5/30/2023

INFP

Capricorn

8
7

How did you make up your mind on whether you want kids or not?

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2y

ISFJ

Libra

6
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Tbh I go back and forth ๐Ÿคฃ my answer would've been a solid yes a few years ago, but after learning more about child development, Hearing stories, and working with families, it makes you view it in a bit of a different light. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, but life definitely changes. YOU'LL NEVER SLEEP PEACEFULLY AGAIN

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INTJ

Cancer

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This awaits you if you do decide to have children

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ESFJ

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1. Ask self, "Do I want kids?" 2. Select one of the following options: โœ”๏ธ Yes โœ–๏ธ No 3. Accept or alter response at will.

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ENFJ

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By considering all facts. According to the way your life goes you can take one decision. It's better to have kids because when we get older our kids will be there for us.

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ENTP

Leo

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I don't think I'm suited to be a mother and I never wished to be one. Also the responsibility of a fragile human scares me completely

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INFJ

Libra

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I'm still undecided ๐Ÿค”

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2y

ENFP

Virgo

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Such a good question. Still deciding. I know I want to adopt at least one kid later on. Having them biologically, thatโ€™s a whole other ball game.

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2y

ISFP

Aries

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It all depends on how you feel about children as a person who is going into early childhood education I really enjoy children and would not mind having my own

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ISTP

Pisces

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I know that it is expensive to have children and for that reason I wouldn't like to have kids at the moment but I would like to have kids some day when I am financially stable and in a better position in my life

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2y

ISTJ

Cancer

I had never wanted kids; only lots of practice making them... But, about two years after birth control failed... when OUT OF THE BLUE, my son said "I love you Daddy." That moment changed my mind from resenting the BC company to suddenly finding myself happy to be a father. His Mom cheated on me and left me, we were given split custody, and I am STILL his favorite... He'll be 11 in August... ๐Ÿฅฐ

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INFJ

Libra

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I see how hard it is for some parents to take care of them so that was one of my factors of not having kids

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2y

INTJ

Libra

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๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™™๐™ž๐™™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™ช๐™ฅ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ ๐™ž๐™™๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ? I never wanted kids, because: โ‘  Genetic issues -- My oldest sibling was born with half a heart and only lasted a week before my parents pulled the plug. I also had TWO cousins born same year as sibling who died, so I got paranoid. Furthermore, I have anemia & sickle-cell trait. Plus, blood pressure issues are common in family...so worried if I had a kid. โ‘ก Nomad -- I'm nomadic at heart, and travel a lot, I didn't want to drag the poor kid around with me like that. โ‘ข Career -- I used to be more career-oriented than family-oriented... โ‘ฃ Natural Loner -- I'm a turbo introvert (not shy) and require a LOT of alone time after being social. I mean, I'll still go out, but by myself (ex. If I want to go bowling, I'll go by myself. If I want to watch a movie, I'll go watch it...) I just don't want to be obligated to host or entertain the other person the entire time... I get tired of being people's dancing monkey. I need to rest. โ‘ค Dysfunctional Family -- I come from a dysfunctional family...and dont really have relatives for son to call "grandparents" or "uncles" or anything else. I was physically & verbally abused growing up... I'm cool.with one sibling though. I also did not want to continue the cycle of abuse... With that in mind, as I've mentioned... Never wanted kids, ex got me pregnant (on purpose, he told me he "knew" he did but didn't say anything until after I took the pregnancy test, I won't get into the TMI of that, but basically I was blackout drunk during that time and he did what he wanted...Another reason why I rarely ever drink) and I thought he was my soulmate so I (stupidly) didn't care at the time. My ex and I were together for 3yrs, had our own place, car, and child together and we were going to buy a house next but...he had a drinking problem, got physically, verbally, & financially abusive. I paid all the bills, he just drank and played games most of the day...and stole my debit card & car to support his vice. Yeah... Do I want more kids now since I already have one? Not really. I'll adopt if someone is a single parent too, but other than that, I'm good off having one... I can't even think about it right now. If it happens, it happens I guess...

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ISFJ

Aries

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As someone who has kids itโ€™s never a good time to have kids. Your finances can change quickly one minute you could be in a steady job and then bam you loose it ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ Iโ€™m not saying have kids if you cant afford them Iโ€™m just saying lots of reason for you to not have kids but if you really want them I would say go for it. Kids are hard work and itโ€™s not a decision you make lightly. But so much joy can come from it. But the world we live in currently is kind of scary to bring kids into.

