Posted Tuesday, July 11, 2023
7/11/2023
INFJ
Sagittarius
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What was the life event that taught you the most harsh truth about yourself but also allowed you to grow?
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The death of my grandmother. Before she passed I'd ignore her calls sometimes when I was at school and I'd get annoyed. Her death made me confront my childish belief that everyone would always be there when I was ready for them. After watching my grandmother get lowered into her grave I vowed that I would always be there for the ones who love me because they might not be there tomorrow. I hope everyone learns to appreciate their loved ones before they leave.
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ESFJ
Capricorn
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In 2021 my friends and I tried to go through Libya to join Europe (Italy) arrived in Libya these smugglers let us take just a little bag, sandwich. .The did not want us to take our things with us. We went to three boats. I was on the last boat. And my friends on the other side unfortunately, the first two were very overloaded: in a storm, they sank. There was not only one survivor. I saw that. These are terrible moments. It’s not easy to explain or tell. I saw more than 200 people die before my own eyes my friends were there. People who were suffering. We could not do anything. And after that two boats coming from Italy came to make us return to the starting point I lost my two friends forever 😔🌹
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INTP
Virgo
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A harsh break up with someone I had loved. I let her disrespect me in every way cause I wanted to believe this fantasy that she felt the same way back and just had other things going on. All because I desperately wanted to feel loved and wanted because I felt that would give me happiness in a time were I had difficulty finding it myself. I let myself be lead on for 2 years thinking it would work out before she finally ended things abruptly. It took a while to undo the gaslighting to make me think I was in the wrong and even longer to undo this want for her to acknowledge her accountability in the situation and apologize. I eventually just took stock of what went wrong with myself and her, made a note of it, and took the time to appreciate friends around me and found hobbies and interests that made me happy for my own sake. Long story short, if you feel the energy you're putting in is not being reciprocated and your kindness is just being taken advantage of. Save yourself alot of turmoil by taking an exit and moving on. You only lie to yourself by thinking it'll work out.
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ENFP
Virgo
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My best friend dying by suicide. Made me aware of how real depression was and how I was denying my own and how much more prevention needed to be integrated and suicide, better understood.
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ISTJ
Aquarius
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Dropping out of college
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INFP
Virgo
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Wasn't exactly an event. It was daily life, little things, little misunderstandings or just good days i shared with friends...The day I realized we're all living in our own realities was an eye opener. People do believe there's only this one. But everyone sees it from their own perspectives. And that's perfectly fine. I just had to see that. So I could make a decision. I don't have to be loved or liked by many. I don't have to agree to be a friend. All I need is being there... Find the ones alike for inner balance, accept there's unity in diversity and that all we need is quality, not quantity. So i stopped waiting for things, I started to surf through life. Riding all waves I can.
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ISTP
Pisces
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Loosing one of my two sons wouldn't break me to the point I couldn't be a good mom to my other son. Some days I feel it should have, until my eldest comes into my room to just talk. And I realize, I'm not here just for me anymore. If I break, he breaks. And that's just not a possibility.
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ENTJ
Cancer
I used try very hard to keep in my life people that have never done the same effort to stay. They always leave slowly whenever I stop trying. I have learned that some people are just not meant to be in your life. They are just visitors, not everyone that cross our path are meant to stay. Some are just here to motivate you, open your eyes on something, and leave. No matter how hard you try, you can never defy gravity for too long. (edited)
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ENFJ
Virgo
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I found myself married to a covert narcissist. Although I did not know that when I agreed to marry him. I learned the importance of boundaries. Something that I did not think was necessary in marriage. I also grew tremendously in how I learned to not respond emotionally to stressful situations. I've learned so much about mental health and my own childhood traumas that at the time I did not think we're an issue in my adulthood. I can proudly say that after 3 years of therapy, wow I do wish I didn't have to go through what I did to learn what I have and grow, I do appreciate where the path in my life took me because I have a much stronger and more stable person than I ever was 15 years ago.
