I've been made single very recently, and I'm not doing well. I noticed very quickly afterwards that I'd given up most of my friends for my partner and now that I'm alone, I'm very much alone. Hindsight is 20/20 so I'm really kicking myself for focusing on an unhealthy relationship and letting my friends fall away. As an adult I have no idea how to make friends so I'm open to whatever comes my way right now. Just looking for support and maybe some distraction🤞⛈️ Jokes are always welcome. (edited)

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Ruth

8mo

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Aries

I very much know how you feel. I don't have a lot for friends right now, either. Some slowly drifted away, and some I realised weren't very good friends. On top of that, it is just so much harder to make good friends as an adult. Might not mean much coming from a stranger, but I hope things work out and go better for you.

Hana

8mo

INFP

Virgo

The first step is to be your own best friend. Sending you some love 💓

Maddie

8mo

INFP

Libra

This also happened to me:), if anyone else is in the same boat and wants to be friends and wants to talk about it lmk.

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ISFJ

I'm so sorry to hear that. Similar situation myself. Have a funny meme :)

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Hrokr

8mo

INTP

Taurus

Life has its funny ways about it. When you can find the silver lining in the darkest of times.. you can learn to navigate by your own inner light. Heart ache is terrible thing but the only thing we can control in this world is how we react to it. You hold that power and eventually you will be able to wield it with might.

Erik

8mo

INTP

Capricorn

I feel your pain. It's surprisingly difficult to make actual connections with others, especially after being isolated for a prolonged period of time.

Ephraim

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ENTJ

Cancer

Honeytrap xD

Tom

8mo

INTJ

Libra

Echo the reach out to old friends and explain the mistake. Don't be alone, please. Find ways to surround yourself with good folks that care.

Mari

8mo

ISTP

Aquarius

I experienced something similar years ago. I have always thought that it's difficult to make friends but I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and found people who have been in my circle for ten years (and counting). You just have to have a little courage to put yourself out there. ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. Reaching out to old friends is also an option. Nobody's perfect and people usually understand that relationships can be tough. If your partner alienates you from loving friends or family, run. These relationships are usually super controlling and can sometimes be dangerous. I can't stress this enough, trust your gut feeling. (edited)

Tye

8mo

INFP

Taurus

Nah-m'a-stay "The loneliness in me sees the loneliness in you" Lol kinda kidding, but available to chat if you ever need it

Samir

8mo

ESFJ

Libra

Make any friends as you want but just take care from rebound that's it

Oscar

8mo

INFP

Taurus

I know that this is a devastating event and you must've gotton hurt a lot. It's always good to have a way to vent out; have you thought of maybe having a chat with a psychologist or counsellor to help you navigate your current emotion?

Michael

8mo

INFP

Taurus

Making friends as an adult is tough. Reaching out to old ones is a good idea. But making me new ones is worth a shot. Focusing on hobbies is the best way I think to make new friends as you will already have something in common. It will be hard doing things alone but pushing through it and being open key.

Richie

8mo

ISTJ

Taurus

This happens with a lot of people. We want to give all our effort and time to the that one person and it's only after do we think it was wrong. It wasn't wrong but it's more healthy to keep the others along as well. Give yourself some of the common courtesy you would offer to another.

Ryan

8mo

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Scorpio

Yea i am in a very similar boat. It can be very difficult making friends. So just allow yourself grace to be able to go to settings you dont necessarily find yourself in. Join events. Keep the window of opportunity open. And allow yourself to also open up to people

Jeff

8mo

ENTP

Sagittarius

We have been there in some way. Here is a tip. Get some B-12, Omega 3 and magnesium supplements. It will help balance out your chemical reaction to what we call a broken heart. It's not magic it's our body responding to the situation. Your dopamine and serotonin levels have dropped. You need to get them level so you can move again. Btw your person is out there waiting on you.

Jacqs

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My first marriage was like that. Losing both family and friends. However, if you talk to them. Explain what happen then true friends will forgive. Then build on friendship from there. You know saying. Hindsight is 20/20. Anyways it will be alright for you cause now you have the world at your feet.

Jun

8mo

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Libra

Yeah being sing)e is hard not great at making friend too but if u do make friend make sure they are eal not fake so I feel u

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ISFJ

Pisces

Try and see if there are some friends waiting for you to wake up. If there are, you know they are your friends for keeps. It won't hurt to try and reach out first. A simple "Hi" will do. Start from there. Stop kicking yourself for blindly choosing your ex. You've acknowledged your mistake. Just don't forget it when the next one comes along.

Ren 🎀

8mo

INFJ

Pisces

I just went through this exact scenario about a year ago. Reconnect with those friends, make a pros and cons list about you being single. Let yourself feel and ponder. You’ll heal in time.

Karim

8mo

ISTJ

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Its normal to feel unbalanced after a huge change in your life. Maybe you feel you made some mistakes and that you got your priorities wrong but life isnt math, we all make mistakes and have our theories. Dont be harsh on yourself and remember that we can't change past but we can always learn from it. We can always start again, a fresh start. Relax, breathe, enjoy yourself and enjoy your life. And about friends just be yourself, be comfortable in your own skin, be who you're and things will happen 🥂 (edited)

E-man

8mo

INFJ

Libra

You're not the first to do that, and you won't be the last. Be kind to yourself for past mistakes. If you ever want someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. 😊😊

Evan

8mo

INFP

Sagittarius

Also no clue how people are meant to make friends these days, man. Guess that's why we're here

Tyler

8mo

INFP

Leo

I'm sorry to hear about your recent breakup. It's tough, but this could be an opportunity to rediscover yourself. Reconnect with old friends, join social groups or activities aligned with your interests, and take small steps to meet new people. Laughter can be a great distraction, so here's a joke for you: Why don't scientists trust atoms? Because they make up everything. Remember, you're not alone in wanting to make new connections!

