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Is the friendzone real?

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INFP

Gemini

If by friend zone, you mean that people sometimes only want to be friends with people that may or may not be attracted to them- then yeah. What's worse than the friend zone though is the f*ck zone, where you think someone values you and wants to be friends with you and then they get mad when you don't wanna sleep with em- feeling entitled to sex cause they were nice to you.

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INFP

Cancer

No. If you aren't happy to be friends with someone, what makes you think you'd be happy in a relationship with them? If someone only talks to you in hopes of a romantic or sexual relationship, they probably just like the IDEA of you rather than actually liking you as a person.

INFP

Leo

Yes and no. Tell me how you would just jump into relationship right off the bat with someone you wouldn't be even be a friends with?

INFP

Virgo

Hell yeah and it's great. Nice to be able to hang without any awkward tention of "maybe were more" nah we eating pizza and gaming plotonicly

INTJ

Libra

Nah. Guys don't get put in a friend zone. The women they think do that never thought of them sexually in the first place. Some women do leave it ambiguous to reap benefits from their male friends who are attracted to them and I think that's wrong but the guys aren't innocent in that scenario either. We know when a woman isn't interested, but we deceive ourselves because we love the chase. (edited)

ISTJ

Cancer

You're not responsible for someone else's feelings for you. You're not obligated to return someone's feelings. By the same token, No one is responsible for your feelings towards them. No one is obligated to reciprocate how you feel or what you do for them. So no, there's no "friend zone" there's just people who turn resentful when they can't get what they want from others

INFJ

Leo

The friend zone does not exist, no matter how much overly previaged males want it to. Its not a thing. Never has been and never will be. If someone don't see you as more than a friend...MOVE ON. Its that simple. I've had guys tell me they only seen me as a friend. I didn't sit around crying about them friend zoning me. I got back up, dust myself off and kept pushing on. No one is obligated to be in a romantic partnership with you just because you labeled them your "friend" and is sexually attracted to them. No one is obligated to date you just because you THINK you are nice. Its really that simple. People who complain about the friendzone are simply bitter because they made a CHOICE to stick around hoping the other person will "change their mind" after they already told them they were not interested. I'm so tired of people using this term to gain pity. I don't pity anyone who says they were "friend zoned". That's ALL on YOU. Grow up! 🤷🏾‍♀🤷🏾‍♀🤷🏾‍♀🤷🏾‍♀ (edited)

INFP

Capricorn

Uhm no. Well maybe for guys

INTP

Taurus

I've seen some worrying answers on this. I think it's a term most often used by men who aren't looking for anything other than physical relationships. I've never considered myself in "the friend zone" when I make friends. If me and another don't have similar expectations so be it, as long as they're kind about it. One issue I've had is stringing along though. Wherever you go. Set expectations. Work, relationships etc. If you're interested or not, verbalize that. If someone makes you feel weird for communicating then maybe they need to work on it themselves. Be understanding and kind to each other. Have a nice night everyone!

INTP

Very real. I'm only on dating sites looking for one thing - a long term relationship. If someone isn't willing to have that on the table from the get-go, I'm not interested. I'm done with being led on by commitment phones who will pretend to be ready for a relationship but are far from capable of handling one when it finds them.

ENFJ

Libra

Hellz yeah it is. Is it a bad thing though? Who cares. Not everyone has to like you in that way, just like you probably don't like everyone in that way. It's a waste of life trying to force a connection that isn't there, even worse to not enjoy the one that is there. There are plenty of other people who would like you in that way where you would equally like them the same way. Better to spend your time finding them than spending it on a lost cause.

INFP

Virgo

I don't personally believe so. It all depends on the two people and their dynamic. If they are attracted to each other but scared to talk about their feelings, then someone needs to make that jump. Other times, it's just unrequited feelings and they have a hard time distinguishing mixed signals.

INFJ

Pisces

I do believe the friend zone exists sometimes someone is so important to you that you don't want to risk losing them if the relationship didn't work out or maybe they became friends with you because they like you but the feeling isn't mutual personally my problem is when someone becomes your friend only so they can try to take advantage of you in one form or another

INFP

Gemini

It's kind of one of those things that has a different definition to everyone. Sometimes one party can grow feelings towards a platonic friend that's unrequited and sometimes people are just shallow and consider platonic relationships a bad thing. In the end unrequited attraction tests your character and emotional maturity.

INTJ

Virgo

Yes, but I think people forget that not everyone can ask out any and every person off the very first interaction. Sometimes you legitimately only see them as a friend but the more time you spend with them the more you understand who they are and that leads to opening yourself up more, spending more time with them, etc; feelings for that person can develop into deeper feelings overtime. What tends to happen more often than not is the other person not feeling the same way, and there is nothing wrong with that, but the emotions that you had for that person doesn't just disappear it just lingers around because they made you feel something deep but they don't feel the same way and it's hard to go talk to that same person the same way after saying you felt something more knowing they didn't see things how you did. The friendzone imo is like a temporary place you put yourself in when you feel as if your best efforts in dating/social life can only lead to friendships not just one or two times in a blue moon but when you feel as if you're not enough for anyone passed a friendship and although you want to express deeper emotions it feels as if you're best efforts are not good enough.

