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Posted Friday, March 8, 2024
10mo
INFP
Virgo
4 Awards
Relationships
I've been made single very recently, and I'm not doing well. I noticed very quickly afterwards that I'd given up most of my friends for my partner and now that I'm alone, I'm very much alone. Hindsight is 20/20 so I'm really kicking myself for focusing on an unhealthy relationship and letting my friends fall away. As an adult I have no idea how to make friends so I'm open to whatever comes my way right now. Just looking for support and maybe some distraction🤞⛈️ Jokes are always welcome. (edited)
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Ruth
9mo
ISFP
Aries
I very much know how you feel. I don't have a lot for friends right now, either. Some slowly drifted away, and some I realised weren't very good friends. On top of that, it is just so much harder to make good friends as an adult. Might not mean much coming from a stranger, but I hope things work out and go better for you.
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𝓗𝓸𝓷𝓮𝔂 👸🏾
9mo
INFJ
Libra
1 Award
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Hrokr
10mo
INTP
Taurus
Life has its funny ways about it. When you can find the silver lining in the darkest of times.. you can learn to navigate by your own inner light. Heart ache is terrible thing but the only thing we can control in this world is how we react to it. You hold that power and eventually you will be able to wield it with might.
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Ephraim
10mo
ENTJ
Cancer
Honeytrap xD
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Mari
9mo
ISTP
Aquarius
I experienced something similar years ago. I have always thought that it's difficult to make friends but I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and found people who have been in my circle for ten years (and counting). You just have to have a little courage to put yourself out there. ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. Reaching out to old friends is also an option. Nobody's perfect and people usually understand that relationships can be tough. If your partner alienates you from loving friends or family, run. These relationships are usually super controlling and can sometimes be dangerous. I can't stress this enough, trust your gut feeling. (edited)
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Oscar
9mo
INFP
Taurus
I know that this is a devastating event and you must've gotton hurt a lot. It's always good to have a way to vent out; have you thought of maybe having a chat with a psychologist or counsellor to help you navigate your current emotion?
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Michael
10mo
INFP
Taurus
Making friends as an adult is tough. Reaching out to old ones is a good idea. But making me new ones is worth a shot. Focusing on hobbies is the best way I think to make new friends as you will already have something in common. It will be hard doing things alone but pushing through it and being open key.
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Richie
9mo
ISTJ
Taurus
This happens with a lot of people. We want to give all our effort and time to the that one person and it's only after do we think it was wrong. It wasn't wrong but it's more healthy to keep the others along as well. Give yourself some of the common courtesy you would offer to another.
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Jeff
9mo
ENTP
Sagittarius
We have been there in some way. Here is a tip. Get some B-12, Omega 3 and magnesium supplements. It will help balance out your chemical reaction to what we call a broken heart. It's not magic it's our body responding to the situation. Your dopamine and serotonin levels have dropped. You need to get them level so you can move again. Btw your person is out there waiting on you.
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Jacqs
9mo
INFP
Scorpio
My first marriage was like that. Losing both family and friends. However, if you talk to them. Explain what happen then true friends will forgive. Then build on friendship from there. You know saying. Hindsight is 20/20. Anyways it will be alright for you cause now you have the world at your feet.
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Jo
9mo
ISFJ
Pisces
Try and see if there are some friends waiting for you to wake up. If there are, you know they are your friends for keeps. It won't hurt to try and reach out first. A simple "Hi" will do. Start from there. Stop kicking yourself for blindly choosing your ex. You've acknowledged your mistake. Just don't forget it when the next one comes along.
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Karim
10mo
ISTJ
Libra
Its normal to feel unbalanced after a huge change in your life. Maybe you feel you made some mistakes and that you got your priorities wrong but life isnt math, we all make mistakes and have our theories. Dont be harsh on yourself and remember that we can't change past but we can always learn from it. We can always start again, a fresh start. Relax, breathe, enjoy yourself and enjoy your life. And about friends just be yourself, be comfortable in your own skin, be who you're and things will happen 🥂 (edited)
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Tyler
9mo
INFP
Leo
I'm sorry to hear about your recent breakup. It's tough, but this could be an opportunity to rediscover yourself. Reconnect with old friends, join social groups or activities aligned with your interests, and take small steps to meet new people. Laughter can be a great distraction, so here's a joke for you: Why don't scientists trust atoms? Because they make up everything. Remember, you're not alone in wanting to make new connections!
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Amber
9mo
INFJ
Pisces
I have 3 words for you: Twelve Step Programs. They may not have helped me find a new romance but they've helped me find spirituality and inner peace and that's so much more valuable. There's so many and they're all free! It's not just AA anymore there's CoDA, SLAA, ACA, I highly recommend.
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Chase
9mo
ISTP
Libra
I’ve been there. I moved an entire city away from my closest friends to be with someone and now I’m in another city without those friends. While I still hear from my old friends every now and then. I’ve made friends in gaming. It takes time but friends will come your way just do things you enjoy doing and you’ll meet people with similar interests.
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Usaim
9mo
ISFP
Gemini
I think we need to talk
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Hans
9mo
ENFP
Aries
If you are brave, I wholeheartedly recommend going Couchsurfing. Can even be in your own country! Or just gatherings. It changed me, and there I found my (ex-)bff.
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Partyonjax
9mo
ESFP
Capricorn
I’m in the same boat right now
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John
9mo
INTJ
Libra
Try journaling you can put it on paper and when you're done it stays in the journal and not in your thoughts.
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