Tyler Davis

Posted Thursday, January 26, 2023

1y

INTP

Taurus

8

7

You and your parents.

After a very unpleasant conversation with my father, I had to sit back and think about all of the years I've dealt with his kind of abuse. He's not a simple kind of abuser, he's the kind of person who's so manipulative that you will think for years that maybe he had changed, and in one night he will pounce and erase all of that. I can't talk to my mom about him, because she was so destroyed that after their divorce she had to go to a psych ward, and since then has been there multiple times. I, already suffering from depression, started piecing a lot of self depicting things from that. Things like, "No wonder I'm miserable, I'm a chemical mixture of that." But I had to think, you know, I'm different though. I've accomplished far more than either of them ever had. My dad is now a social pariah who has one person on the planet left that cares. My mother is a person so afraid of experiencing change that she can't let herself even try. I've paid my own way through school with no college debt. I have a circle of friends around the globe who would do anything for me. I got to travel the world and I plan to do it again. I got my own house and pay for it myself. I'm not like them at all. My successes eclipse their abuse and their failings. Tl:dr; I don't know who needs to hear this. But you are not a product of your parent's failed attempts to raise you. You're not a product of abuse or hate, nor are you a product of the environment that surrounded you. You are your own success and YOU are responsible for that, nobody else. Rise above, live on, and keep that chin up. (edited)