Should I stay? or should I go?

Question

Feeling like I'm leaning into I should go, my time here on earth hasn't been pleasant nothing but disappointment after disappointment nothing ever look up for me always going South and it keeps going deeper to the point that their is no point in going anymore.

Sofija · Accepted Answer

I'm in a similar situation, but what motivates me to keep going is trying to figure out what is wrong with me mentally and the possibility to leave a constantly triggering traumatic memories place. Good luck and if you want a female friend to talk to and who is not going to judge, send me a message I'll be happy to help.

Gabrielle · Answer

I completely understand how you feel, often I feel the same way. But I remind myself there’s so much beauty in this world, and so many beautiful opportunities and experiences that will happen. The world is a much better place with you in it, and you deserve everything good life has to offer. 😊

Shan · Answer

i agree with @Conlan. Dont give up, stick around. Reach out if you need an 👂🏻or shoulder x

Michael · Answer

I hear you.  Sometimes life (or someone you trusted not to hurt you, but does) gives you one heck of a gut punch.  Just follow that action.

Take a knee, regain your breath, regain your composure, take some time to acknowledge what has happened, make lists if they help, talk to someone if you can.

If you feel you can't talk to a friend or a family member, see if you can speak to a social prescriber or a counsellor.  
You don't need to be judged, no need someone to actively listen and acknowledge your pain.  It will get better, but you need to make the first step in doing so and that can scare the absolute life out of you, and that would be the right reaction.

Think about it, if you have spent so long, trusting someone not to hurt you, and they have, but you didn't stop it, you made allowances for it, that is what can happen.  It happens more and more, and eventually you reallise you are not you anymore.

Ok, so change that, and put small steps in place to protect who you are, and rebuild who you were and make you a stronger you.

There is nothing wrong with goofballs.  The world needs more of them. They see fun and laughter in everything.

Andy · Answer

The world is a better place with you in it. Stay strong

Dan · Answer

Definitely stay. No matter what you're going through, it's not the answer.

Raymie · Answer

There will be more bad times, that’s just life but it does get better I can assure you that.  Try not to dwell too much on the past, in the end of the day you can’t change it.  All you can do is try and make the best out of each and every situation you find yourself in.

Shawny · Answer

Should I stay or should I gooooo nowwwwwwww 🎶

Not sure what you’ve experienced, but listen to Kip C speak about his life on YouTube. It might be helpful.

Ami · Answer

Hi Erika! I have felt the same way in the past and it is totally normal to feel this way when we feel hopeless. And it’s difficult to be hopeful when the environment we’re in doesn’t allow us to be. I’m not sure if your circumstances allow you to but I think therapy will definitely help because there is going to be someone that needs to be on your side and help you when you see them. Good job dealing with challenges in your life! I hope life throws less lemons at you and more sugar:)

Kris · Answer

I think it's important to stay. We don't know what's after death and it could be nothing. Logically speaking anything is better than nothing. There will always be good and bad moments. Just try and make as many good moments as you can

Petr · Answer

I had pretty similar feelings a long time ago. But then everything get much better and now it's perfect. ☺️ I learned to don't worry about things I can't change and start changing things I can. It was hard, many fails, but. 🤷 I had nothing to loose, so another fail wasn't bothering me anymore. Took long time, but it was worth it.

Jose · Answer

You should stay because the pain of you leaving will always be greater then the relief you think you might get , the world is better with you in it

Simon · Answer

Stay!!!

Most times when we are not feeling life we look back and keep looking to justify our feelings and it only encourages the dark mood.

The one thing that is always constant... is that life is always changing. Which means the way you feel now won't be forever and there may be a future full of joy and fun. You need to hang on for those moments. They will come!

In the mean time, some things I've found helpful...

Be active, go out and enjoy some sun, exercise.

Make something with your hands. Be creative, whether poems, crafts, crocheting, drawing, wood working, express yourself.

Do something for someone else! Whether it be friend or foe, find a way to volunteer or help someone.

Listen to some tunes! Positive ones that get you dancing.

Try spirituality/faith... however that looks for you. For me I pray. Finding a community of like minded people can help too.

Overall...stay! Always pick stay!!

John · Answer

Think about this: You have survived every bad day you've ever had. You aren't struggling with depression; depression is struggling with you.

Jill · Answer

Times get super tough, trust me I've been there. But also trust me when I say you will come out the other side so thankful you made it through. There are always more people who care about you than you are even aware of

William · Answer

Some of the best advice I've heard is
 if you find yourself struggling for a reason to be happy or to keep going, live instead for spite.
I know it sounds bad but living to spite someone or something gives you that drive to force yourself to keep moving and living and even driving yourself to succeed if only just to spit in the eyes of that person just one more time. After a while, you find that you have more to live for than just spite

Conlan · Answer

I'm not totally sure what you're getting at, but I think you should stick around and see what happens 😉 never know what's around the next corner 👍

B · Answer

Thats 90% of the population of the earth. Just fight fight fight...

