So seems like alot of men these days like to use terms like babe, hun, beautiful etc when talking to women even if they just met them. Maybe im more old school when it comes to dating but some things are more meaningful when your actually dating someone or in a relationship. Thoughts on this??

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Kelly

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I've read some people call you nicknames immediately as an old school tactic to try to force closeness. Like they'll act like you're already dating, to kind of force you into feeling awkward if you don't reciprocate. Definitely I'd see this as a red flag 🚩

Thomas

INFP

Scorpio

Welp... I guess that's better than "sugar lumps"...

Steven

ISTP

Scorpio

I do tend to use babe with whoever I'm dating, but I usually don't start until we are comfortable with each other. Using it right from the start is kind of rude and presumptuous

Braedon

ENFJ

Pisces

Definitely more of a thing that can be said when the time is right but trying to force those words makes it lose their meaning

Donovan

ESTJ

Taurus

People that just casually throw terms of endearment at people they barely know don't put a lot of value into the words, which is the exact opposite of the whole meaning behind them.

Timothy

ENTJ

Leo

All depends on the person, there are people who are genuinely nice and use words like baby, honey, sweetheart and sweetie because they are naturally kind hearted, if you aren't use to it you may find it either offensive or have a moment of surprise. The elderly have a habit of calling folks nice names like that out of just being simply kind. Try not to get offended if it's out of a natural habit. But when it comes to dating yeah that's different. There is a time for names and a time to be formal until it feels right.

Equinox

INFP

Cancer

If you have bf ,gf ,husbands or wife as you both agreed to use special for each term which you both like it regardless it being norm or not that fine

Erica

INFP

Scorpio

I agree. The first thing that pops in my head is "you're not my partner" even if it's a "not yet" situation. I absolutely love terms of endearment and a partner using them with me but it just feels weird if we're not in an established relationship, friendship or other.

Martha

INTP

Scorpio

Exactly! I hate it when I start chatting with a guy and he immediately uses the term babe. First of all you don't know me yet, and I haven't even given you permission to call me that...jeez! (edited)

Nicholas

ENTJ

Aquarius

I think Terms of Endearment have lost their meaning from overused but that's the normal evolution of language

Nicole

ISTP

Gemini

Agree. I don't like hearing that for "pet" names right away. It is very off putting and I will sorta stop talking to that person .

Brandon

INFP

Aquarius

It's a little odd. I wouldn't do it unless I was in a relationship of some kind.

Patrick

ESFJ

Taurus

Ya I usually use their name. I find saying things like that to a girl I've just met is extremely rude

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ISTJ

Sagittarius

Yeah, pet names are cringe af

Reij

ENFP

Aquarius

Agreed. It is a bit weird if you ask me.

Adrian

INTP

Leo

People do that???? Wack

Kenn

INFJ

Sagittarius

I don't like pet names like cup cake or suger buns or what ever, it seems wierd.

DUKES

ESFP

Libra

That's disrespect

Nick

ENFP

Taurus

Frankly. If pet names are used in any form. A discussion should be had about it. If a close friend calls me Nikki, I tolerate it because they're a close friend. If someone random says it, im like, bro, we just met and I dont know your intentions. So, point is, don't do it unless each party is into it or familiarity is reached to that level of comfort.

Tim

ISTJ

Scorpio

The idea of calling a s/o bae, babe, or baby is not appealing to me. I like to use the term 'love' becuase its how i feel. If i call you love, its true and genuine. Its not a nickname IMO

Keanan

INTP

Capricorn

Babe and hun I can understand, it’s too casual. I don’t get why a woman wouldn’t want to be called beautiful though (unless it’s pretentious). It’s all in the intentions and unless you’re telepathic then you’ll never truly know what they are unless you attempt to find out. Ask questions and be open with people and hopefully you’ll get honest answers. One may pick up a knife to slice bread, another may try to harm you with it. Just as someone might be trying to get into your pants by calling you beautiful, or trying to lighten the situation with a genuine compliment, or just can’t help but speak the truth.

Luke

INTJ

Leo

It's not just men. (Female) Server at lunch the other day called me babe the entire time I was there. And in the south of the US it's really common for people to use terms like hun, darlin, etc. To each their own.

Eclectic-Electric 6

INFP

Capricorn

'babe' always makes me cringe, whether a man or woman uses it, lol. Most other silly terms dont bother me 😁🤣

Doug

ENTJ

Aries

Agreed. I think it devalues/ removes value from these words.

Libra Rising

INTJ

Libra

I feel the same way. Huge turn off

Noel

INTJ

Sagittarius

Using it on First meets its weird and it attacks boundaries in a way. I call pretty much everyone I work with by a name other than their real name. I do use the term babe, sweetie and pookie alot. Even with people I've known forever. However I do respect boundaries and consent when it comes to calling someone a pet name.

Delaya

ENFJ

Aries

Yes 👏🏾 Like I don't even know you sir. Please don't call me babe. My name will do just fine. Let something unique come natural to you after we get to know each other.