Liam

8mo

ENFP

Cancer

Yeah I think a lot of people can relate. I did something similar and found myself completely alone after a relationship. I'm starting to reach out to my friends again and so far they've all been more than happy to see me back

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8mo

INFJ

Pisces

I have 3 words for you: Twelve Step Programs. They may not have helped me find a new romance but they've helped me find spirituality and inner peace and that's so much more valuable. There's so many and they're all free! It's not just AA anymore there's CoDA, SLAA, ACA, I highly recommend.

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8mo

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Sagittarius

My condolences for the recent death of your husband.

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Do you have a passion or an activity you like doing? What do you register yourself to some club or classes?

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Hi Amaris. There are many people at this platform who are single or divorced. In this app there is no any separate column to show divorced. It is on you to whom you give your concent to be with you. You should go through their bio and try to find your soul mate.

Chase

8mo

ISTP

Libra

I’ve been there. I moved an entire city away from my closest friends to be with someone and now I’m in another city without those friends. While I still hear from my old friends every now and then. I’ve made friends in gaming. It takes time but friends will come your way just do things you enjoy doing and you’ll meet people with similar interests.

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8mo

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Cancer

That doesnt sound like love, that sounds like possession.

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I think we need to talk

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If you are brave, I wholeheartedly recommend going Couchsurfing. Can even be in your own country! Or just gatherings. It changed me, and there I found my (ex-)bff.

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Taurus

I've been through what you're going through. It's hard. It's going to take time. There's probably going to be a lot of trial and error along the way. Meeting people on a dating app for platonic connection is treacherous, but I am rooting for you.

Fernando

8mo

INFJ

Leo

Don't beat yourself over it. What's done is done, and now you're here meeting new friends (which apparently is the only way for adults to make friends in this day and age). By the way, I'm also looking for people to hang out, so we can be friends if you want.

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Which country do you live in

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The first step is to be your own best friend. Sending you some love 💓

This also happened to me:), if anyone else is in the same boat and wants to be friends and wants to talk about it lmk.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Similar situation myself. Have a funny meme :)

I feel your pain. It's surprisingly difficult to make actual connections with others, especially after being isolated for a prolonged period of time.

Honeytrap xD

Echo the reach out to old friends and explain the mistake. Don't be alone, please. Find ways to surround yourself with good folks that care.

Nah-m'a-stay "The loneliness in me sees the loneliness in you" Lol kinda kidding, but available to chat if you ever need it

Make any friends as you want but just take care from rebound that's it

I know that this is a devastating event and you must've gotton hurt a lot. It's always good to have a way to vent out; have you thought of maybe having a chat with a psychologist or counsellor to help you navigate your current emotion?

This happens with a lot of people. We want to give all our effort and time to the that one person and it's only after do we think it was wrong. It wasn't wrong but it's more healthy to keep the others along as well. Give yourself some of the common courtesy you would offer to another.

Yea i am in a very similar boat. It can be very difficult making friends. So just allow yourself grace to be able to go to settings you dont necessarily find yourself in. Join events. Keep the window of opportunity open. And allow yourself to also open up to people

My first marriage was like that. Losing both family and friends. However, if you talk to them. Explain what happen then true friends will forgive. Then build on friendship from there. You know saying. Hindsight is 20/20. Anyways it will be alright for you cause now you have the world at your feet.

Yeah being sing)e is hard not great at making friend too but if u do make friend make sure they are eal not fake so I feel u

I just went through this exact scenario about a year ago. Reconnect with those friends, make a pros and cons list about you being single. Let yourself feel and ponder. You’ll heal in time.

You're not the first to do that, and you won't be the last. Be kind to yourself for past mistakes. If you ever want someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. 😊😊

Also no clue how people are meant to make friends these days, man. Guess that's why we're here

Yeah I think a lot of people can relate. I did something similar and found myself completely alone after a relationship. I'm starting to reach out to my friends again and so far they've all been more than happy to see me back

I have 3 words for you: Twelve Step Programs. They may not have helped me find a new romance but they've helped me find spirituality and inner peace and that's so much more valuable. There's so many and they're all free! It's not just AA anymore there's CoDA, SLAA, ACA, I highly recommend.

My condolences for the recent death of your husband.

Do you have a passion or an activity you like doing? What do you register yourself to some club or classes?

Hi Amaris. There are many people at this platform who are single or divorced. In this app there is no any separate column to show divorced. It is on you to whom you give your concent to be with you. You should go through their bio and try to find your soul mate.

That doesnt sound like love, that sounds like possession.

I think we need to talk

If you are brave, I wholeheartedly recommend going Couchsurfing. Can even be in your own country! Or just gatherings. It changed me, and there I found my (ex-)bff.

I've been through what you're going through. It's hard. It's going to take time. There's probably going to be a lot of trial and error along the way. Meeting people on a dating app for platonic connection is treacherous, but I am rooting for you.

Don't beat yourself over it. What's done is done, and now you're here meeting new friends (which apparently is the only way for adults to make friends in this day and age). By the way, I'm also looking for people to hang out, so we can be friends if you want.

Which country do you live in

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