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5/22/2023

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Virgo

What is the best cope mechanism you think it's best for breakups?

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ISTP

Libra

Unfriend, block and delete their socials Take time & grieve ending the relationship Spend time with family and friends and acknowledge your self worth again And lastly,

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INFJ

Libra

I think the best coping mechanism is to spend time with family and friends. It will remind you that you are loved 🥰.

INFJ

Virgo

Grieving is important because you lost someone. Cry it out, feel the pain. Do not numb yourself with drugs, smoking or drinking. Talk about it if you can. Have a moment of self-reflection. It's okay to feel angry. It's okay to feel your emotions. Be with the people who love you, and don't forget to love yourself first. Take cake of yourself. You will heal. 💗

ENTP

Sagittarius

Make a new crush n concentrate on it

ENFP

Leo

None of them just sit threw it and cry if you want and wait patiently to get better

ISFJ

Leo

Self care 😘

ENFP

Aquarius

Too vague of a question. Do you need to cope if you break up with someone? If you cheated and got caught and dumped should you get to cope?

INFJ

Sagittarius

For me it is music and making my self busy in work

INTJ

Cancer

Just get over it

INFP

Aries

Self improvement ✨️

ISTP

Virgo

Unfriend and delete pictures together. Reminisce that there were good and bad times and you did your best. You loved, was loved, and was broken. Travelling also helps. And good food, of course :P

INFJ

Aquarius

There really is no "good" coping mechanism- all people are doing right now in the world is coping. Coping isn't a method of healing, it's a distraction that prevents/prolongs healing. Breakups are going to hurt- it's impossible for them not to. But the refusal/avoidance of actually FEELING all the emotions involved is what's causing the pain. Another issue is isolation- pain needs to be accepted and witnessed by others in a safe environment, so don't grieve alone- have trusting friends/family around, or at least a good therapist to be present while you express your feelings. (edited)

ENTJ

Scorpio

Focus on ways you can love yourself whether by exercise, or other self care. Also, invest more energy into nurturing close friend and family relationships and into activities that make you healthier and stronger. Prayer and meditation can help a lot too. Time heals all wounds. Use that time to make yourself stronger. (edited)

INFJ

Gemini

Just cry it out.... And then dig his/her grave and bury him/her. Like for real! Just think of him/her as someone who was there, who you loved dearly, but is now dead, and since he/she is dead, he/she ain't coming back, and you also don't want him/her back, because you don't want to spent the rest of your life with a ghost! Offer flowers, bow down, give respect, turn back and move on, let him/her rest in peace and watch you from heaven or hell or whatever, if they want to. ERASE HIM/HER, just like he/she did. If your close people ask, tell them you don't know who they are talking about, or that he/she is no more. It worked for me.

INFP

Scorpio

A lot of numbing sleep and overworking.

ISTP

Aries

A regular supply of tea. At orgies.

INFJ

Gemini

It is what it is.

ENTJ

Capricorn

When you add an addition to you house make sure if it falls apart it don't collapse the whole building too.

INFJ

You have to treat a breakup as if they physically died. I feel like we don't draw those parallels enough. Breakups are a form of loss, and with loss comes grief. Allow yourself to feel however you want to feel. Then 'bury' them. Like people are saying here, you want to delete and block all their socials which could symbolise burying them. Depending on the circumstances in which the relationship ended, I feel that we all refer to our exes throughout life because at the end of the day, they did play a part in shaping who we are today. In other words, we can't truly forget them, but over time we become indifferent and can speak about them without having strong emotional reaction. An analogy is like a ball in a jar. Grief being the ball, the jar being life. At first, the ball takes up most of the jar. You'd think that the ball shrinks over time, but it's actually the jar (your life) that expands around it and the grief becomes just a bit more bearable. Remember that what you are feeling is temporary. This too shall pass. You've made it through 100% of your bad days and you can only go so far down until life changes directions and the only way is up! Stay strong❤️💪

ISTP

Capricorn

Nearest bar, doesn't matter if I miss her or not it's still stress to me

INFP

Leo

No clue I thought I'd be over him by now.