Michael

INTJ

Taurus

I am not really fan of using those terms to women unles i established some deep connection

Lee-Michael

ENTJ

Cancer

If they're looking to seriously date then that's ridiculous imo, I've seen other guys message like that on friends' dating profiles and know a person who successfully speaks like that. As a guy, I'd say it's generally a red flag since they're faking closeness to better reach whatever goal they have. Saying that, it also definitely works amongst certain people.

Nicholas

INTJ

Taurus

I feel weird about using those kinds of terms outside of a relationship.

Joseph

INTJ

Libra

I'm sure you've seen those old movies where a guy will call a girl "gorgeous," the girl calls the guy "handsome" or one or the other will call their partner "darling." It pretty much stems from that. As to why? It's just how language changes over the years, I guess. I also don't get why some people start one another "babe" and such when they just started dating. I'd rather wait until I can start actually picturing myself with my partner. (edited)

Petro

INFJ

Gemini

It might be a signal of a gaslighter or just a parasite word (said without intention). Try discussing it.

Seth

ESTP

Cancer

Some people just talk that way. Just like people used to call women doll. Or they do find your external looks beautiful. Sometimes it's just a term. But sometimes it's not. Definitely hard to tell until you get to know someone.

JulioxAl

ENFP

Aquarius

Dude fr when a girl calls you babe, or sometimes papi it just makes you be like 🤮, I get if ya chat for a while but in the 1st chats it's just ugh

Ginz

ENFJ

Capricorn

Its disrespectful..turn off for me (edited)

Alex

ISTJ

Cancer

I always thought it was kinda cringy, like dude I don't know you like that

Peter

INTJ

Scorpio

I think its usually because the social upbringing. Depends on the individual. Also, i met someone literally named Baby ... Sooo.. I dont have much of a choice :P

Nikolaj

INFP

Taurus

Is that a common thing? I can't imagine I'd ever want to use those outside of a relationship 😂 Unless I had a male friend who was leaning towards the homophobic side. Then I'd probably call him babe and and wink at him 🤣 (edited)

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I've read some people call you nicknames immediately as an old school tactic to try to force closeness. Like they'll act like you're already dating, to kind of force you into feeling awkward if you don't reciprocate. Definitely I'd see this as a red flag 🚩

Welp... I guess that's better than "sugar lumps"...

I do tend to use babe with whoever I'm dating, but I usually don't start until we are comfortable with each other. Using it right from the start is kind of rude and presumptuous

Definitely more of a thing that can be said when the time is right but trying to force those words makes it lose their meaning

People that just casually throw terms of endearment at people they barely know don't put a lot of value into the words, which is the exact opposite of the whole meaning behind them.

If you have bf ,gf ,husbands or wife as you both agreed to use special for each term which you both like it regardless it being norm or not that fine

I agree. The first thing that pops in my head is "you're not my partner" even if it's a "not yet" situation. I absolutely love terms of endearment and a partner using them with me but it just feels weird if we're not in an established relationship, friendship or other.

Exactly! I hate it when I start chatting with a guy and he immediately uses the term babe. First of all you don't know me yet, and I haven't even given you permission to call me that...jeez! (edited)

I think Terms of Endearment have lost their meaning from overused but that's the normal evolution of language

Agree. I don't like hearing that for "pet" names right away. It is very off putting and I will sorta stop talking to that person .

It's a little odd. I wouldn't do it unless I was in a relationship of some kind.

Ya I usually use their name. I find saying things like that to a girl I've just met is extremely rude

Yeah, pet names are cringe af

Agreed. It is a bit weird if you ask me.

People do that???? Wack

I don't like pet names like cup cake or suger buns or what ever, it seems wierd.

That's disrespect

The idea of calling a s/o bae, babe, or baby is not appealing to me. I like to use the term 'love' becuase its how i feel. If i call you love, its true and genuine. Its not a nickname IMO

It's not just men. (Female) Server at lunch the other day called me babe the entire time I was there. And in the south of the US it's really common for people to use terms like hun, darlin, etc. To each their own.

'babe' always makes me cringe, whether a man or woman uses it, lol. Most other silly terms dont bother me 😁🤣

Agreed. I think it devalues/ removes value from these words.

I feel the same way. Huge turn off

Yes 👏🏾 Like I don't even know you sir. Please don't call me babe. My name will do just fine. Let something unique come natural to you after we get to know each other.

I am not really fan of using those terms to women unles i established some deep connection

I feel weird about using those kinds of terms outside of a relationship.

It might be a signal of a gaslighter or just a parasite word (said without intention). Try discussing it.

Some people just talk that way. Just like people used to call women doll. Or they do find your external looks beautiful. Sometimes it's just a term. But sometimes it's not. Definitely hard to tell until you get to know someone.

Dude fr when a girl calls you babe, or sometimes papi it just makes you be like 🤮, I get if ya chat for a while but in the 1st chats it's just ugh

Its disrespectful..turn off for me (edited)

I always thought it was kinda cringy, like dude I don't know you like that

I think its usually because the social upbringing. Depends on the individual. Also, i met someone literally named Baby ... Sooo.. I dont have much of a choice :P

Is that a common thing? I can't imagine I'd ever want to use those outside of a relationship 😂 Unless I had a male friend who was leaning towards the homophobic side. Then I'd probably call him babe and and wink at him 🤣 (edited)

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