INTP

Leo

Only if those two people never had sex once that happens theres no such thing

INTP

Aries

Tbh I have enough friends, I don't need any more monthly dramas haha

INTJ

Aries

It is as real as death and taxes. Many of us will experience being placed there or placing people there during our lifetimes. The thing is that it has been given a bad mojo during many years due to mostly men complaining they always "get put there" (women are more skillful in navigating the friendzone and either accepting it or moving on). Then again, I am reluctant to call someone I few just a few days knowing a "friend". In that sense, communication should be absolutely clear: guy or gal should tell the person candidate for friend that no attraction is there, only intellectual/company interest. Honestly, the phrase "you're like a brother to me" is cringy AF. I have my blood brothers and sisters, thank you. "You're someone whose company and conversation I enjoy" should suffice.

ENFP

Aquarius

Yes, but there are also different types of friends, each with its own lane.

INFJ

Aries

Why is this even a question, Boo? 👀

ENFP

Gemini

Yes, but only because both parties enable it. Men (usually) enable it by not being upfront about their intentions. Women (usually) enable it when they know a dude is into them, yet believe he can maintain a plutonic friendship. Ladies, if a dude is attracted to you, he will always want more than friendship. Personally, I don't do the friend zone. If I'm attracted to a girl, I can't be just friends because I know I'll always want more, and I'm not willing to put myself through constant disappointment of never getting what I want. I make my intentions known, and if she's not into it, no big deal and we go our separate ways. I'm talking about friendships where one person is attracted to the other.

ENTP

Gemini

Yes it is. Once you're there it's like weird to try n take it to the next. Also, If u go for it, and it don't work out boom! you lost a friend.

INTP

Leo

I believe it's real; sometimes it's out of mutual choice, other times your crush doesn't like you back and you gotta move on lol

ENTP

Aquarius

No if you made your feelings known and were rejected, if you can go back to friends that's not the friend zone if you think it is are you really their friend

ESTJ

Virgo

Common evilness when undirect people try to be polite

INFP

Cancer

Yes

ISFP

Capricorn

Yes 💯

INFP

Capricorn

I think the friend zone is real, but for some reason I've heard a lot of people describe it as a kind of punishment, something to escape, both men and women. I think it's more like you have someone who you like to spend time with, but if you got into a relationship with them then it would change everything, and possibly ruin something you both love. It's not a bad thing, but it might not be what one or the other wants

INTJ

Capricorn

Yes, but not in the context that it's commonly used and it certainly isn't a negative thing. Nobody owes anything to anyone.

ISTP

Aquarius

Oh, sure absolutely. I've got three ladies that after dating, we both decided to just be friends. We go over to each other's houses and play card games with no expectation of anything else.sometimes they have their boyfriends with them, and I'm totally cool with that. A lot of times it doesn't work out that way. Communication and honesty is key to making this work.

INTP

Gemini

Yes

ESTJ

Virgo

Yes it's real 💯

ENFP

Aries

Friend zones are important! It keeps your friends as friends especially when you have the opposite sex continuing to try and be more than friends. This works for both sides male or female.

ISFJ

Cancer

UHM YES

INFP

Capricorn

I was on a "date" that I wasn't sure of. The girl asked if I was considering it a date, or if she should just "friend-zone" me. I feel like in that context it is a tool to pressure relational disposition, which is a little toxic.

INTJ

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Is the friendzone real?

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No. If you aren't happy to be friends with someone, what makes you think you'd be happy in a relationship with them? If someone only talks to you in hopes of a romantic or sexual relationship, they probably just like the IDEA of you rather than actually liking you as a person.

Yes and no. Tell me how you would just jump into relationship right off the bat with someone you wouldn't be even be a friends with?

Hell yeah and it's great. Nice to be able to hang without any awkward tention of "maybe were more" nah we eating pizza and gaming plotonicly

Uhm no. Well maybe for guys

I don't personally believe so. It all depends on the two people and their dynamic. If they are attracted to each other but scared to talk about their feelings, then someone needs to make that jump. Other times, it's just unrequited feelings and they have a hard time distinguishing mixed signals.

Only if those two people never had sex once that happens theres no such thing

Tbh I have enough friends, I don't need any more monthly dramas haha

Yes, but there are also different types of friends, each with its own lane.

Why is this even a question, Boo? 👀

Yes it is. Once you're there it's like weird to try n take it to the next. Also, If u go for it, and it don't work out boom! you lost a friend.

I believe it's real; sometimes it's out of mutual choice, other times your crush doesn't like you back and you gotta move on lol

No if you made your feelings known and were rejected, if you can go back to friends that's not the friend zone if you think it is are you really their friend

Common evilness when undirect people try to be polite

Yes

Yes 💯

Yes, but not in the context that it's commonly used and it certainly isn't a negative thing. Nobody owes anything to anyone.

Yes

Yes it's real 💯

Friend zones are important! It keeps your friends as friends especially when you have the opposite sex continuing to try and be more than friends. This works for both sides male or female.

UHM YES

I was on a "date" that I wasn't sure of. The girl asked if I was considering it a date, or if she should just "friend-zone" me. I feel like in that context it is a tool to pressure relational disposition, which is a little toxic.

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