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Universes
Posted Tuesday, August 30, 2022
2y
INTP
Women's options dwindle as they age, but men's options grow as they age.
I understand the first part, but the second one? Any thoughts?🤔
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Adrian Asura
2y
INTP
Leo
Men are attracted to younger women because of fertility. Women are wired to find older men attractive due to resources and security. Evolutionary biology! 🙌
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Gabriel Stefanoli
2y
INTJ
Scorpio
Men value youth, looks and purity. Which all fade with time. Women protection, resources and stability. This relate to evolution and biology and i am going to break it down. Looks, there are reasons why men like the things we like. A woman in shape as a healthier life, is more likely to successfully birth a child and survive. Wider hips mean easier birth giving. Bigger chest means there is more food and nutrients for the child and there is enogh production for more than one kid at a time. Slim waist allows better movement while impregnated therefore easier survival of both the child and the mother. Facial symmetry usually means better genes. Youth, woman's fertility is heavily tied to this, younger women are more fertile and have more time to have a higher number of kids. The higher the pack/tribe/family population the more resources it can obtain which leads to a better life. This is why there were times in history where people ate grass to survive but had 6 children because now that it's 2 we cannot get much but if we can survive 15 years maybe being 6 we can do much. Women lost 90% of eggs by 30 and most women at that age have problems getting pregnant. Purity, throughout time men couldn't know for certain if the child was theirs, so men have risked giving their resources and lifes to children who are not their own. A woman who has been with less partners, including 0 is a greater guarantee for men. If a woman was promiscuous men had no reason to believe the child was theirs. Also women when reaching climax release a hormone called oxytocin which bonds to their partner and the more people she sleeps with the less she releases it until a point she is unable to so a woman with a large amount of experiences is less likely to unable to bond. Men on the other hand release a hormone that makes us territorial, we also loose it overtime but at a much slower pace. A marriage between two virgins has the highest success range of 95% of a happy marriage after 10 years. When a man has sexual experiences and the woman had 4 or less partners including him is an 85%. If the woman had 10 or more it goes down to 20%. It also has to do with women's mating strategy, hypergamy, women date up in socioeconomic status and women wanted a man who could protect her, so the new man has to compete with all previous partners she had. Most women have an ex there is something she values he was the best at, the higher the number the more chances it happens. Previous behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. If someone does something they are 80% more likely to do it than having never done it. So a woman who slept around is more likely to do it again. Coming back to polygamy, this is also tied to resources a man with more resources can take care of more children and if he can take care of another woman he probably can take care of you as well. Not every man could do this. Historically 40% of men ever reproduced when its about women its 60 to 80%. Now this is a social approach. if something is rare and hard to get is more valuable. We value gold because is rare but in actuality is one of the worst ores, specially pure. For the average guy, who is working class, is average to overweight, not very attractive, barely educated, has few experiences with women, having sex is very difficult, so it's looked up to because he has a lot of it, just as in previous times who had a lot of gold was looked up to because that person had a lot of what is rare. A man can go and ask most women to have sex, most women won't give it. For women in the other hand having sex is easy, even with the men they want. A woman can go and ask most men and they would be down to do it. This is the opposite of gold, iron, something really common and easy to get. For women what is rare is a man who stays for more than sex and women used to use it as leverage. No sex until marriage was basically women winning the resources and commitment, the rare, first before handing over sex, the easy. (edited)
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Jacob
2y
ISTP
Sagittarius
Neither of these is true, there's always gonna be dudes who are interested, also the average man's options are limited from the start and stay that way unless their top1%. You'd be surprised if you saw the real percentage of men who aren't sexually active, same with how many have a gf, or how many are in contact with women daily, especially the amount of men (even old ones) with a lot of money. And it doesn't change with age, your options never grow as a dude. But a woman can be a 3/10 and there will still be dudes that would flirt with her. There will always be a market for y'all despite how it may seem sometimes. If you can't find a bf as a girl then your in the wrong spot, just go somewhere else and itl be pretty much right away you'll have dudes flirting, that stops at around 45 years old for women, but it isn't an exponential decrease so the first part is still wrong lol
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Chris
2y
INFJ
Gemini
There's been research done on this, and it's simply the difference in what men and women tend to look for in a partner. With the caveat that there's a lot of generalisation here, and this comes from research, rather than my own opinion. Most women won't date a man who earns less than them, and as we come closer to pay parity, those women will tend to need to look for a partner older than themselves to find someone who earns more. Men, in comparison, tend to look for more physical characteristics, so are more likely to look towards a younger partner. As men get older, they become what more women want in a man, but as women get older, they become less of what men want in a woman. I don't think it is as simple as that, but it's where that idea comes from.
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Michael
2y
ISTJ
Leo
I don't really believe that statement because as I grow older, my options get smaller.
