're sexual, you're possessive and you're frightened to be alone. You don't care enough to simply love unconditionally, it's humanly impossible to care that much. How you ACT proves it. Look at our world. Look at yourself...if you have the guts.

JAcK · Accepted Answer

It does .

Erin · Answer

It exists but I think people forget that it doesn’t come with unconditional tolerance. I love my aunt to the moon and back twice but she isn’t allowed in my life. The way we love changes but the love generally doesn’t and there are consequences to every action.

Matheus · Answer

I guess yes, you can love unconditionally. Especially your sons. It's all a matter of if you (and the other person) really wants it regardless of your differences or fights or whatever

JJ · Answer

You’re thinking of unrequited love, which is extremely unhealthy.

We are creatures of reciprocity. It isn’t selfish to look to indications that your feelings are reciprocated by another person (or pet for that matter). Someone expecting reciprocation is not exactly selfish in the way that we want to discourage. If you won’t reciprocate, why should another person have to deal with continual rejection?

Michael · Answer

It's understandable that you may feel disillusioned or frustrated with the concept of unconditional love, as humans are indeed imperfect and can have various conditions and expectations in relationships. Love can be complicated and messy, and it's not always easy to live up to the ideals portrayed in movies or books.

However, it's important to recognize that unconditional love is not about being perfect or never having any conditions at all. Unconditional love means accepting someone for who they are, flaws and all, and being supportive and caring towards them without expecting something in return. While it may be challenging to fully embody unconditional love, many people still strive to express it in their relationships, even if they fall short at times.

Todd · Answer

Mary, while I agree with most of what you say, I have to disagree when you say "unconditional love doesn't exist".

I would say that (most) parents love their children unconditionally. I would also say that (most) children have felt unconditional love from their parents. (Most) children love their parents unconditionally when they are young and their parents are solely responsible for their children's survival.

I'm an animal lover and I am absolutely certain that I've felt unconditional love from some dogs I've known.

Johnny · Answer

I only understand unconditional love existing in that it can be broken. I don't understand unconditional love in not not existing because of not reliable human emotions. Can you elaborate on that

Michael · Answer

Unconditional love exists.

Sadan · Answer

My default was unconditional love. Literally unconditional. I ended up getting used a lot and finding myself in bad situations. I've had to add some standards and conditions to protect myself. To show that same unconditional love to myself. My love is unconditional. Just don't make me choose between my unconditional love for you and my unconditional love for me. The answer will be both of you and I will have to make compromises. Sometimes the only compromise left that cares for both people is separation. Even in that, love was still unconditional. I can love a star on the other side of the universe that I can never touch or influence. I would like more, but more isn't always possible. That doesn't add a condition to love. It just means life is complicated. That's ok.

Love doesn't have to be conditional. People don't have to be shallow, selfish creatures. You don't have to have very precise conditions on how you want your partner to look or act. If you have a kid, they turn out pretty much however they're going to turn out. You can and should still love them. When your partner ages, they aren't how you wanted them to look or act anymore. You can still love them. Your standards don't have to be precise on looks or behavior. You can be better.

Carmelo · Answer

It does, but sometimes we ignore red flags in the beginning and they come riggt back to bite us when we least expect it. I learned that lesson the hard way.

Reece · Answer

I was gonna say I would but then I realized monogamy's a condition.

Sam · Answer

I'm capable of loving unconditionally, especially if my lady gives me something to truly love.

JayJay87 · Answer

Always good to see a woman admit this. If women just admitted this From the start men wouldn't leave themselves so open to having all their time, attention, money, integrity wasted. Women being honest like this will save everyone time.

Moyu · Answer

Unconditional love exists I personally love my sisters and brothers without questioning without favor no we might not always agree but we will always care about each other and I will personally have their backs everytime

Sharif · Answer

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Tiberiu · Answer

It exists womp womp

Nathan · Answer

I feel pretty sad for you if you think that. Someone must have not treated you with kindness. Its out there.

Richie · Answer

There is no such thing as unconditional love, so I agree with you. It's like, just the thought of a relationship is a competition now. How much can I get from one without giving back the same quantity and quality of (fill in the blank) everyone wants but few think of how they can give to this perfect partner they are creating in their minds.

Funny how things always come full circle. "Treat others the way you want to be treated". That old ass saying still rings true.

JB🌀 · Answer

Unconditional love is loyalty that comes with respect, not everyone possess it, it's Rare.

Samir · Answer

Is love really that important?

Kevin · Answer

Unconditional love does exist you just haven't felt it or ignored it, to put an example is the love of our parents: they love us no matter what if we do good or bad things to them they will always be there for us when needed and that is called unconditional love.

We are not willing to give unconditional love to a stranger right away but if we have a good connection and we get to know the person we'll unconditional love will start to build and even though there will be discussion and some differences we will try our best to find a solution to what ever bothers us.

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I guess yes, you can love unconditionally. Especially your sons. It's all a matter of if you (and the other person) really wants it regardless of your differences or fights or whatever

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