Posted Sunday, September 14, 2025
9/14/2025Question of the Day
This question is targeted mostly towards the male population in Boo. What do you think is worse, when approaching a lady/person in here... 1. That they reply even though they don't like you nor will they ever do 2. To not reply and not give you false hopes I ask because sometimes I get 15 messages from people I know won't be a match for me but still they keep messaging so I was just wondering what do you guys feel in general. Xoxo
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12mo
Number 1 is worse I rather they tell me straight away if they are not interested. I'm straight with people and upfront let people know where they stand is what I say
12mo
False hope is worse then anything. Sometimes guys are kinda hard wired that they have to keep a conversation going, because sometimes women don't give great responses, that allow any real follow up. Also men generally are not chatting with to many different women while women's dms are generally flooded, so they can feel like "oh I just gotta keep hitting, them up, so she can see my messages. That being said, two or three messages at different times with no responses. After that just move on dog lol, like why send 15 messages
12mo
I typically take no response as not interested
12mo
Well i would like to ask the ladies, do you often reply to a guy that you don’t think you will connect well with?? I would guess that most ladies wouldn’t waist their time (or his) if they didn’t think there was something there. But I could be dead wrong!
12mo
Love the question, I've been dealing with the same issue. I'm afraid people are sooner lonely and childishly selfish than they are seriously ready for a relationship. And of course you get more fans than you do get true compatible matches. I do decline often, and if they try again too many times, I just block them. It's not respectful to refuse to take no for an answer. And I deserve respect, like most of us.
12mo
1 definitely is worse!
12mo
On the lady side, I don't reply if not interested (even in friendship) because I don't waste my (or others) time like that.
12mo
If you don't like them, don't reply to them since you'll waste your time and their time too. If they keep messaging, spamming you, just block them
12mo
As someone who is rlly busy, I simply don't match, unless we become buddies, i'm just very selective tbh because time is fragile and if I see potential then I will give my energy. If I see things not heading the right way, I apologize and simply dip because i'm already overwhelmed but I still want a love life 😔
12mo
Upfront & honesty is the best. At times some people are better off not replying at all. I think it depends on how they communicate with you. (edited)
12mo
So personally speaking I'd rather know right after that. I've been rejected enough times in my life that I can compartmentalize it and move forward . I value clearity and honesty in those kinds of situations. "Hey, sorry I am not interested. I appreciate the effort." "Thank you for taking the time to message me! I am sorry but I am not interested in anything more then a conversation. Is that OK with you" "Hey! I hope you are having a great day... I am sorry but I am not really interested just wanted to be honest🙏🏻" Those are all better then being ghosted or left on read lol
12mo
12mo
The worst is when they reply with no intentions. I’d rather they not match and not say anything. Cause it’s like a silent rejection and I definitely forget about it then cause there’s so many fish in the sea.
12mo
both are realities every person has to deal with. i would say neither one is better than the other, but one may be better for you. your not obliged to respond to everyone, or explain yourself, but u might be a person who likes to be clear and let people know. u can try both and see which one works for you, but one is not wrong. it would be different in the case of leading someone on though, either flirting but not being interested, or ghosting after becoming a familiar face, that is where saying something is the respectful thing to do
12mo
This is unfortunately too narrow of an option. Neither is healthy, and only supports avoiding the hard conversations. I get that we don't like giving other people false hopes or hurting their feelings, but we still need to communicate these truths with all relationships. If someone can communicate empathetically to let someone down, then they already have a strong foundational quality towards building a healthy relationship with someone they choose to be with. Now...if you just want surface level fun, and are just looking for quick chemistry, keep doing what you're doing. Just remember that there are a lot of people healing, and blaming themselves for the disconnection. They deserve to know what you want instead, and that you don't want to invest more depth with them. It's like taking the band-aid off fast, let it hurt fast and feel better quickly. (edited)
12mo
No longer single, so this is retrospect. I fully expect the silent treatment if she doesn't see anything in me. So no hard feelings, and nothing more than the introductory message from me. If a conversation is started, I'd hope to get to know the person better and build an authentic relationship. However, in my experience conversations with women online area rarely authentic and in some cases are s¢am accounts. One thing I like about Boo is that conversations can be held in the universe with no expectations, which increases the likelihood of an authentic conversation and finding connection with a person. That is how I found my wonderful partner @🔆🥨🔅Koffy🔅🌰🔆 whom I love with all my heart
12mo
I'm okay with no response at all...But to get ghosted is what gets me. Especially if you've been chatting for like a week straight or more and conversation stops completely. Let a person know your intentions from the beginning if it hasn't already been established in your bio. People please read the bio because it usually tells you everything you need to know lol. The irony of getting ghosted on a site based around the spirit realm is diabolical 😆
12mo
I really just want to talk. I'm not emotionally suitable for a relationship.
12mo
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12mo
I would rather have a conversation and realize the person isn't interested (because I'm an adult and can handle it lol) than to have no human interaction at all and just be in the void
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