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Baby
2y
ISFJ
Libra
For some reasons & kind of experience sometime back, most of younger men above 28± surprisingly prefers mature older women. Asked them why, most replies is they are more straightforward, nonsense kind of women who knows how to nurture relationship & practical in life. Though, must say, plenty of older men wants younger women not for long term relationship, it's kind of ego thing that makes them feel young & once again as attractive as before. Many chases their youth in one form or another.... Most younger men has more mature perspective than older mature men😂🤣😂, no offense.
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Kay
2y
INFP
Aquarius
Honestly as I’ve gotten older, my opportunities have gotten more open? Younger me was always sort of turned down or something. I don’t know what it is. The second I’m not too sure about, men throughout history have always had more doors open. Myself as a woman, I just simply kick the door off it’s hinges
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Calah
2y
INTJ
Aquarius
Idk. Are there limitations on women? I would think our options would grow too. Im only 24 but I felt like when I was 18 I really only sought guys my age or older but now I notice I'm able to also date younger (which is kinda strange and I probably won't consider it til I'm older).
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Rob
2y
INTJ
Virgo
I would say that my options have dwindled significantly. Maybe if you look like George Clooney as you age, you get more options, or if you have massive wealth, sure, but an average guy making an average wage ... nope.
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Nathaniel
2y
INTP
Virgo
I don't think either of these statements are necessarily true. Depends mainly on who you are and who or what you surround yourself with and what you're perception is of options. Just my opinion
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Robert
2y
INTJ
Aquarius
While I'm not making this statement myself I've heard this online. So perhaps food for thought? It is said (online) that for men the value in women is this beauty, and that for women the value in men is money, protection, power. The theory is that as time goes on beauty can fade, the value of protection, money and power does not. A older man with enough money and power can get a wide choice of women.
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Scott
2y
INFJ
Virgo
Men grow their "portfolio" over time, and women are largely attracted to wealth. Personality, looks, etc is all unimportant when compared to income for a man looking for a woman.
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Frank
2y
ENFP
Cancer
Biologically, it's because men can procreate much later in life than women can.
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Neibaf
2y
INTP
Sagittarius
It seems to be stable on my side, in that my options are as still very scarce...
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Ricardo
2y
ISTP
Scorpio
From the NIMH between the ages of 18-35, 8/10 women will cheat, only 2/10 men will cheat. Ages 35-60, 7/10 men will cheat while 1/10 women will cheat. Women at younger ages are told they are the prize that they have inherent value before they ever advance them selfs. Men at younger ages are told they have no value and the only way they can add value is by growing, maturing and advancing their careers. As they age men gain more value as their career hits peak along with their looks. As testosterone peaks at 30-35 men look better in general at older ages. Women as they age lose their looks as they age and ability to have kids so their value drops. Men and women need to learn to look past material thing like looks and money and go back to valuing human connections. (edited)
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Long
2y
ISFJ
Virgo
Bloodlines matter a lot more to men than women. So men generally prefer women in their more fertile age. Women prefers men who have already been “vetted” by other women. Older men tend to have an advantage in that area.
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Mister A
2y
ISTJ
Virgo
Women's asset is beauty which dwindles; seems like you get that part; and it's only a possibility for men as they create their value (women are born with it.) Not only does the beauty fade, but they jade, and they're no long fertile. No self respecting man will seriously visit a 'modern' or career woman because that masculine energy and 'cant tell me nothin') attitude; and no we don't want to tame them, we'll just got to a sumbmissive feminine woman; who won't give us grief in our castle.
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Ashton Melendez
2y
ENFP
Taurus
I think a lot of young women like older men, so just by being older some men have an advantage.
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☀🌿 𝘓𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘴 🌿☀
2y
INTP
Sagittarius
Men and women are biologically different. Women are nurterers by nature. They are limited to having around 15-30 children in their lifetime taking into account pregnancy and recovery time. Men on the other hand, have no limit to the amount that they can impregnate women. Psychologically women mature faster than most men, because they have a biological clock and if they want kids and a family, they need to have their life in order by the age of around 20-30. They know that they seek financial stability because that is the new "providing" and "security" in these days. Men mature and figure things out slower in general because they don't have that biological clock that women do. They can have a family at any point in their life. Because of that, they don't focus on financial stability anywhere near as much as women and prioritize physical attraction and chemistry if they're emotionally intelligent. Due to this dynamic between men and women, women tend to be more attracted to more financially stable and mature older men and men are generally most attracted to women from 18-24 when they're looking the best they will in their lives and at the prime age for giving birth.
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Michael
2y
ESFP
Taurus
Just through life experiences, they meet more people with varied thoughts and state of minds, they themselves will outgrow any childish mindsets they have or more importantly they learn to love themselves which in return let's them love and appreciate other people more. Unfortunately when your young it's easy to see the opposite sex and just a "baby incubator" (unfortunately due to red pill philosophy this is increasing by the day) but as you get older and meet more people and forge more relationships based on trust you see them as equals and only then do you truly have options.
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