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How important is your date's physical appearance to you?

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INFJ

Aries

I want a partner that takes care of themselves such as hygiene, maintenance to whatever makes them happy/satisfied, and other signs of self exploration (like fashion, piercings, tattoos, etc) Superficial stuff is just wanting someone who's taller than me (cuz these knees aren't made for counter climbing anymore)

ISTP

Taurus

I mean, I need to think they're cute in some way.

INTP

Cancer

Physical appearance isn't really important to me but health is and often you can tell how healthy someone is by their physical appearance.

ISTP

Aries

Although there needs to be at least some level of physical attraction, that's not what's going to keep me around or interested. Your personality can either make you look better, or so much worse. In my opinion, that's what matters most

ENTP

Libra

This is kinda a silly question. Everyone has their own biasies and preferences. Beauty is in the eye and so on, but yes obviously people want a prospective partner who cares about their physical appearance. Striking a balance here is key. Not enough and you get a slob too much and they are looking at their reflection more often than looking at you.

INFP

Sagittarius

It's not the most important attribute to consider. Great, my date is hot but their appearance will not be foundational to the relationship. Relationships are built are trust, support, values and beliefs, and a sense of being safety and happy.

INFJ

Virgo

Not as important as theor personality. I know alot of people say that but don't actually mean it. Looks are simply a nice bonus to the actual person

ENFP

Leo

It's not everything but it is important. If you are morbidly obese, or you have 5 remaining teeth and they are yellow, or simply unhealthy in appearance. Then yeah that's a red flag. But when it comes to stuff like stretch marks, injuries, or birth defects that's something shouldn't matter. What you look like is what starts the spark. Your personality and actions are what fuel the flame between each other.

INTJ

Pisces

I would say half and half but depends what kind of relationship you are looking for as well. Regardless, being happy doesnt require having to be hot.

INFJ

Virgo

Not the appearance but the details...

ESFJ

Gemini

A physical attraction is important in a relationship but it shouldn't be what makes the relationship. What's on the inside DOES COUNT and SHOULD be more important. If someone can't value who you are as a person more than how you look, then they're a waste of your time.

INFP

Taurus

Important, but not nearly as important as personality.

ESFP

Taurus

The physical appearance is so important because it WILL push your interest, therefore having better conversations. Theres something awkward about first chats with people who dont care about their looks. Also, more attractive people tend to have more conversations overall, so the skills are there and everything just goes smoother.

ISTJ

Scorpio

N/A.

INTP

Libra

Eh I dont usually care about appearance as long as they have a good personality and take care of themselves is all that matters

INFJ

Sagittarius

Physical attraction is the starting point to any romantic relationship, imo. You don't look across a room and think "man, that person has some nice beliefs!😍"

INFP

Virgo

I should atleast feel some physical attraction before going out on a date but then the personality, character and if we click together will win out

ISFP

Virgo

Its really not important to me, lmao

INTJ

Cancer

Appearance changes. 🤷

INFP

Gemini

Physical appearance is the trailer, everything else is the movie. You may have all of the physical attributes I typically find attractive, but your attitude can make that irrelevant and vice versa.

INTJ

Cancer

Pretty important and sadly thats the way the game is many say looks aren't important they very much are now they don't need to be a super model just they need to look nice or good enough.

INFJ

Aquarius

It certainly helps things along but it’s not what makes me stay. But then it also depends on how you meet. If it’s someone you already know their personality can make you love them and they become more attractive to you so

INFP

It'd be a lie to say it doesn't matter. Therefore, it's reasonably important because it's what's most likely going to get my attention. Keeping the attention is another story.

INTP

Most women also have the "pass filter" and will not date someone they don’t find attractive physically. But we don't stay for looks and it’ll not certainly what will keep us in the relationship.

ENFJ

Leo

Personally I've waited 2 years since my last relationship. Not because I'm looking for someone attractive ANYMORE! I use to be terrible. But as I'm getting older, I've realized I just want someone I can trust in and rely on when I need to talk. I'm not much of speaker of my issues. But when I do, I don't want someone who's easily overwhelmed that and when I'm not upset I want someone who makes me laugh. Physicality doesn't matter to me anymore than if you're a Democrat or republican, and no I'm not making this political, cause I don't care! Positivity is productivity. Keep your heads high, everyone was made to find someone equal minded.

