So yesterday we broke up, and today is supposed to be our anniversary. I file a leave at work to celebrate. Now idk what to do. I don't have the strength to go alone. I don't have friends.

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Cory Shampine

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I cry

Clay

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Cancer

The pain is unavoidable dont try and think your way out of it. Let your self be sad. Go be with family and friends

Sid

ISTP

Pisces

Plan a alone time , go out have fun and don't remember ☺️

Aaron King

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Taurus

When I broke up with my 1st girlfriend recently over 7 months ago at 1st I felt like my soul was being ripped out of my body, I was confused and didn't know what to do we would have been together 3 years the other week.I was just kicked at the curb with no real good explanation after doing everything for her, I can tell you is it does get easier with time but at the same time you become more guarded and you tend to look at the better things in life and realize that just life is a huge experience in that were all just a part of it. I used my hobby of working out and guitar aswell as hanging out with my best friend. The best overall advice is to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and take life one day at a time. Good luck and be safe!

Wyatt

ENFP

Leo

Today is 5 months for me. I downloaded this yesterday. I still have no idea what I'm doing.

Indra (he/him)

INFP

Cancer

I listen to a sad song, then cry while eating a lot of chocolate ☺️

Gareth

ISFJ

Leo

Tough one... I suppose the smart thing to do is to take it a day at a time and get used to surviving on your own, with your own time and space. Then when another opportunity comes around to share that time and space you know you are not dependent on anyone to be happy 🤷‍♂️ easier said than done though right - good luck! (edited)

Justin

INTJ

Scorpio

Order a pizza and do the things he didn’t want to do ever

Sarah

INFP

Sagittarius

I have a ritual of doing something to dramatically change my hair after each breakup 😅 Not sure it's the best coping mechanism, but I feel like it helps me get closure and feel like a different person.

Praneeth

ESFJ

Taurus

Have a good drink and watch a good movie maybe..😊

Frank

ENFP

Cancer

I drink until I can't feel feelings and then I'm usually fine going forward.

Candice

ENFP

Sagittarius

Cry cry cry. Telling myself it's all my fault.

Fabian

INFJ

Sagittarius

Pick a new hobby or do something u like to take your mind off (edited)

Liam

INFP

Libra

I can try and be a friend. I usually just bottle my emotions up and get drunk

Jordan

ISTJ

Sagittarius

I tried focusing on work a bit more. I didnt have friends. Hardest 2 weeks of my life

Awif

ISFP

Aries

What I did when it happened to me, was move on. Simple as that! Now I know for other and most people it's not that easy, but I feel like that's what you gotta do! Learning from the past but not being stuck in it is important! Go out and find/do stuff that make you happy and maybe meet someone new that will be your true one🤗

Kyle

ENFP

Cancer

Let it hurt. It showed you that you cared and after that You will know what you want

Mario

ENFJ

Libra

Go out with friends, cry, laugh, eat. Take one day at a time 🙌🏼✨

Ricky Pham

INFJ

Gemini

I traveled alone

David

INTP

Sagittarius

That's a tough one but I always just refocused my energies and did my best to be a better me. Not the person they wanted me to be, but the better person I wanted to be before I met them. Easier said than done. As others said, other times, you just got to cry. Should add, you won't find anything worth your time until you're happy and strong on your own first. (edited)

Brent

ESTP

Libra

The best way to get over a break up is to hook up with someone else. Once that happens, you have your confidence back and dont mind being alone. This works everytime

JACKY

INFJ

Gemini

You celebrate the good times you had. Forgive the bad if you can. You may be hurting now but its always best to let the pain go its course and be stronger of a person for it. The longer failing relationships go the harder it is to get over it. Its best it ends sooner then later believe me. Hope you clime that mountain and let the summit hear your victory cry

David

INFP

Sagittarius

I sat down and cry

Théo

INFP

Aries

Sit in my bed and cry and I dont eat or drink for like a week then just dinner and slowly get better to the point im eating kinda normal and very depressed then thats it, im just depressed as usual

Lyman

INTP

Libra

Cry, be angry if you need to. You should let your emotions flow out and not try to suppress them even if you feel like you cried enough already. You just want to let it all out so you can open up to start trying to spoil yourself for you not to cover the pain.

Johndee

ISFP

Sagittarius

Go to Boracay or Palawan..

INTJ

Pisces

I drive at break neck speed with the system turned up and playing rock and metal. Then go find someplace to fish and just think "why, what did I do wrong" or "why am I not good enough" then get to the realization of F that B, her loss

Alexander

INFP

Aquarius

I don't have friends either. Feelsbad. I say go outside and hug a tree and be in nature. I think that's the best you can do. At least that's what I do when I'm sad :( cheers. life will get better

Julius

INTJ

Aries

I don't have problems with brake ups. I don't have anyone to break up with. Never did. 🤷‍♂️ But that's not helpful. 🤔 If it hurts now, it means you were happy, you have something good to remember. Pain will pass, but happy memories will stay. I would take the pain, just to have a few wonderful days. 😔

Synthia

INTJ

Libra

Make a voice recording of how I feel in that moment. Form of venting.

Mike

ESTP

Capricorn

Keep busy and make new friends

Elijah

ENFP

Libra

I eat every item they ever gifted me

Miguel

ENFP

Leo

Essentially you have to pick yourself up recently i lost someone very very close to me and it hurt the first day but i told myself "crying and bitching wont bring anything back gotta keep going and better things will come along the way, tis but a scratch" and as a only child is hard to rely on anyone so i started doing things i enjoy such as rollerblading and it took my mind away from it and now i just wanna get better at my hobby. Hope this helps a bit hope you feel better :)

Miguel

INFP

Virgo

Do the things that you like the most! Maybe things you couldn't do as much because your ex didn't like. If it is your time to be sad then there is no escaping that, and is normal to go through that period but I do hope you can heal soon :( stay strong!

Bryan

ENFP

Scorpio

I've actually written a few things about this subject. How you handle a breakup will reflect on you, your past experiences and the level of interest you had in the relationship. I would say take your time and grieve. You might get to a point where you're tired of crying but it's best to let it go. Then make plans for yourself to do the things you like, that don't revolve around the idea of being in a relationship with another person. Finding happiness in your own activities will go you immensely.

Walter

INTJ

Scorpio

You don't know how strong you are until you walk alone. Many go back to the past but the strongest surviving alone. Try to look beyond the pain n trust me soon you or later you don't need them to give u strength.

Monica

ESFJ

Aries

🍫 lifetime movies and wine 🍷

Ethan

ENTP

Leo

Drink the sorrow away till you come to terms with the pain

Anshi

ESFJ

Libra

If it were to belong it must've been there, leave it

Cesar

INFJ

Aries

I was in the same position earlier this year. Best thing is to allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. Processing things is part of the healing process. It also helps to just work on making yourself happy. At the end of the day, you need to be there for you. Explore your hobbies or try things you've never done but always wanted to! Life is whatever you make of it c: Best wishes ^_^

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