What's a mistake you learned the hard way that you can now help others avoid ?

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It's not your responsibility to always fix things and make things right. If something is affecting you in a negative way, don't stay and endure it. Move on and put yourself first. It doesn't make you selfish. You can't help others if you're destroying yourself.

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Libra

How to identify red flag behaviors in men to avoid wasting my time.

ENFJ

Sagittarius

If you expect someone to do for you what you would do for them, you will be disappointed.

ISTJ

Pisces

Being too nice is a problem, it comes back to bite you in the form of people taking too much advantage of you

INTJ

Libra

Don't trust anyone not even family - like in the movie 'the wind in the willows' the weasel says - friends? Everybody is only out for themselves-

ENFJ

Aquarius

Sharing too much of myself too early on in a relationship. I used to think my trauma defined who I was. In reality, I define myself and the trauma is just part of who I am. My trauma does not define me anymore. What defines me are my words and my actions. This is a lesson I learnt the hard way. I hope that this can help others to find their way to a place of serenity and healing. Take care and be kind. Blessed be.

INTP

Pisces

Don't procrastinate. It's hard to avoid it but the more you do, the more heavy and stressful tasks become. All your responsibilities will snowball into a giant clump of stress and you will have a hard time dealing with it. If you can do it now, do it now!

INTJ

Scorpio

Blood relations are but so important. What matters most is the family and friends you handpick. People - blood or not - can be toxic and detrimental even when the relationship has ended long ago.

ISFJ

Gemini

Honest communication with your partner will save you a lot of trouble.

INFP

Pisces

Make sure you are going to an actual medical facility that isn't a pregnancy "help" center that is really a church masquerading as medical professionals taking away womens bodily autonomy and forcing birth. *ETA I just believe that pregnant people should be presented with an unbiased list of options available to them. That's all. Whether or not I personally would have an abortion is a separate matter, but all options should be presented. I also think that it should be illegal for these fake clinics to lie to people or trick them into believing they are in a medical facility. (edited)

INFP

Pisces

It's okay to say no! Use that voice when you are uncomfortable

ENTP

Sagittarius

Don't put your finger into turtle's mouth, becuase it bites🤨

INFP

Capricorn

Stay away from negative and hurtful people

INFP

Pisces

Don't trust others well i am doing the same and hurting myself though but never fall for anyone to early and too late (edited)

ISFJ

Virgo

Patience is the key in everything, without it we have nothing.. stubbornness leads to our ending..

ENTP

Libra

Don't be fooled by any cute face, you can break your face pretty badly

ENFJ

Aquarius

That you should never trust anybody with your 100%. Because you may get hurt

INTJ

Leo

I ignored my gut, because I was in love. Well I shouldn't have, it's always been right...just didn't want to believe it.

INTP

Scorpio

Don't touch the stove when it's on.

INTJ

Aries

Long term, helping people yields results only if they are willing to help themselves as well.

INFJ

Virgo

Watch how people interact with others.

INTJ

Virgo

Learn about "emotional availability." If someone is not ready for a relationship, don't go chasing them down.

ISFJ

Cancer

No one really cares. So screw what others might think and do what makes you happy.

ESFP

Libra

Real friends are hard to come by. I'm 21 and don't have a single friend.

INFJ

Capricorn

Dont keep issues to yourself to spare others, you'll only build resentment and it'll be worse for everyone

INFP

Aries

Know the limit of being kind. No matter how nice or respectful you are, some people will still talk bad about you behind your back.

ENFP

Virgo

Talking to underage person

INFP

Capricorn

My biggest mistake was not seeking psychological help when I needed it the most. Years of living consumed by depression due to not paying attention to myself, fear of being vulnerable, enduring pain due to being a man, etc.

ENTP

Libra

Really get to know yourself deeply, really do the work to gain insight about who you are and what you want. The root of betterment is education, therapy/counseling is not taboo, it's essential to learning about your mental/emotional well being and maintaining that well being in the long term. We truly cannot have a meaningful set of relationships without depth and honesty, and both of those aspects come from knowledge of oneself. Read, delve into video content on psychology, involve yourself with mental health to break the fear of it. Come to terms with your ego, you aren't perfect and it's ok to not have it figured out or be in perfect health, problems are opportunities for growth and exploration. There's much more I want to say lol but I think thats enough, there are great comments on this post.

ISFJ

Scorpio

Trust you gut, red flags are called red flags for reasons and sleep early! 😅

ISFJ

Virgo

Don't let other people tell you who you're supposed to be or try to smother your light.

INFJ

Aries

Fixing others. I used to try and fix other, but now I fix myself and show others how to.

ISFJ

Scorpio

Don't put other before yourself bc you need to love and put yourself first

INFP

Sagittarius

You can give a person knowledge but you can't make them think.

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It's not your responsibility to always fix things and make things right. If something is affecting you in a negative way, don't stay and endure it. Move on and put yourself first. It doesn't make you selfish. You can't help others if you're destroying yourself.

How to identify red flag behaviors in men to avoid wasting my time.

If you expect someone to do for you what you would do for them, you will be disappointed.

Being too nice is a problem, it comes back to bite you in the form of people taking too much advantage of you

Don't trust anyone not even family - like in the movie 'the wind in the willows' the weasel says - friends? Everybody is only out for themselves-

Don't procrastinate. It's hard to avoid it but the more you do, the more heavy and stressful tasks become. All your responsibilities will snowball into a giant clump of stress and you will have a hard time dealing with it. If you can do it now, do it now!

Blood relations are but so important. What matters most is the family and friends you handpick. People - blood or not - can be toxic and detrimental even when the relationship has ended long ago.

Honest communication with your partner will save you a lot of trouble.

It's okay to say no! Use that voice when you are uncomfortable

Don't put your finger into turtle's mouth, becuase it bites🤨

Stay away from negative and hurtful people

Don't trust others well i am doing the same and hurting myself though but never fall for anyone to early and too late (edited)

Patience is the key in everything, without it we have nothing.. stubbornness leads to our ending..

Don't be fooled by any cute face, you can break your face pretty badly

That you should never trust anybody with your 100%. Because you may get hurt

I ignored my gut, because I was in love. Well I shouldn't have, it's always been right...just didn't want to believe it.

Don't touch the stove when it's on.

Long term, helping people yields results only if they are willing to help themselves as well.

Watch how people interact with others.

Learn about "emotional availability." If someone is not ready for a relationship, don't go chasing them down.

No one really cares. So screw what others might think and do what makes you happy.

Real friends are hard to come by. I'm 21 and don't have a single friend.

Dont keep issues to yourself to spare others, you'll only build resentment and it'll be worse for everyone

Know the limit of being kind. No matter how nice or respectful you are, some people will still talk bad about you behind your back.

Talking to underage person

My biggest mistake was not seeking psychological help when I needed it the most. Years of living consumed by depression due to not paying attention to myself, fear of being vulnerable, enduring pain due to being a man, etc.

Trust you gut, red flags are called red flags for reasons and sleep early! 😅

Don't let other people tell you who you're supposed to be or try to smother your light.

Fixing others. I used to try and fix other, but now I fix myself and show others how to.

Don't put other before yourself bc you need to love and put yourself first

You can give a person knowledge but you can't make them think.

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