Lourens · Answer

What must have  happened for you to reach this point..? Pain can either make u or brake  u, i would say stay, emotions are raw but so beautiful once you've accepted the process of life and the way life teaches you things, if you have no reason..make one ,you only get one chance to understand, experience and create  , it's all about mindset and choices  ,so give u a clear reason, I can not but I can say this ..the universe chose you to enjoy this blessing called life for a reason it's  our freewill that complicates things and confuses the F out of us ,identify the emotions causing discomfort, seek ways to resolve these emotions might it be self help or professional, find a way to consciously separate yourself from these emotions focus on your own personal emotions and desires and allow  yourself to find the solution once there's  will there's growth once there's growth there's opportunity and that's all you need to change the outcome and not just give up😊

Eduardo · Answer

You should stay.  💯 stay please

Katie · Answer

Don’t go!

Kevin · Answer

Going off here or leaving the world?

Graeme · Answer

One thing I've found consistently gives 'meaning' in life and a bit of happiness is helping other people. Have you ever tried volunteering with any groups, like picking litter in a group, feeding people who don't have food, that kind of thing?  Another thing that seems to make people happy is singing in groups. I'm not in a choir but I've known a few choir people and they all seem kinda happy somehow. Same with martial arts clubs. Most martial arts people seem kinda happy. Maybe trying something different and new like that might give you some joy unexpectedly.

Sherif · Answer

Sent a longer message to you directly. I hope it helps.

Michael · Answer

I know how you feel, Ive had a lot of things and people removed from my life this year, and changes at my job. I didnt get a choice in any of it. But I saw this post a while back that said god will remove all of the things not intended for you, in order to make room for the things he has prepared for you. Keeping in mind its on his timeline, not ours, perhaps all the things you are "losing" are being removed to make room for something greater in your life. Youre welcome to disregard all of this, but I hope it might help bring you some peace. Between that and the serenity prayer they are my go to when life feels so out of my control, because most things, we have little real control over. Keep your head up, "it cant rain all the time!"

Nev · Answer

U js ain bumped into yo crowd r yo person yet das it

jordanny · Answer

The true is that life has no real meaning, it's hard, it crush us but not all of us, indeed some people have less difficulties than others, but another thing is true too, living is the meaning of life, discovering new things and trying to survive despiste all the problems and hard times, I'm 25 years old and if I could say it, after my 5 years old till now I had hard times with friends, school, work, family and all the rest, but somehow I still have hope to reaching something, I had bad thoughts much times and still have sometimes just like you now, but you know what? I still right here trying to not stop and keeping in movement, if you want someone to chat with no bad judgments and very honest just tell me, I like to have deep conversations and listen to people, not all of them, not the "victims" of the society but the true ones that are having hard times. This applies to anyone looking this comment.

Patricia · Answer

Stay, if for no other reason then stay as an up yours to life itself. If life keeps trying to break you down, choosing to remain despite the mounting disappointments is an act of defiance.

Chris · Answer

I can  relate, I was once so in the deep end I just couldn't see a way out. No help from family and friends but idk I guess I wanted to prove fate wrong and it pushed past it and tried something new and from that gained an experience I other wise would have missed out on. Now I have a business fixing motorcycles and customizing them. From zero to eleven in a few yrs. Someone once told me," I can't just wish for change, I have to make a change ". I promise you the best is yet to come..

Justin · Answer

Stay and play. Take it easy on yourself. You can get through this. If you haven’t tried getting professional help, I hope you will. It can really make a difference when you find a mental health practitioner who’s a good match, even though it can take a while, with lots of trial and error.

Brandon · Answer

Message me if you need someone to talk to

JT · Answer

Stay, find what meaning you can and keep walking because nothing is an end we will all meet. Something is rare, we are surrounded by this rare amazing life.

Andre &quot;Dre&quot; · Answer

Life is precious, if you need a friend to confide in reach out. The world is a better place with you in it. Whatever it is you're going through or dealing with,  I promise it gets better. Sometimes you just need to hold on a little longer.

Andrew · Answer

Stay

Dr Vishva · Answer

Well its nothing but ur mind body is tired of everything thats around u ... Its fxable tho , it might feel tight and suffocating but believe me , one day u gonan figure it out ! U doont have to have hope or belief , i believe ppl always underestimate how strong they are and i am sure that u are much strong than u do ... Yeah its okay to have bad and sad days ... Its okay to be like this ... Soo dont load urself with too much thoughts ...unload it and u will figure out things

Should I stay? or should I go?

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I completely understand how you feel, often I feel the same way. But I remind myself there’s so much beauty in this world, and so many beautiful opportunities and experiences that will happen. The world is a much better place with you in it, and you deserve everything good life has to offer. 😊

i agree with @Conlan. Dont give up, stick around. Reach out if you need an 👂🏻or shoulder x

The world is a better place with you in it. Stay strong

Definitely stay. No matter what you're going through, it's not the answer.

There will be more bad times, that’s just life but it does get better I can assure you that. Try not to dwell too much on the past, in the end of the day you can’t change it. All you can do is try and make the best out of each and every situation you find yourself in.