INFJ

Aquarius

Obviously, basic self-care, and hygiene is crucial, that’s just a given. But beyond that? Physical appearance is actually one of the least important factors to me. I’ve been wildly attracted to men whom I’ve never even seen a photo of before, because they sparked a unique energetic connection through written word, by beautifully and authentically expressing their heart and mind, and our specific shared values and beliefs, in a way that spoke the language of my soul, and powerfully resonated with me. As a demisexual, I’m in the minority here, but that sense of profound connection is everything to me, and without it, I could have “the hottest guy” hitting on me and literally not feel the slightest bit of attraction. So for me, if a man has the ability to woo my mind first, is comfortable being emotionally vulnerable and open, is compatible in personality, genuinely shares my values and desires, and can meet and match me on the deep level I seek…well, I will then often automatically find his physical appearance attractive as well, simply because it’s the shell that houses his uniquely beautiful mind, heart, and soul.

INTJ

Somewhat important

ENTJ

Libra

Physical appearance shouldn't matter in general because personality and the characteristics inside that person will never change if they are a pure and genuine person

ESTP

Leo

Not important at all it's what he says to me and how he treats me

INTP

100% important Attraction is key, even in established relationships.

INFJ

Scorpio

On a scale of 1 to 10 , I would have to say at least an 8. Once upon a time I was married for 13 years. I did not have that initial spark caused by attraction. He was a friend who wanted more. He had a great charismatic and funny personality. That same personality had him cheating on me many times. If I had went off of my initial gut feeling or may I say lack Thereof maybe I would not have had to experience that situation. Attraction does matter, pheromones, taste etc.

INTJ

Cancer

good hygine should be a standard lol

INTP

Aquarius

It's secondary. That being said general cleanliness and care shows in appearance and there is a bare minimum. I met my wife online so I only saw her in a video call after I already liked her personality.

ISFJ

Gemini

At this point doesn’t matter to me. Just looking for someone whose nice and intelligent.

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How important is your date's physical appearance to you?

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I mean, I need to think they're cute in some way.

Physical appearance isn't really important to me but health is and often you can tell how healthy someone is by their physical appearance.

Although there needs to be at least some level of physical attraction, that's not what's going to keep me around or interested. Your personality can either make you look better, or so much worse. In my opinion, that's what matters most

It's not the most important attribute to consider. Great, my date is hot but their appearance will not be foundational to the relationship. Relationships are built are trust, support, values and beliefs, and a sense of being safety and happy.

Not as important as theor personality. I know alot of people say that but don't actually mean it. Looks are simply a nice bonus to the actual person

I would say half and half but depends what kind of relationship you are looking for as well. Regardless, being happy doesnt require having to be hot.

Not the appearance but the details...

A physical attraction is important in a relationship but it shouldn't be what makes the relationship. What's on the inside DOES COUNT and SHOULD be more important. If someone can't value who you are as a person more than how you look, then they're a waste of your time.

Important, but not nearly as important as personality.

N/A.

Eh I dont usually care about appearance as long as they have a good personality and take care of themselves is all that matters

Physical attraction is the starting point to any romantic relationship, imo. You don't look across a room and think "man, that person has some nice beliefs!😍"

I should atleast feel some physical attraction before going out on a date but then the personality, character and if we click together will win out

Its really not important to me, lmao

Appearance changes. 🤷

Physical appearance is the trailer, everything else is the movie. You may have all of the physical attributes I typically find attractive, but your attitude can make that irrelevant and vice versa.

Pretty important and sadly thats the way the game is many say looks aren't important they very much are now they don't need to be a super model just they need to look nice or good enough.

It certainly helps things along but it’s not what makes me stay. But then it also depends on how you meet. If it’s someone you already know their personality can make you love them and they become more attractive to you so

It'd be a lie to say it doesn't matter. Therefore, it's reasonably important because it's what's most likely going to get my attention. Keeping the attention is another story.

Most women also have the "pass filter" and will not date someone they don’t find attractive physically. But we don't stay for looks and it’ll not certainly what will keep us in the relationship.

Somewhat important

Physical appearance shouldn't matter in general because personality and the characteristics inside that person will never change if they are a pure and genuine person

Not important at all it's what he says to me and how he treats me

100% important Attraction is key, even in established relationships.

good hygine should be a standard lol

It's secondary. That being said general cleanliness and care shows in appearance and there is a bare minimum. I met my wife online so I only saw her in a video call after I already liked her personality.

At this point doesn’t matter to me. Just looking for someone whose nice and intelligent.

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