ISFP

Scorpio

Focusing on yourself, in my opinion

ENFP

Gemini

Focus on a simple routine. Wake up, make your bed, go to work, get home, go for a quick run, cook, relax an hour, go to bed. Reduce the time you can spend missing someone to a minimum with tasks... there's no easy way to get over a breakup.

INFJ

Aries

Coping mechanism after a break up would be for me like taking some accountability for your actions. Taking time out for yourself and create new and healthy habits.

ISFJ

Capricorn

Friends that care about you

ENFP

Libra

Self love. Remind yourself of who you are by doing this you love that you'd forgotten about whilst you were with someone else. It's important to eat well, drink well, sleep and indulge in self care like long baths, reading, walks alone and meeting new people or making new friends. Those language classes you always wanted to do but your partner wasn't interested? Do them! Remind yourself to live well and you'll cope well.

ESFJ

Capricorn

Idk, I've never done a break up but I've been left, abandoned and ignored. So I guess my mechanism is just life. It is what it is.

INFP

Cancer

I "mourn" them. I mourn their loss as if they actually died, get over it rather quickly and then proceed to live normally. But yeah, thinking of them as if they're dead helps a lot 😂

ENFJ

Leo

There is no mechanism to cope for a heaŕt ache. It heals if we learn to trust our capabilities to love someone else who truly deserves us. Bygones are bygones.

INFP

Personally, dissociation and hyper independence :)

INFP

Leo

tldr affirmation from support network, and and when we are ready proving we can do even better. Regardless for me what really made a difference with my toxic breakup was getting affirmation from my support network that. I wasn't at fault in the breakup, and later on seeing i can be loved and desired again by different people for different reasons.

ENFJ

Libra

Meditation techniques and martial arts techniques. Reconnect with your divinity and realize you are a God or Goddess. Let them see your happy without them, even if life is sometimes painful.

ENTJ

Cancer

The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else. It's the best and most proven method.

ISTP

Cancer

People. The worst thing after you get hurt is the heal yourself with time and people to fill the void of the absence of the person.

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Unfriend, block and delete their socials Take time & grieve ending the relationship Spend time with family and friends and acknowledge your self worth again And lastly,

I think the best coping mechanism is to spend time with family and friends. It will remind you that you are loved 🥰.

Make a new crush n concentrate on it

None of them just sit threw it and cry if you want and wait patiently to get better

Self care 😘

Too vague of a question. Do you need to cope if you break up with someone? If you cheated and got caught and dumped should you get to cope?

For me it is music and making my self busy in work

Just get over it

Self improvement ✨️

Unfriend and delete pictures together. Reminisce that there were good and bad times and you did your best. You loved, was loved, and was broken. Travelling also helps. And good food, of course :P

A lot of numbing sleep and overworking.

A regular supply of tea. At orgies.

It is what it is.

When you add an addition to you house make sure if it falls apart it don't collapse the whole building too.

Nearest bar, doesn't matter if I miss her or not it's still stress to me

No clue I thought I'd be over him by now.

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Focusing on yourself, in my opinion

Focus on a simple routine. Wake up, make your bed, go to work, get home, go for a quick run, cook, relax an hour, go to bed. Reduce the time you can spend missing someone to a minimum with tasks... there's no easy way to get over a breakup.

Coping mechanism after a break up would be for me like taking some accountability for your actions. Taking time out for yourself and create new and healthy habits.

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Idk, I've never done a break up but I've been left, abandoned and ignored. So I guess my mechanism is just life. It is what it is.

I "mourn" them. I mourn their loss as if they actually died, get over it rather quickly and then proceed to live normally. But yeah, thinking of them as if they're dead helps a lot 😂

There is no mechanism to cope for a heaŕt ache. It heals if we learn to trust our capabilities to love someone else who truly deserves us. Bygones are bygones.

Personally, dissociation and hyper independence :)

Meditation techniques and martial arts techniques. Reconnect with your divinity and realize you are a God or Goddess. Let them see your happy without them, even if life is sometimes painful.

The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else. It's the best and most proven method.

People. The worst thing after you get hurt is the heal yourself with time and people to fill the void of the absence of the person.

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