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2y

ENFP

Taurus

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Easy, I'm selfish with my time & don't think I'd be a good father, so until I change i couldn't put someone through that

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INTP

Gemini

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Pregnancy repulses me and I just never felt a fondness for kids

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INTJ

Gemini

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I had a moment of epiphany. Imagine this: It was a bright afternoon; I was peacefully sipping my coffee and muching on my precious donut -- just minding my business. Then suddenly, out of nowhere, a kid appeared and snatched my donuts! Stunned. Unable to grasp the situation. He ran and stopped midway, then turned around to me and gave a smirk. I gave him a dead stare, one that pierced into his soul.. Ah, my last donut which I had been saving all afternoon, slowly dropped (i almost cursed gravity for this) into the mud where he was standing. My poor donut. ๐Ÿ˜ข And then, he unleashed an impressive tantrum. ๐Ÿ™„ย  To make the situation worst, my younger sibling that time suddenly woke up and started crying. Ha-ha. It's a symphony of chaos and tears. In that very moment, I heard a divine voice saying, "Stick to being the fun aunt, my child. And you will live longer." The universe spoke and I listened. And just like that, my path was set. ๐Ÿ˜Œ (edited)

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INTP

Libra

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The amount of people who dont want kids ๐Ÿฅด It is really frightening ๐Ÿ˜ตโ€๐Ÿ’ซ

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2y

INTJ

Capricorn

Look after other people's kids

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2y

INTJ

Scorpio

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My mind was made up from as early as I can remember. For some, it's their whole life. For others, it's part of the journey. For me and others alike, it's not on the agenda, nor do I or (I believe), will I, feel like I've lost out because I made a different decision for myself. We should all be allowed that choice..... THIS, shall be my chaos instead ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿ•๐Ÿฉ๐ŸšŒ

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INFP

Taurus

1
2

I just love kids,I was born,someone took the risks of having me,why not have kids really,I am looking forward to meet a man who wants kids.No matter what it takes children are a gift from God.I can't imagine shutting down my generation just like that ,that's the end of me when I go to grave yard.No no no ,kids are my world,my daughter brightens my day and am looking forward to mingke with a man who wants babies.Hope am not stupid

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2y

INFJ

Sagittarius

I wanted a wife and kids since I was about 16...always wanted the "American dream" white picket fence, couple of kids and dogs, a nice calm life...now I'm divorced and fighting for my kids because my ex was emotionally abusive to me

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INTJ

Cancer

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Saw them in action..

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ENFJ

Taurus

8
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I knew since I was a little girl myself that all I wanted was to someday be a mommy. It was never a question for me.

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2y

INTP

Aquarius

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7

World is already messed up and it's horrible out here so don't wanna bring another soul to make them suffer

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INTJ

Aquarius

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out responsibility. Children are a source of much interest and joy in a home. it's a big mystery how my wife and child will be next time. The child is the continuation of the lineage of the husband and wife. Etc (edited)

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2y

INTJ

6
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I never wanted them so it was a very easy decision

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2y

INFJ

Cancer

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After seeing how people went through the whole stage of pregnancy, giving birth and after birth. I decided not to have a child anymore.

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INFJ

Capricorn

I donโ€™t believe in being ready for anything really. You can prepare, read books, hear stories of other peopleโ€™s experiences but when it really comes down to it. You never know whatโ€™s going to happen, what life is going to throw at you. Itโ€™s just something you have to think and see if thatโ€™s what you want in your future. Do you want to come home to kids that you once carried, and learn a love you never imagined. And also go through pain and stress you never thought you could feel. To each itโ€™s own love, and whatever you decide is ok, donโ€™t ever feel pressured or persuaded other wise. Best wishes to you! ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ (edited)

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2y

ISFJ

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That is always a tough topic and to understand the kids are a blessing for the parents.

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INTP

Libra

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I don't want kids. I honestly had this realization very early in life about 10 years old. Watching my mother struggle and fight to provide for her 4 kids at a young age herself. I seen how much it affected her, where she even was willing to committ suicide. Seeing most of her very being slowly lose her energy and will power from juggling 2 jobs sometimes 3 along with side hustles and being abandoned by her family at the age of 16. And I don't have patience with kids and I don't see myself ever developing that skill for kids.

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2y

INFP

Sagittarius

4
5

I decided very early in my Life that I never wanted kids.....i was 13/14, i think. It never changed.

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2y

INFP

Gemini

No. I am an anti natalist. I will not put my child through the suffering I went through growing up

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ENFP

Virgo

8
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I have a slew of medical problems. I never want to pass on to my own child. Plus, their are so many children looking for a home in foster care. I know that they might come with their own medical problems heck, they might not even like me at first. But later on they'll at least have a safe place to land and know that they'll be loved and treated with kindness at my home. Instead of wherever life might have tossed them.

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2y

INFJ

Taurus

If you want make them, if your partner does not , find enother partner.

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INFJ

Cancer

6
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I kind of haven't anymore, i used to be dead set on having kids a little too much because of my not so kosher relationship with my own father, the truth is i let it go because too much time is spent planning for something that's not my decision alone and not enough time spent appreciating the things that are right in front of me, so i take it one day at a time enjoying each one so that if the day ever comes that it is time to step up and become a father i will have faith in knowing that i won't bring any forms of resentment into the picture when it comes to raising my children and they will get nothing but the best from me, because that's what kids should get, the very best versions of their mothers and fathers

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2y

ENFP

Virgo

7
8

The biology of conception and childbirth is horrible and entirely one-sided and also no matter how eco-conscious you are there's no bigger carbon footprint than a new human being. Adoption is the way

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