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ENFJ
Capricorn
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When my dad leaving I live in country where you can have a child without paying child support unless you're married (since having child outside marriage is considered taboo), so when my dad leaving my brother need to drop out from college to work full time and barely makes end meet for my mother me and my youngest brother and so when I'm graduate from high school college it's just a myth and I get straight to find a work, luckily when I was still in high school seeing my brother work hard and barely makes end meet I got motivation to learn programming online and now I'm working as IT Developer. Now not only paying the bills I can help my youngest to pay his tuition
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INFJ
Pisces
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That if they want to go, I should let them.
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INFJ
Virgo
Got rejected by a gathering of friends and was even told to leave as it was the seat of another friend, the one that invited me didnt stick up for me. Realized no matter who i pleased it didn't matter as there was someone better than me. Now i hold onto friends that actually stayed and cared for me( bit sapy but i love my friends)
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ENFJ
Gemini
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one day I saw a baby bird, fallen from its nest, it was struggling to move, I wanted to help it and I moved it to put it in a more ''secure'' place but 2 minutes more later, a cat arrived and attacked him... I understood that even with the greatest will and benevolence in the world, it happens that by wanting to help someone has only made the situation worse. 🙏
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INFP
Capricorn
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The death of my grandfather. I learned that there is people that, even when you love, even being your family, is best to keep low contact with. A toxic relationship is a toxic relationship, and even your family can hurt you.
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INFP
Sagittarius
That there is such thing as too many chances
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INTP
Scorpio
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Break up after 8 years of relationship.
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INFP
Sagittarius
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Counting down into the new year while being in an inpatient psychiatric program. Hearing how excited all the staff was to celebrate another year to come and all the things that could hold, while you're laying on a cot staring at fake clouds on the ceiling does alot to put things into perspective.
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ESFJ
Aquarius
I was the toxic one in some of my past relationships! Now i have accepted im not perfect, i wasnt a good gf but i learned from it working on myself to be a better person and partner. Example when i was younger i was very controlling and jealous would go crazy 😅😅 no wonder why they left i dont blame them i wouldnt put up with that
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INFJ
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The aunt I hate the most who hurted me, my parents and my grandmother so much.. it was back then when she got a paralytic attack because of high sugar intake and she was not in her senses and pooped in her clothes and I rather than telling this to anybody in the family I took her to the washroom and washed her... While washing the clothes my mother caught me and she said you really changed.. I'm proud of you.. that was my harsh personality change which helped me to grow and explore more about myself.. then I took care of the aunt for 2 years in a row during Covid. God bless you all.
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INFJ
Pisces
My wife's death
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INTP
Libra
Losing a loved one
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ENFP
Libra
I tried to help someone that clearly didn’t want to better themselves. I did everything to the point that I nearly hurt myself cause of all they put me through.
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ENFJ
Cancer
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Losing my partner due to their mental health issues and it destroying my life which i had built up for years. Wouldn't wish it on anyone as it's a there's no winners and everyone gets hurt.
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INTP
Scorpio
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My first sparring match. That was the day I learned I was weak as a normal human being and the day I fell in love with sparring. So I trained hard each day and now I am strong. But I'm not the best I'm average like everyone else. So on my behalf I'll never reach perfection because whatever is perfect can not get better if your stuck at a plateau.
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ISTJ
Scorpio
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There are once someone tell me to the face “ I think you try too hard”. I didn’t understand until one day I realized that what she was trying to say is trying very hard to solve issue doesn’t mean the issue is solvable . Sometimes we just need to let go instead of trying. Since then when I’m trying too hard I will rmb what she said to me. (edited)
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INFJ
Cancer
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When my "bestfriends" used my secrets against me, just because they were spiteful. I learnt the value of have a few but faithful friends and no matter happens I wouldn't use others secrets or moments of vulnerability against them. 😁
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