One of my ‘friends’ text me saying I don’t do enough to maintain the friendship and yes I admitted that’s true. I have them full transparency about my mental health being so bad that effects my efforts.. I get met with this because apparently I’m right winged expecting left wing support about depression.. apparently it really is okay to treat me as badly as anyone could dream of. I just deserve it anyway for the simple fact that I have depression to begin with.. I just wish people would not treat me this way. Reality is I hate all this rignt winged and left winged talk and I believe wings are divisive. I’ll post a couple more screenshots in comments.. (edited)

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I'm not sure what the right wing left wing represents unless you mean politics, but you mostly definitely shouldn't be treated like this because of depression. The person that texted you this season may be up in your life. Protect yourself for the sake of your mental health.

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It looks like you may have been held accountable for a paradox they percieve to be contradictory, however, poorly/abusively. Regardless, you dont deserve to be abused full.stop, especially throughout the process of a dialogue. Not that this topic matters, however, I think their issue has to do with you being pro-birth (which fyi is an extreme in opposition to pro-choice, & vice versa), IN LIGHT of claiming to be in advocacy of "meeting in the middle". Polarised positions are polarised in their very nature because their respective position is in very opposition of one another - ie. there is not middle ground. I think they are disappointed in you taking this position for their own personal reasons/trauma with said topic of abortion, & conflating your position on the matter for not caring for them. I think they have also conflated you wanting care from them re: your position/depression as being hypocritical & non-mutual as you havent soothed thier need for care re: something they feel strongly about (abortion). One issue is that false equivilence fallacies are being exercised: oranges are being compared to apples; however, that doesnt undermine the most important issue here imo - which is approach to expressing disappointment, frustration &/or hurt. I feel this friend does not want to support you on something you care about in response to them perceiving inadequate care in terms of the frequency &/or quality of your presence in the relationship, & quality of care available re: incompatible values (pro-birth/pro-choice). It's a natural reaction to not want to engage where dynamics are perceived to be non-mutual. However, I feel they have gone about expressing this in extremely indirect ways & are taking thier anger out on you rather than up with you. They certainly dont have the emotional maturity to take care of themselves during such a trigger, let alone be fair to you. People are going to do them, be them - 'we often respond as we are, rather than as the situation is'. Most communicate poorly - internally & externally; emotionally & in articulation of. People will & have a right to be as they are. Instead of setting yourself up for an impossible - controlling how others' behave ("I just wish people would not treat me this way"), which isnt within your domain/rights to begin with, focus on what is within your rights - what you do about it. You absolutely can maintain not being treated the way this person treated you, by this person, further - that wish is entirely within your power to fulfill. For whatever reasons this person has been triggered, they have chosen to respond by attacking you. They didnt reach for you in ways that maintained you ir their dignity or safety. It doesnt matter what attack they perceive to have received, 2 wrongs dont make a right. Mature folk detatch. They dont seek to control or punish, they respect themselves by remaining respectful, including removing themselves from disrespect. You can do that. You can lay a boundary &/or remove yourself. Your job is to take care of you - not them. They cant ask for care & label how you can support that; it's not your job to help their level of maturity, or to have to ask for safety & dignity. You can if you want to, you just dont have to. (edited)

Katherina

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Pisces

I’m not officially a psychologist or understand wings, but I think blue sender is lacking the very important skill of empathy, even if it’s fake. From the few sentences they are giving off aggression and a dismissive attitude and don’t seem to be controlling their energy to communicate what they think or feel in a productive way to you, and may also be an indication of how they communicate in general to others.

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Pisces

Hey... that sounds complicated. It's truly hard to even comment because I don't have much context of your conversation, but it sounds like the type of friendship you should avoid voicing your political views, specially if you don't really grasp what you're talking about. Nowadays people are very polarized and if you're not X than all is left is Y. I think I get where you're trying to go with the whole "in the middle" kind of thing, but I suggest you to just stay out of this type of argument if you feel it could worsen your mental health. Also you may come across as ignorant for making statements about subjects you're not too well versed, something that could be remediated with some research. The person you had this argument quite frankly sounds like an ass that has no idea how their words can affect someone else. Despite my opinion, focus on surrounding yourself with people that makes you better, healthier and happier. Take care my guy. (edited)

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Dude that is NOT okay. Block that person wtf.

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I expect people not to consider my feelings or opinions at this point, it's not healthy but it seems to be accurate

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Once you are insulted there's no point in even talking, it is just a waste of time no matter how well you explain. It is like fighting a battle for nothing. This is not a "friend"

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I'm not sure what the right wing left wing represents unless you mean politics, but you mostly definitely shouldn't be treated like this because of depression. The person that texted you this season may be up in your life. Protect yourself for the sake of your mental health.

Dude that is NOT okay. Block that person wtf.

I expect people not to consider my feelings or opinions at this point, it's not healthy but it seems to be accurate

Once you are insulted there's no point in even talking, it is just a waste of time no matter how well you explain. It is like fighting a battle for nothing. This is not a "friend"

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